The reason I’ve been thinking about this topic is that, I just posted a video from a party I was with my female friends, in that video I am chatting with three handsome men, funny thing was - one is white, I am standing in the middle, while they are talking to me and my female friends standing nearby. After seeing that video on my Story, noticeably more men messaged me than they usually do, also I got more followers than the average ampunt I get after I post pictures.
The video wasn’t suggestive or anything, it just showed me flirting subtly and the 3 guys standing around me and chatting with me. Why would that cause most of my male friends’ or strangers interest?
It made me think that men find women more desirable when they see, women are desirable to other men. Is that so?
One was White, one Asian and another one Black.
I believe it depends on how a woman goes about it. But if she plays her cards right, it can create an environment where men compete for her attention and want to win her.
I believe the key is to desired by many, yet still very selective, and to have class.
It can become a situation where not only is she seen as a prize, but the one who successfully woos her will also feel like a prize.
If let’s say a girl is attracting a lot of quality men, but then chooses one man in particular to single out to date, then that would make that man feel an additional sense of validation like, “She’s a prize. And the fact that she chose me over all these other quality guys makes me feel like a prize too.”
But, if cards aren’t played right, or this isn’t done right, this can backfire too.
If the guys that’s she’s attracting aren’t necessarily high quality, and it’s more quantity than quality, then the whole prize thing won’t apply. It just means she attracts thirsty men, which is easy to do. A slightly above average looking woman can post thirst traps and boom. Instant flooding of low quality male attention.
If a woman wants to be seen as a prize, she needs to keep her dignity, and her posts should still have a level of class. The opposite of that is being trashy. Being trashy will still attract low quality men, but will repel high quality men.
The other thing is flirtation. If a woman flirts too much with too many guys, this will just make her look easy. Not good. It’ll attract attention, but the wrong attention. It’ll attract men that just want to sleep with her.
Again with the class, right? If she keeps flirtation to a minimum and keeps it very subtle (I mean super subtle. Enough to make people second-guess whether it was flirting or not) then it can help continue to position her as a desirable prize.
Also, this way, when she gives special attention to her man of choice, it’ll make him feel special. Men don’t want to be one of many. They want to be the ONE.
Lastly, it’s important to never come off as going out of your way to get male attention. Don’t come off as attention-seeking or validation-seeking. Low quality men don’t mind this. But, high quality men will sense this as a lack of confidence or sign of insecurity.
If you attract male attention, it should look and feel natural, like you just innocently going about your day and you just seem to attract attention.
So, it’s a delicate dance of how you give your attention, how you present yourself, how you carry yourself, how you flirt, and how you handle and manage male attention.
Done wrong, and a woman will appear trashy and easy and won’t be taken seriously.
Done right, and a woman can appear as an alluring prize.
The three guys in the videos were quite high quality. That might be the reason I think. Those weren’t the thirsty guys at all. They were pretty cool ones, the ones most girls would like to spend an evening with.
That’s good. I can see how that can create some intrigue and spark some interest and/or competition among confident men.
Confident men… Yep. Because there’s this guy who’s a celebrity in my country and I’ve had him in my friends for a long time. Yet he messaged me for the first time only after he saw that post. I am not wearing anything revealing there, I am just being myself, chatting and smiling.
And that’s how it should be done. Naturally in your element and with class. 🥂
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