Why are men more desperate for women than vice versa?

[aliali8]

It seems like men are more desperate for women than the other way around. It’s always men being proactive in trying to get dates , approaching , going to bars to get laid. Men would Be willing to date Absolutely anyone that looks reasonably acceptable.

meanwhile women just sit back and be much more selective and smart about the partners they pick.

Most men just try to get anything that they can manage to find

[blank_expression]

Let’s just say I am not desperate enough to invest the energy for a bunch of the typical bullshit. Most of my sex has been from women that pursue me—pushy horny critters some of which desperately sought baking a loaf in the oven. It really is the best but only live with them for a week max. I had one of these women tell me that she only had sex with me because she hated my guts; sht all of them do actually. If I actually do accidentally stumble on a feminine woman (haha), I will conjure the energy, as it occurred very rarely. The basic problem I have now is immediately when a modern woman opens her mouth I am actually looking for an exit sign before she finishes a sentence—I can’t take any of them serious anymore beyond hello. The best thing I suggest for these modern women are to just push a guy over, f-him and never say a damn thing about anything. Just keep the garbage in your heads in there. This actually happened to me once and I appreciated her practicing mute. Why are men more desperate than women…? Show me a woman I say. I have yet to find any domestic. They have been conditioned to men-brains and that generates hate for men because men are now seen as competition. I don’t believe that any of you male-brains with ovaries have any concept of the hate that spews from you. You can see it as a hate cloud in special long wave light. A funny story at a club was I with a group of guys at a table looked at about 20 women dancing alone. Now any sane male knows that if he tries to break into that, they shall attack. I used to crash women’s tables and they would scream like hell at me but one would usually take interest. But back to the dancing harpies, I bet these guys that I would pickup and f the ugliest woman in the place. Looked around, that wasn’t hard to find, went over to her table talked to her under 5min and we were headed to the door to her place where, it was difficult, but we f ed. She was happy; I was nauseous. So these guys later told me that “you should have seen the evil looks on you (me) from all these dancing women as we (me and beautiful) were heading out.” You women are just f-ed in the head. Why put on such an attention game fortified by a shield of attention dopamine and then be pissed when a guy is obviously going to get laid by a -10. I am just busting a gut here remembering this stupid sht. Anyways, I find this question humorous and couldn’t help but sht on it. I could go on and on with this stupid crap.

“meanwhile women just sit back and be much more selective and smart about the partners they pick.” Enjoy that while I do the easy ones.

[msc545]

Testosterone creates far more urgency than estrogen.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Come get me sugar

[msc545]

@Babygirlsweetheart1 Threaten me with a good time.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

How does 10 kids sound? Cause i am not a toy. I am a woman to be cherished.

[pretyyygirl]

Men are chasers, they're supposed to be the ones to pursue the woman not the other way around. If we do the chasing then we're more open to rejection and play the masculine one then leaving the man to be feminine, we can handle rejection but men were built for it- they take it easier. At leat this is what I heard I don't know if it's 100% true which most likely it isn't.

[Ankitaa334]

Because everyone know they want to have sex desparately and women aren't soo desparate compared to them

[ArztSchlachthof]

Because women are generally pretty and "tender" or "soft", what is attractive all by itself without having any other traits. Men, on the other hand, don't get many compliments about them being attractive, meaning both being handsome or having attractive traits.

Another fact - girls don't approach guys. They stare at us instead and we don't know what else to do than to approach them. If you don't do that, she doesn't come. Never. Even if she likes you or wants to get to know you. If women were less shy and more direct, it would certainly balance out this "desperation" and "neediness". That just my opinion, though.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes and no.

guys do have to put some effort in.

however it’s really common where I live for girls to approach guys, flirt with them or simply ask them out, I guess it’s a sign of confident girls.

the selectivity works both ways as everyone values certain things over other bits.

There is then the entire subjective jungle of what is acceptable.

people look for different things it’s not just looks, it’s values, it’s personality etc.

[aliali8]

I don’t think there is any place where women approaching men is more common

[ChrisMaster69]

You ain’t been out for a night in Newcastle lol.

Even Liverpool, Glasgow etc.

