In normal circumstances, how much in advance of a first date do you want the date to be scheduled?

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Do you like to ask out or be asked out on a date for immediately, a day or two prior or longer?  If you have a good reason why, please say.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

2-3 days.. it is nice to show one wants to make some time in the calendar for it, and I like looking forward to it for some days.. much longer than that, then there is a higher change something else shows up. Either for him, but I am also often not prepared to give up a potential cool event for a normal first date (checking for chemistry) and want to keep my days open a bit longer.

victoria5475 · Accepted Answer

It really depends on the situation, I'm good going out with someone the same day, or even right then, as long as I don't have work and/or other plans, or if I'm feeling physically and mentally good. Of course, I have to live in reality, and since I'm often pretty busy, it will have to wait.

TDDMS · Accepted Answer

Well I run fun reconnaissance on my women before I meet with them. This includes NSA, CIA, local police background checks, psychological profile analysis, etc. So I generally prefer to have at least a week between asking her out to actually meeting her for a date.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I ask a woman for a first date on Friday or Saturday night no later than the preceding Tuesday night. Many people want to have their weekend planned before it arrives.

MiriamDoremi · Answer

I would like a week in advance, I'm a busy lady with a busy schedule so I barely have free time. A week in advance will help schedule the date so I can have time for it and not worry about other things like work.

charltonhestonsgma · Answer

I don't do laundry often so I have to make sure my good underwear is clean and move work or other plans around if I have to. Also, it gives me time to get into the right mindset.

bowenw · Answer

It depends on the date. If it's a attend a big concert it would be longer than dinner at Applebee's.

420Rachel · Answer

I go with the flow so I mean if we're both free when he asks me I'll just be like "Well let's go eat!"

libsaretards · Answer

A week or two, depending on the pay cycle of whatever job I have. I usually like to have a full pay period to plan the date.

Leavesbound · Answer

A few days is good to give both enough time to plan things out.

loves2learn · Answer

I chose the last option. I need time to plan my week.

exitseven · Answer

Two days before would be good. Lots of times I did it a week in advance.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

Generally it's however many days to the weekend, or if I already have plans, finding a time to squeeze them in :)

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

I hate getting plans sprung on me same day. I can't plan for that. I need at least a day but I prefer 2 or 3

Feelicks · Answer

A week or so out is usually reasonable, people have schedules.

Anonymous · Answer

Life is meant to be lived. If the guy I’m crushing on was to text me right now to go out for coffee, dinner, a hike, anything really... I’m going to say yes let’s go! I don’t want to waste anytime that could be spent enjoying each other’s company rather than doing nothing meaningful beyond your normal routine.

rachel776 · Answer

any time is good for me if i'm free

IronLady6354 · Answer

I'd say about a week before

hahahmm · Answer

0-6 days.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

About a month.

In normal circumstances, how much in advance of a first date do you want the date to be scheduled?

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