Boyfriend not talking to me after fight?

[Anonymous]

We got into a big fight yesterday. It started from something small that turned into something bigger because I tried to stand up for myself and I made it worse.

The fight basically ended with him sending me a big text saying I’m not a good girlfriend, I have huge improvements to make, he called me stupid and says he has to dumb things down for me and he said I’m single handedly ruining the relationship for both of us. We live together so that night I literally was so upset and anxious I spent the night crying in bed while he was gaming and he didn’t say anything to me.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable to feel upset and anxious after a big fight with your boyfriend, particularly if he has said hurtful or disrespectful things to you.

However, it's important to remember that healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, kindness, and open communication. If your boyfriend is not talking to you or is treating you with disrespect after a fight, this may be a sign that he is not prioritizing your feelings or well-being.

It may be helpful to take some time to reflect on your own feelings and needs, and to communicate clearly and assertively with your boyfriend about your expectations and boundaries. If he is unwilling or unable to meet your needs or treat you with respect, it may be necessary to reevaluate the relationship and consider making changes that are best for your own happiness and well-being.

Remember that you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, and that it's okay to prioritize your own well-being and happiness above all else. If you need support or guidance in navigating the situation, it may be helpful to seek out the advice of a trusted friend, family member, or counselor.

[devilish-cutie]

well its not ok he called you names but its no surprise men deal with emotions by distancing, I don't know about your fight but by this cannot say you did something so wrong, you should be able to resolve problems communicating or else relationship won't last, just give him time and you both should work on communicating better, calmly and respectfully

[Asker]

He won’t even answer my texts, and it’s just awkward cos we live together and we sit in silence. Every time we fight he says I’m ruining the relationship even if the fight isn’t a big deal, I don’t mean to fight but most couples will fight or disagree but being told I’m ruining it after every fight I feel sick

[devilish-cutie]

that is very bad and im sorry but im not sure this kind of relationship can work, not answering text is unaccaptable, tell him that if he doesn't want to talk to you there is no way for you to fix the problems you have and bottom line he leaves you no choice but to dump him. You cannot built anything with someone who refuses to comunicate

[Anonymous]

Sounds like its time to dump his sorry ass.