Boyfriend acting different after fight?

[Anonymous]

So me and my boyfriend had a fight a week ago. I’ve apologised multiple times and he says it’s okay. But he’s still acting cold, his texts to me are blunt. I saw him yesterday and he wouldn’t cuddle or kiss me unless I did which isn’t like him. It just seems that he hates me now. I’m not sure what to do. He’s just not his usual self and he says give it time but it’s been a week. What should I do

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well what was the argument and what did you say? Without context who knows what is going on, it could be him being overly sensitive or it could be entirely justified.

[Asker]

Basically, I was sick last week and so I snapped at him when he asked me something. I was just grumpy with him basically. But I have said I’m sorry because I never snap at him.

[Asker]

He said it’s gonna take a few days to get over it but it’s been a week

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well how do you know he is acting different and its not just your imagination?(I mean that seriously, we tend to project our insecurities and think that people are acting differently when they are not because we are afraid they are).

I'd say move on, he needs time then he needs time, you did what you did and you owned up to it and apologized. Their is nothing you can do beyond that but keep doing what you always have done and eventually he will move on (if he hasn't already).

[Asker]

Because he when he texts me it’s blunt and he’s not been very chatty. He even said he is still annoyed and when he sees me he doesn’t cuddle or kiss me. Which also isn’t like him. He just seems distant and cold. It’s not my imagination. I’ve been trying but it upsets me he’s been annoyed at me so long. It almost seems like he hates me.

[Asker]

And I don’t know how to fix it. I just thought if you love someone you wouldn’t want to be annoyed for so long

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well again, I don't know what you said, it sounds like you said something very hurtful, so that takes time. You say something and it doesn't go away and the worse it is the longer it stays. Your just going to have to go with it if you want to keep him.

[rachel776]

back away and let him come back to you