Are men more or less interested in a woman who is desired by other men?

[adamjanovic]

A lot of “relationship experts” and dating coaches say that while women are more attracted to a man if she knows that other women are interested in him, the opposite is the case for men. Is this true, are men really less attracted to a woman if he knows other men are interested in a woman, more attracted to her, or does it even matter?

More attracted to her

Less attracted to her

It makes no difference

[NathanDavis]

it didn't matter to me and it made no difference...

"more than half the university" was "interested" on my ex-girlfriend, just because she was that attractive, so... that's pretty normal, and that interest was very superficial, just based on looks so not so much of a real interest, and that's why it didn't matter and made no difference

and then there was a good bunch of people who would know her better, so they were on a different level of "interest" because well, she was not just attractive in looks but also in other ways, but that... make no difference to me, it makes sense to me, interesting people can be attractive

so, you would also have about a dozen maybe, guys who would be asking her out and interested on "pursuing" her which were guys who were closer so they got to know her even better and their interest was more genuine since they actually knew her better and all that, and still... it didn't matter to me and made no difference, why would I see that as a negative thing? it makes all sense lol, attractive people will attract more people... right?

since when... being all kinds of great is a "turn off" lmao...

[Blueeyes81]

Less interested most of the time. Generally (from my experience) a woman who has a lot of suitors is a people person who is adapt at making people feel special. Why I dislike this is that it makes it hard to distinguish if she likes me or is she like this with every guy. Desperate guys will feel special and thus think she's into them. Growing up these woman were wrongly labeled cock teases because every guy thought they had a chance and got shot down. So more suitors just leads me to believe she's a schmoozer and the interest I receive is not genuine.

[Blackcosmo]

Personally I wouldn't like for the guy I like to have other girls interested in him. It'll make me probably give up entirely.

[Nik1hil]

Hmm...
🙄

[Blackcosmo]

@Nik1hil Lol

[FreyaRed]

I think men don't care about that much, their strategy is anyways mass instead of class.

[Tokyofreeter]

A very desirable woman is usually not of great interest because the probability of being rejected is very high.
Since the competition would be strong, it's not worth putting a lot of effort into this to stand out from the crowd.

There are men who enjoy these courtship rituals a lot and they enjoy asserting themselves in front of other men, I personally see no point in it.

Men would probably give their shirt off for a woman's attention, but I'm definitely not that type of man.

[PeteBy]

Makes no difference to me. Men generally go for looks over personality. I look beyond that. However. It wouldn't put me off if other men were interested. I don't see them as a challenge or threat at all in a dating or everyday environment. It's up to the girl to decide at the end of the day.

[Lliam]

If other men weren't attracted to her it would mean that she was unattractive. I'm only interested in women who are attractive. So it follows that, if I think she is attractive, so will other men.

So it doesn't both me if men also find her attractive as long as she is loyal to me. It's actually kind of hot when guys are envious.

[God_of_Thunder]

If there's one or two other guys interested, then I'll still pursue the possibility of dating her.

If she's got a whole bunch of guys interested in her, then I don't even bother. Not necessarily because I think they're better than me, or that I have no chance; I just don't want the headache/stress of that much competition.

[JSmuve]

Men aren't less attracted to a women who is desired by other men. However, they're less likely to pursue her because 1) there's too much potential competition and 2) she's more likely to be promiscuous and cheat on him because of all her options.

[Beardedman1996]

Competition for me is not only a turn off it’s a reason to give up, my average as has to juggle 60 hour work weeks in two different restaurants, my social battery is at zero, if I gotta do all that on top of fighting just to keep you in my life, find someone better if you want and leave me sooner rather than later, I’ve been through enough

[Anonymous]

It makes no difference. If we're attracted to her, we're attracted to her.

