Over-texted a guy. How do I fix it?

[GirlwithaQ]

So I’ve been chatting to this great guy. I was always in control, he texted way more than me and insisted on spending time together. I was quite indifferent to be honest. The date went very well, time flew and he immediately texted me after, even telling me how much he enjoyed it and how time flew. I was VERY impressed by him too and a little mushy afterwards. I got into my head and over texted. There was just a few thing I wanted to share with him and now looking back I look crazy. He is not responding and I want to kick myself because I’m not a clinger at all, but now he has that impression. I apologized that my texts look like a mini thesis (big mistske). How do I recover from this. I would hate not to see him again?

[ProCoffeeAntiSleep]

I wouldn’t be to worried, as missteps go it seems relatively minor especially just after a date when emotions are high. Probably just give him a few days to reply.
The thing I would point out tho that I don’t think anyone else has, is some people do over write. I know I have the habit and a few friends do the same. Its not just something clingy people do, its also something people that like the sound of their own voice do.
So assuming that you didn’t plan your entire future in the messages, its probably fine.

As advice tho I try and keep lower than 3 messages, especially with people I don’t know well.

Good luck, he sounds pretty cool

[GirlwithaQ]

This is great advice and yeah. I’m not even slightly clingy, hence why I don’t want him to have that perception.

[coachTanthony]

-----------------Look with these things you have to look at it as a sore. You need to let the sore scab over without picking at it. All you can do is leave it be for now. Allow space. After he sees you aren't a crazy person and if he likes you he will reach out.

~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IG

[GirlwithaQ]

This was my jerk reaction. Thanks for confirming. Everyone says I must cut my losses as he “fled”, but I feel like the amazing date we had (in his own words) should count for something?

[coachTanthony]

It does and if he did have a good time then he will reach out after the "over texting dust" settles so to speak. LOL Just give it time.

[GirlwithaQ]

Thanks. It’s good to hear this coming from a guy.

Look it’s early days and I don’t know him THAT well. So I don’t know what I want from it yet. I am just a very persistent and intentional person so the idea of having messed up something that could be great just gives me so much anxiety 😂

[coachTanthony]

Well if he does come back don't bring it up or apologize again. Just move forward.

[GirlwithaQ]

So essentially, nothing specific I can do to get a text out of him? Just sit back and if he liked you, he’ll move past the feeling of being overburdened by me?

He is honestly the most beautiful person I’ve seen in my life and he has everything else going for him too

[coachTanthony]

He may see the over texting as you being nervous and cute. Don't assume that you are a burden or any other thing to him. What you need to do is just give it space so he knows that you aren't a stage 5 clinger.

[GirlwithaQ]

Ok perfect. Thanks 🙏🏼 was going to wish him well with his team in the Euros, but in light of the fact that I’ve already sent sooooo many messages - I should rather refrain.

[GirlwithaQ]

I mean if roles were reversed I would’ve hated it. I would’ve definitely assumed he is a stage 5 clinger, but also, because he is so great, I would’ve probably replied.

[coachTanthony]

Exactly. Let him wonder a bit.

[Neyila]

Just leave it there and don't text him anymore or keep apologising. You've shown interest, and if he's interested, he'll eventually text back. If he doesn't, move on and don't keep texting him.

If you don't mind me asking, what stuff did you over text him with?

[GirlwithaQ]

Thanks. This was my gut feeling too, but I just wanted to see what others think. Usually I would just leave something like this, because I move, but this guy is something else. Strangely he was the one that was a little in his head after the date which showed interest, but then I just overburdened him. Deleted the unread texts and apologized. Feel very stupid; but I guess emotions make us do this.

It was a general reply, a snap of what I was doing, telling him I’m a little bruised because of no reply to (what I thought was a sexy photo) he usually loves that shit. A message telling him when I’ll be around again as I said I would keep him updated and he asked the previous day and then the apology, followed by a “am I getting some of my own medicine”. Most of it lighthearted.

[Neyila]

Ok, it's not ideal, but what's done is done and you can't change it. Let him come back to you and in the meantime, swipe other guys because it's just been the first date and you should still be keeping your options open.

[GirlwithaQ]

Thanks. Hopefully the date counts for something and with some space he will remember that?

[Neyila]

Fingers crossed!

[GirlwithaQ]

Thanks for being kind

[Neyila]

Any updates?

[Shane114]

Like other have said just let it be for now. The absolute most you could do in maybe a couple of weeks if he doesn’t text you first you could just send a super short message. I mean you’d have nothing to lose at that point. I’d say he people won’t text back again though so expect that.

[GirlwithaQ]

I would hate if it takes weeks. He was so into it just after the date. Even more than me. Texting to hear you are fine all that jaz. Now I sabotaged.

[GirlwithaQ]

Luckily he hasn’t unfollowed me on the socials hey

[Shane114]

Yeah I mean you are hott so I would think he should message you back! Unless whatever you said was super weird.. lol I think he will hit you up in a few days or less.

[GirlwithaQ]

He texted 😂

[Shane114]

And? Everything all good?

[Wise4myage]

Yeah, it sounds like you might have come across as desperate, so if he never texts you back, just chalk this up to experience for the future.

[GirlwithaQ]

I would absolutely hate this, just because it went so well. He prides himself in being very honest so I would just appreciate him telling me the reason and giving me an opportunity to explain. I’m just stressed, because it really isn’t me.

[GirlwithaQ]

He even stated that the chemistry was tangible

[Wise4myage]

I totally understand where your coming from, but give him a few days, stay positive, and don't get down on yourself. You're very pretty by the way.

[GirlwithaQ]

Thanks. You are very kind. I believe I have a lot to offer. I really hope I have not overshadowed this.

[Wise4myage]

You're very welcome, if you've made a mistake, just learn from it. I think he's a fool if he doesn't' ever respond back to you.

[LoveIsFake]

Personally I don't know because I'm in the over texting side when texting a girl simply because it's extremely rare when a girl text me, so they always leave me💔 maybe you should help me

[exitseven]

It was only a text. If he has a problem with it I think he is the one with the problem.

[teninch]

i dont know you just keep talking to much

[malik_nyc]

Suck my D and everything will b fine 😂

[GirlwithaQ]

Clearly doesn’t want me to

[malik_nyc]

Why not?

[GirlwithaQ]

He is not replying to my texts

[malik_nyc]

Suck my dick then, ill reply to ur texts 😜

[Sam_The_Savage]

Nice boobies

[Sketti2021]

Just leave it as is

[GirlwithaQ]

Cool. This seems to be the general advice. At this stage it’s more frustration than anything else.