[aliali8]

It probably happens but not as much as men approaching women

[ChrisMaster69]

Well yeah numbers show that

But it’s common here as confident women I guess

[ananias55]

Because all women have guys chasing them. If you're average or even below average looking you're going to draw attention.
Most guys don't have anyone chasing them, they lack affection and it becomes something they crave.
In truth, most guys are so lonely for any level of affection that a simple compliment is enough to win their hearts over.

[aliali8]

I have been below average looking , trust me. I was never ever hit on

[Anonymous]

Its simple economics. Women own vaginas and because, despite the fact they are 52% of their popular delusions of entitlement have led them to create an artificial shortage. I just bought a house. Because of a shortage of inventory it was a sellers' market and I had to get into bidding wars to buy. Its the same thing with vagina.

[Anonymous]

Answered your own question, women are much more selective. I also believe guys have a higher sex drive. And it's much easier to turn us on than women. All we need sometimes is a visual, which we see daily. Women usually need a lot more than that to even start to be aroused.

[Opinion Owner]

Women also have the fear of "appearing desperate", which is ridiculous, but guys don't care.

[Asad1ONE1]

You're just a troll b**ch who is actually very desperate for men because no guy has ever approached you.

Everyone knows being desperate for the opposite sex isn't gender specific. Many women just lie because they are very desperate (probably even more than men)

[CreamySeed]

this is in the animal kingdom the males are more beautiful and have to try harder, birds especially. The females all have to be wooed and dont need a georgous plumage the longest horns or the biggest claw to get fucked. Humans are just like animals when you zoom out

[ohshee]

According to the questions on here I think you're absolutely right for me I'm very picky if she is not the person for me then she's not the person for me I will take my time and find what I want

[aliali8]

Eventually most people end up settling at a certain age. Folks who never settle tend to remain single and childless until old age

[ohshee]

Yes I definitely agree with you there for me I just know what I want and what I need make me happy and in return make her happy

[oldawg]

It's not really desperate all they're trying to do is get laid it's like the old saying
Men give romance to get Sex
Women give sex to get Romance

[aliali8]

Men are more desperate when it comes to Both romance and sex. it’s always men asking women out

[oldawg]

aliali8
As to your comment it’s always men asking women out: well my answer to that is if men waited for women to ask youthem out we would die of old age first lol a lot of the girls even though they have come a long ways a lot of them are still behind the times. Just saying

[NibirX]

Hook up minded men can't do anything significant in life. but it's a trend and also is done for instant pleasure.

In long term relationship
evolutionarily saying it's for DNA...
Survival for the fittest... showing his mate that his sperms are strong enough to survive ...

[taboomaster]

Women date who they want.
Men date whi they can.

Women marry who they can.
Men marry who they want.

[aliali8]

i agree with your second paragraph, not the first

[taboomaster]

Both true

[aliali8]

Your first one is not true. Frequently women do not ask out men, so they never really get the guys they truly want.

[TallAnon]

A man can ejaculate about 50.000 times in a lifetime. A woman can only bear about 5-10 children. We biologically feel the need to reproduce 5000-10000 times more. (Doesn't work exactly like that, but should give you a good idea)

[zagor]

That is true of most species that are similar to humans. Males compete for females.

[FunkyMonkee]

Because women won't give it up as much as we want it! women also have a plethora of toys to pick from that are very cheap to buy. Men only have a couple choices and they usually cost at least $100 @!!

[Truthatanycost]

Correction. Simps are the desperate ones, men are not.

[genericname85]

they're equally desparate. just desparate for different things.

[aliali8]

You never see women approaching men

[genericname85]

so? is "approaching" a sign of "desparation"? if so, how would any man would ever meet any woman ever?

[aliali8]

Well the more desperate party will do the approaching. Why is that so hard to understand? Nobody likes to approach the opposite gender. There is too much at risk

[genericname85]

I disagree with that. It's not desparation if you go to get what you want. Yes an approach can be desperate but it isn't by default.

[aliali8]

men have a stronger need for women than vice versa.

[genericname85]

no that's wrong. men and women have equally strong needs for each other. and "waning" each other or "approaching" each other isn't desparate at all.

[genericname85]

what men want in women is just a bit different than what women want in men and the ways in which they go about their desires are different. though both men and women are equally intersted in having a good partner.

[aliali8]

so why are only men approaching women , if men don't need women more?
If women needed men more then women would be approaching men.

