Do men want women more than vice versa or is it equal?

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OfMiceandMen · Accepted Answer

It is my experience (and it looks as though it may go against the grain) that women often want men more.

I base this on conversations:

Often guys, especially at an early age high school, college, university etc. predominantly talk about dirt/motor bikes, sport cars, etc., and really don't pay much attention to girls. They seem more focused on obtaining possessions, and make the occasional remark about a girl they like.

Whereas, girls at a young age typically make an effort to look good, smell good, etc. to get a guys attention and notice them over other girls. I was with my friends who were girls in university (six total) and a good majority of the conversations were about guys, other than school related stuff. Therefore, it seemed as though they put much more emphasis on attracting a man, than a man does a woman.

So I base my opinion on my experience spending time with both groups and hearing the conversations between the sexes. Maybe it was just special circumstances and not really representative of what is typical?

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

It depends.

Men want WOMEN more. They see lots of women they find attractive and are usually in a constant state of desiring many, many women they see.

Women usually aren't like that.

Women usually want that man or a few men she has her sights on or who stirs her feelings. The guy she has passion for, some guy that intrigues her, who can flirt and say things to get her thinking and dreaming of him all the time.

In these instances the "want" is probably the same.

Women just don't want men in mass like a lot of man have it.

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

Equal. With questions like these, you'll never get an accurate answer because it really depends on age, health status, where they are in life (what goals they wanna accomplish- marriage and family or single and perpetual bachelorhood, etc.), it isn't based on gender really.

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

Men want women more which is why men go to greater extents to get women attention

Guy13 · Answer

We want them too.

ManOnFire · Answer

Women want men as strongly as men want them, but women pretend they don't desire men as much. It goes back to it being about having control. Women would rather be seen as the creatures who are extremely desired, more than being the ones to show having strong desire for men too. In women's minds being in demand is more powerful or special than being the ones demanding. Again, this ties into their need for control and trying to have a power dynamic.

So they often pretend that wanting or having a man is not that important.

PraviteliNahuiValite · Answer

I see the silly comments that "men go to greater extents to get women's attention". Never did I 'accidentally' twerk in front of a coworker, or change the talk with male friends to about relationship drama, each time I see someone come close enough to hear. Men don't do these attention-grabbing things. Others here wrote "men are more bothered by being single" which even published science says otherwise.

It's equal in sum.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Hard to say... I know we dudes just really want some sex, females though... tend to be attention oriented. If that makes sense. They desire a relationship because of the day-to-day attention doted upon them, whereas I think most of us dudes just want a relationship so we have pussy on tap.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Men desire women more but that’s only because women get more support and acceptable and companionship so they don’t need to seek out companionship to not be lonely. Men line up for their change at a good woman. Look at dating apps which are 60%+ men. And of the women on these apps their super picky and some are just after the affirmation that their desirable.

Men desire women but women seem to desire attention.

Anonymous · Answer

Modern Feminism today teaches women males are pigs, men are scum, marriage is pointless, having kids it’s considered a life sentence to jail. Women and girls today only seem to care about a guys attention if it brings them money (ie: having an OnlyFans). Many girls on here will say, “I don’t need a guy in my life, I love myself and I’m career focused”. Social media is toxic because it validates a woman’s emotions like a drug, but I’ve seen plenty of attractive women cry that despite a lot of money and having friends and a large social media following they still cry at night about things such as “somethings missing”. Yeah I’m a traditional guy, I want to find someone and commit acts of chivalry, allow her to do her own thing in life and have a good healthy relationship by doing something that seems like it’s in the past now, called dating to lead to something bigger down the road.

Dargil · Answer

My unsupported, unscientific opinion is that men are were  Created  to be addicted to sex once puberty lands. It is a matter of reproductive strategy. Out in the real world where women have nor been brainwashed by social culture, the media, entertainment and academics, that thirst is far less strong. The whirlwind of modern sexuality for young women today is a cultural aberration. It only began to exist, except in pockets like Rome, in the last 50-75 years.

milkov · Answer

Men want women more. I personally experienced this. I always try to break up with my boyfriend but he never did even once and he always tried to stop me from leaving which I cannot do..

melanieeeB · Answer

Men want women more, I have also seen more men who had a problem with being single than women... a lot of people are single, but men kinda seem to be more bothered by it

SteveZissu · Answer

It's not about who likes more whom (both actually like the other equally), but who SEEMS to like more whom. And my conclusion is that men seem to like women more BEFORE entering in a relationship, however, ONCE IN A RELATIONSHIP, women seem to be more into men than viceversa.

Jay3344 · Answer

I think of you equate want to testosterone, then yes technically men would want more. But in reality men and women are both sexes of a social species that wants to feel secure and often does in groups. Small groups are the nucleus and then large groups are the “tribe”. So when a man and women feel secure in their small group and large group they are much more comfortable because it means safety in the mammalian part of the brain.

ElizaPam · Answer

Women want men more and men want more women

HappyWoman34 · Answer

Men not only want women more. They need women more.

EmyyWolf · Answer

Men want women more. But as. Objects.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on many factors like age, job, and workload. Young, broke men crave women more because of more free time, as they get older and more responsible they learn more balance , and get busier with work. Desperation doesn't work well in the dating market.

inhua · Answer

men want women more but don't need women more women don't want men more but need men more

Anonymous · Answer

It’s pretty biblical that men have always wanted women while women need men. Look at Adam and Eve. Not that there isn’t nuance to the balance but it’s the bottom line.

Anemone978 · Answer

I think its equal everyone wants sex.. no? lol

Anonymous · Answer

Men want specific woman. They make it appear they are less picky but are not. They make it appear they are more desperate for sex but are not. Woman just hide these things better.

Varanus · Answer

Roughly equal on the whole, but the vast majority of interest from men is focused on young, pretty girls, so it feels really imbalanced.

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