Should I distance myself? Or end the friendship?

[Anonymous]

So I have this guy friend I met online about a year ago. Full discretion: there’s nothing between us, we live in different states and just gaming buddies. Anyway, he recently got a girlfriend, his first one ever so he’s trying not to screw it up, and I think that’s great. But it’s made any encounter with him just super awkward and strange. For starters, he tells her every time we are getting online, then she joins the party and starts talking about whatever. She doesn’t have the game we play, so she’ll play something else and like narrate all her moves, shouting and venting, meanwhile him and I can’t communicate well to get the missions done because his attention is torn. She’ll reminisce on meeting his family and just all sorts of random things. It’s even worse when she’s actually at his house because she demands his attention, even doing stuff like lick his face or nose. I’m just at the point where I feel sick of it. I’m no threat to her at all and yet she behave like I am and it’s annoying. So what should I do? I’ve considered talking to him about it but he’s so happy with her, I don’t want to do anything to make him feel like he has to choose.

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Thanks for your responses guys. I’ve decided that I’m going to distance myself, and if he asks to get online I’ll insist that other people need to be in the party, not just him and his girlfriend.

[JustinTimberlegs]

Tell him you don't get along with her, he should still have time with you. If he can't set boundaries with her then just distance yourself or end it. It's not healthy for him anyway so if he manages to set boundaries it's a win win. Since it's his first girlfriend he will probably be too infatuated and naive though.

People are weird. I've had my friends girlfriend do this to me too (me and friend both male). Not fun being the third wheel. Sucks to lose a friend though.

[Asker]

This is exactly how I feel dude. Sucks losing a friend, bc I feel like if I told him anything remotely negative (like that I don’t get along with her, she doesn’t like me or anything like that) he would get defensive, probably tell her about it and just make everything worse. Such a bummer but distancing myself would probably be best😩

[JustinTimberlegs]

Yeah I understand. It would be nice if he got a chance to fix things though. I hope things work out between you guys!

[In_Trance]

end it