[genericname85]

simply cultural tradition. nothing more.

and even if you were right and men actually wanted women more. that still wouldn't make men that approach women desparate by default.

[genericname85]

let me make an easy to understand analogy:

a person who's lost in the desert for days without water, close to die of thirst maybe described as "desparate" for water.

a person who sits in a restaurant, ordering a water isn't desparate. they just want a water.

see what i'm trying to say?

dating someone is how you get a partner. so doing what needs to be done to have a partner isn't desparate.

[aliali8]

Do you realize approaching someone is something that NOBODY likes to do?
Its not as if you're thirsty and you're ordering a glass of water. Its not that easy.

You would have want women very much to an extreme extent to do something as hard as approaching at asking out a complete stranger.

The fact that 95% of approaching is done by men, it shows that men are clearly the gender that is more "IN NEED" of women.

[genericname85]

how does any of what you said define the act of men asking women out as "desparate"? i guess your definition of desparation is what this entgire conversation is piveting around.

[genericname85]

like a desparate person would not ask a woman out. cause "desparation" means they have no hope. why would they ask a woman out if they have no hope?

[aliali8]

desperate means that you will do whatever it takes no matter how hard it is to get what you want.

Ordering a glass of water because you're thirsty doesn't mean you're desperate for water. Paying $1000 for a cup of water is desperate.

[genericname85]

ok. then by your definition, asking a girl out on a date is not desparate. cause she can say no. and if she says no, we go on with our lifes.

if we were hellbent on dating that girl that already said no, "that" is the point where it turns desparate.

[aliali8]

nobody wants to approach the opposite gender. nobody likes rejection. if you see an overwhelming number of a certain gender doing such a difficult task, this is plain evidence that men need women more than vice versa.

You know rejection sucks. don't pretend you don't understand

[aliali8]

Men are more desperate for the opposite gender because they run on testosterone. Testosterone is main driver for desire of the opposite gender.

[genericname85]

Ok now you're tjust turning around in circles with your bullshit definition of desparation. I'm out.

[aliali8]

the answer is testosterone, dude. just because you don't like to admit it, it doesn't mean its not real.

[RingOfFire]

Simple. They are hornier. A girl can get sex whenever she wants it. Guys have to work for it.

[Anonymous]

Biology + Evolution.

There's nothing good or bad about it. It's just what it is.

[Anonymous]

I don't know
I find most men gross
The way they hit on girls on Howdoilook and crave for sex

[Anonymous]

Because you have a bunch of choices to pick from while we don't. I'd much rather have 10,000 messages in my inbox than have every message I send get no response back.

[Babewithplan]

Hahah! Aww

[Opinion Owner]

@Babewithplan well, its true.

[Babewithplan]

I’m sure the right one will respond

[Opinion Owner]

@Babewithplan yeah I'm sick of hearing that. If the right one was going to respond it would've happened already. I've been using dating apps for 5 years with no success. How long do I gotta wait 20 years? I'm just wasting my own time.

[aliali8]

if you're using dating apps for 5 years with no success, then that probably means you're ugly

[Opinion Owner]

Or maybe most women just have really high standards? Because I look like a regular freaking guy.

[Babewithplan]

It’s gotta be the energy you’re putting out there. Women can really smell that shit even from behind the screen and in a different continent. You’re giving off “desperate” vibes and it’s making you unattractive (despite how you look).

Try changing your perspective on dating

[aliali8]

trust me, i am very experienced on dating apps. If no girls want to meet up with you, then it most likely means you're ugly.

[Babewithplan]

@aliali8 Why so toxic?

[aliali8]

@Babewithplan its a cruel world , hun. just in case you didn't know.

[Babewithplan]

@aliali8 Sweetie there’s no need to rub salt on someone’s wound.

[Opinion Owner]

@Babewithplan what does being desperate even look like? I don't think I'm doing anything to look desperate. I just read their profile and send messages based on what I read. Sounds normal to me

[Opinion Owner]

@aliali8 oh let me guess you're one of those hot girls who gets any guy she wants right? Bet it feels nice

[Babewithplan]

I didn’t say you look desperate. I said you out out desperate energy. People can sense that, clearly.

No, it’s me who’s the hot girl that gets any guy I want. She sounds as though she’s been hurt, so taking it out in others on GAG.

[Babewithplan]

On**

[Babewithplan]

Put* typos.

