Is he genuine, or just after my v card?

[Abcdef2001]

I met this boy in high-school that was a jerk. We matched on a dating app so I thought we could just hang out and catch up. We talked and decided to go on a date.. i told him i was a Virgin (because it came up in conversation) He was super nice on the first date, just buying the tickets, bringing bug spray, and even letting me spend the night so I didn't have to drive the 1 hour home in the dark and after drinking a little. He was a little touchy and said something to his friend about me being 'a good girl ' he definitely moved pretty quick for the first date. He was just acting super into me and saying he had trust issues and trusted me. I think he's honestly used to easy girls. I guess I'm wondering if he likes the challenge and just wants to get in my pants, or actually likes me. Thanks in advance for your answers :)

[btbc92]

My question to you is why are you dating a jerk? 😑

Of course he's after you because if he really liked it to you he would have got to know you and it wouldn't have been a jerk at all. Even if he was. He would have definitely made the effort to apologize and actually get to know you as a friend. That is not what's happening. Guys like that see if challenged and obviously they going to go for it if it means they get something out of it but they don't last any end. Please don't have your experiences based on this kind of negativity. Which is why you keep to yourself. Anybody that treated me bad like that, I would not be around him at all.

[btbc92]

Please move on from this guy and cut him off. He just wants sex. He's lying about trust issues nonsense. Because if he still might have trust issues why is he dating you and being touchy? Because he wants to be in your panties. Stop falling for the BS lies. He gave himself away 3-4x. All red flags. I can list all the red flags, but it's best if you do your own homework. Just print out exactly what you wrote, think of it like a guessing game, and see if you can spot the three and four red flags with this guy. I'll give you a freebie. The fact he was a jerk to you. So that's one. You now have 3 more to find.

[Abcdef2001]

I should have clarified. He was a jerk when we went to high school together we've both graduated a few years ago. Personally. I've changed a lot since high school and I believe in giving people chances, but this guy also isn't one I would want to get hurt over

[btbc92]

No offense. I don't care if it was a jerk to you in middle school. I wouldn't date him. Do you say this is the guy you wouldn't want to get hurt over yet you still chose to date him and now you're complaining about it. People can change if they have a desire to truly change. It is a choice. You seen what kind of character he had from the beginning. God is like that don't just change overnight. You both were barely out of high school and you think you just going to change like that? There has to be a traumatic or unexplainable experience in his life that will make him do so. Guys like him don't change that much. Once they want something like that they don't care who they can use. It has been very possibly forever. They were all red flags.

[Anonymous]

Wait, he's a jerk and he's nice? He's in high school and you're 19?

Well at any rate, yes, all he wants is sex.

[Abcdef2001]

He was a jerk when we were in high school, but we both graduated now :)

[K-I-S-S]

He is still a jerk, just hides/controls it better.

As he is a young guy, i'm 90% sure he is after your ass. Some may may be okay with longer relationship after getting some, not all bounce around, but most would if the opportunity presented itself.

In any case, you are not in a hurry or owe him anything, even if he has to wait a year or two.

Take it slow, observe how he interacts with people who he has power over. Maybe get him into few stressful competative situations. And take your love glasses off.

[Jlegacy]

I'm scared because if a guy was a jerk, there is still the chance thay he is and this could mean he would want to take your v card and jerk around about it. Or maybe he is just into you. Humans are complex! Just do only what you want to do so no matter what happens, you have no regrets.

[genericname85]

guys don't care for v-cards xD they care for pussy. and the only way you can at least soemwhat be safe that he's not only after that, you can make him wait a little. but that's no guarantee either. if you think that's messed up, well that's life.

[Jlegacy]

Some men do o. Nothing like being the first man on that moon. It wouldn't be honeymoon without it.

[genericname85]

@Jlegacy yeah some very few do. and i'd argue they're stupid but it's their choice. it's a free country. whatever.

[bamesjond0069]

Easy. Make him wait! Its mostly the men who are players and such who appreciate a girl for being a good girl and a virgin. When i was younger i slept around until i met this virgin. We dated exclusive for 8 months before we had sex. We were together for 9 years! However if she gave it up right away im sure it wouldn't have felt special and id have moved on just like i did and do with everyone else.

[MTC29]

"I think he's honestly used to easy girls."

You answered your own question.

Virgin or not, he's interested in having sex, and that is the extent of his interest in you. Move on.

[Yourfriend2021]

Try going out more times before you let him get into your pants.

[iseekpinetrees]

With the info given can be either or.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Hopefully this experiment will be a success

[Pterodon]

Virginity

[In_Trance]

V card

[Anonymous]

Aiming for your pants.