SOME dudes might shy away from competition of a lot of guys are into a girl, but that's not because they are less interested in her. It's just that they think they don't have a chance so they don't try in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Other men have no bearing on it. Except if she is entertaining other men. More than one woman has found out the hard way if you try to pit me against another guy to compete for you. I'll just tell the other guy he can have you 🤣. I don't play that game. I'm either attracted to a woman or I'm not. Other guys have no bearing on it.

[Anonymous]

Whether or not a woman is desired by other men has no influence on my interest in her. All the other factors that make me interested in her are what are important to me... her personality, values, attitudes, physical attraction, her interest in me, etc.

I will also add that when a woman openly shares that there are other men who are interested in her, or otherwise plays those types of head games, it is a huge turnoff to me.

[Lionman95]

I would say I´m less attracted because that means more rivals while dating and being in a relationship. So I´m generally looking more for the women other guys would say "average".

[FilmGuy93]

Conceptually, it makes no difference, but I know that women who make a point of letting men know how much other men desire them are hugely insecure. Insecurity is a huge turn-off.

[ArtemisSilver]

It's a more pronounced effect for women to like pre selected men than vise versa.

A little competition is fine but I'm not into sloppy seconds or disloyalty.

[RationalMale]

I would agree. I think a girl getting a lot of male attention is going to be a negative for guys who would date her and want a relationship. Probably a plus for guys who just want to bang though.

[normalice]

I lose interest if I know there is going to be competition.

[Mangospacho]

It’s not just whether or not guys are attracted to her, it’s how she receives the attention. If she gives every guy who gives her attention right back, then it is very unattractive

[Shamalien]

I think in nature when a man tries to get a woman that has a lot of interest from other men, we end up getting in fights and possibly dying lol so better to find the diamond in the rough

[litty]

Less interested. One girl told me she had options, and I told her to go date one of them instead. Seemed that she just wanted me more.

[Suns_set]

So.. what does It mean when more than one guy constantly says that to a girl, asking for a friend..

[litty]

@Suns_set When guys say they have options? That means they are trying to make the girl jealous.

When a guy says she should date someone else? That means the guy has options and doesn't care if the girl doesn't choose him.

[Suns_set]

That explains a lot, thank you.

[d3n0939]

I think women like the guy who gets most attention, and guys like the girl who gets least attention

[Danny_dan92]

No, we don’t think like women do.


We don’t like a woman cause we see other men are, women do that type of shit

[FinalFantasyBro]

Not interested in competing to get a girl attention from other men so not attractive to me.

[RandomGuy1030]

Less interested. Because it means there's a lot more effort involved in getting her to like me. And then she has tons of options to hop to later. All this makes me less interested

[Rockstarrrrr]

Yeah both of them are so true for most men and women..

[BarryLiverstone]

Guys are more interested if she is desired by other men.

[RandomGuy1030]

Not at all. Theyre more interested in women who happen to be desired by many.

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s what I said, we agree

[RandomGuy1030]

But women who are more desired are less desirable. The competition is too tough

[BarryLiverstone]

We can be interested and not take action.

[RandomGuy1030]

I've got to be honest here im not going to even be interested.

[Guanfei]

It makes no difference to me. At the very least, I wouldn't try anything since I know I have no chance.

[desertsky33]

Competition can be tedious, especially in today’s dating climate where men have to put an extreme level of effort into finding a good partner as it is.

[AndrésC64]

Makes no difference. She's attractive or she's not.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t care about that I care about what I desire

[maximumpower]

They may want to take a second look to see if there's anything they've missed, but that's about it.

[Guardian45]

If I like a woman, and she likes me, then what guys like her is irrelevant.

[TheMiss]

It shouldn't matter either way. Not if you love that person. Look at who they are inside and then decide.

[Jltakk]

Not for me, I like the girl chillin on the side also being avoided in the party

[Avicenna]

Men in general are less interested.

[Billlewis]

Much more attracted.

[FlowerChild94]

Well isn’t that fucked up

[HighValue]

I don't think it makes a difference.

[ronaldo75]

Less interested.

[abinavzene022]

Lol It literally makes no difference

[MCheetah]

Way less interested.