[Opinion Owner]

@Babewithplan I'm not really sure what desperate energy looks like either. Are you saying that maybe I'm too anxious? I don't think I'm doing anything that shows desperation besides maybe complaining about my failures on GaG.

Oh are you? I still envy you. Minus the creeps you may have to go through. I don't know why she would take it out on me if we're both in the same boat.

[Babewithplan]

You both sound bitter about the situation LOL

Pm me and I’ll tell you exactly what to do to fix your situation.

[Opinion Owner]

@Babewithplan I can't. You only allow follows to pm you.

[Babewithplan]

Mate, you’re anonymous

[Opinion Owner]

@Babewithplan I just followed you.

[Babewithplan]

Messaged

[rebeliouse]

to spread out seed have u never watched a nature program we want to procriate with as many diff as poss

[Anonymous]

Because women were made FOR men. Man was made first and GOD made him to desire women and so he made women.

[In_Trance]

That's not always the case. There's not shortage of thirsty girls

[Anonymous]

Because sex is far riskier for woman. In nature, if a woman gets pregnant and the man doesn’t stick around, she and her baby die

[Anonymous]

I never really liked how it has to be this way either but sadly it'll probably always be this way

[Anonymous]

That is not totally true, but mainly I think it is how men are made and with their predatory instinct.

[Lynx122]

Are you really that dense?

[aliali8]

I think you’re dense

[MzAsh]

That’s just human nature.

[KrakenAttackin]

This is true until about age 40.

[aliali8]

Statistics actually proves you wrong. According to pew research, Older women tend to stop dating as they enter their 40s-50. While older men 40-50s are still actively seeking.

[aliali8]

Men are far more likely than women to be on the dating market: 61% of single men say they are currently looking for a relationship or dates, compared with 38% of single women. ... A majority of older women (71%) say they aren't looking to date right now, compared with 42% of men 40 and older.

www.pewresearch.org/.../

[KrakenAttackin]

Men are looking for sex not what women would call a "relationship".

[aliali8]

Men are so desperate they would date absolutely anyone. Reality is, men aren’t picky. They will take absolutely anything they can get. 45 yr old men can’t get a 25 yr old. So they will have to settle for a 40 yr old woman

[KrakenAttackin]

@aliali8. For sex, sure. Why not?

[aliali8]

Not necessarily only for sex.

[aliali8]

There is a saying in Chinese :

“Men need women to survive but women do not need men”

[KrakenAttackin]

@aliali8. Laughable, absolutely laughable. Men make the world work. Women just ride along.

[aliali8]

Without women, men wouldn't exist. Who is doing all the child rearing? who is goin through the torment of childbirth?

[KrakenAttackin]

Yes, women bear children... Men do pretty much everything else.

[aliali8]

its women who rear children and also work jobs to support families. Housewives are non existent nowadays.

[KrakenAttackin]

@aliali8. Not true at all, there are plenty of women who actually give a shit about their children and stay at home with them.

Also, your pew research is a bunch of shit. After age 27btje demographics begin to turn against women. Once over 40 there are significantly more females than males. How the poll is conducted elicits poor results, especially when women can't even be honest with themselves let alone a pollster.

[aliali8]

@KrakenAttackin This research is all based on facts, numbers and statistics, not what some woman hating misogynist has to say.

[KrakenAttackin]

The same pew research called "Hillary by 12 points". Polling had become very political.

[aliali8]

I think your hatred for women destroy any of your credibility.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

You don't know how men's hormones work do you?

[aliali8]

if mens hormones worked so well, then why do you look like a shemale?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Because looks can be deceiving and also i'm growing my hair. It's also a fact that a single testicle can produce enough. If you know so much then how come you're under estimating it?

[aliali8]

because you look like a shemale

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Like what i said looks can be deceiving. I guess according to, hormones is only limited to appearance. Is that your argument, i can easily say you sound like a moron

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Also i'm not surprised you would say that because that's what most Asian guys with long hair look like. If you're being honest then so am i

[Iron_Man]

True It’s probably the testosterone talking

[dileep85]

Mostly it could be psychological thing of male

[anylolone]

Because men are human doings.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Do me bay-be !

[anylolone]

@Babygirlsweetheart1 lol! That was funny!
You get a cookie for the good joke.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

*devours* TY

[JesseJayNeak]

That's true until women get older

[aliali8]

Statistics actually proves you wrong. According to pew research, Older women tend to stop dating as they enter their 40s-50. While older men 40-50s are still actively seeking.

[JesseJayNeak]

That's not completely true

[aliali8]

www.pewresearch.org/.../

[JesseJayNeak]

And that doesn't disprove my earlier statement

[aliali8]

Men are far more likely than women to be on the dating market: 61% of single men say they are currently looking for a relationship or dates, compared with 38% of single women. ... A majority of older women (71%) say they aren't looking to date right now, compared with 42% of men 40 and older.

[JesseJayNeak]

Again, that doesn't disprove what I said earlier

[aliali8]

I’m not attracted to guys over 40 either. Just being honest

[JesseJayNeak]

tse1.mm.bing.net/th

[aliali8]

Maybe that’s why women are not open to dating in their 40-50s. Cus older men aren’t attractive

[JesseJayNeak]

Neither are women of that age so

[aliali8]

Men are so desperate they would date absolutely anyone. Reality is, men aren’t picky. They will take absolutely anything they can get. 45 yr old men can’t get a 25 yr old. So they will have to settle for a 40 yr old woman

[JesseJayNeak]

In this day and age? Quite unlikely

[aliali8]

I don’t think women ever found white hairs and wrinkles on men to be attractive. Sorry dude but men have a prime too

[aliali8]

If you don’t find white hair wrinkles and sagginess to be attractive on women, what makes you think women find that attractive on men?

[JesseJayNeak]

I know that. It's the same thing the other way around

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Ahem. I find older men attractive.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Maturity in certain manifeststions is sexy.

[aliali8]

@Babygirlsweetheart1 there’s always gonna be younger men who find Much older women attractive too. But these are the minority

[aliali8]

@Babygirlsweetheart1 it’s kinda like how some men find fat women attractive. But these types are uncommon.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

I doubt it. Older men are way more attractive than younger men because of maturity. I want to be taken care of. As does any woman in her right mind. I look for a daddy figure.

[aliali8]

@Babygirlsweetheart1

biologically women are Most attracted to men who show signs of youth , strength and good reproductive health. The Strongest Males who can protect their mates and offspring are males in their 20-30s. The males with the best quality sperm are also in their 20-30s. Same explanation of why women prefer taller men. Because tall men can protect her better than shelter men.
Overwhelming majority of women like their men : tall young strong and fast.

There are always evolutionary reasons that explain why we are attracted to certain things but not others

Most people are not attracted to fat folks because evolutionarily , fat folks do not produce as healthy offspring as thinner people in better health

[aliali8]

Typo: Because tall men can protect her better than shorter*** men.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Evolution is a theory and is not real. But anyway I look for a leader spiritually emotionally etc. Not just phsyical beauty. Physical beauty is meaningless. Young is not forever. I do not want to marryba young guy and then when we hit age 40 i leave him for a young guy thats stupid. We are not dumb animals. We are humans. I value a lot more in a man than animalistic physical traits.

[aliali8]

@Babygirlsweetheart1 most women also aren’t looking to date a father figure. Most women are looking for someone who is mature but yet also not too mature. As being too mature impedes her ability to relate to him. This is explains why statistically, in most relationships , the man is usually just a few years older than the woman.

[aliali8]

@Babygirlsweetheart1 scientists have proven evolution to be a valid science. Just because you don’t like evolution, it doesn’t mean it’s false

[moviedude714]

Why do older women as you say,. Stop dating as they get older?

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

@moviedude714 men are desperate and thirsty faghots

[moviedude714]

@Babygirlsweetheart1 so the reason why the older women stop dating is because men stop pursuing them?

[aliali8]

@moviedude714

Men are far more likely than women to be on the dating market: 61% of single men say they are currently looking for a relationship or dates, compared with 38% of single women. ... A majority of older women (71%) say they aren't looking to date right now, compared with 42% of men 40 and older

www.pewresearch.org/.../

Reality is, men are so desperate for women that they will date absolutely anyone they can get.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

@moviedude714 my comment was a nonsense joke lol...

[Tstrbrainer]

Most of the time, it's for sex

[shydude1991]

Women have it easier, way easier

[Anonymous]

yes, a date and sex is all a man needs...

[Anonymous]

Society promotes this dynamic.