Boyfriend is ignoring me after a fight?

[beachbabe21]

Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been together for two years and we rarely fight. He is in the Army, and he picked up a drinking habit there. He knows it upsets me and we've talked about it a million times, but he keeps insisting that it's not as big of a deal as I'm making it out to be. On Friday night, he told me he was "going to be drinking a lot" that night because he was having a bad day. Well, I was an idiot and lost my temper and we got into a huge fight. He didn't talk to me at all yesterday, and still hasn't said anything yet today. I'm trying very hard to resist the urge to text him but this is making me very nervous and upset...is he breaking up with me? What should I do?

[ironlion365]

DARLING HOLD ON! RED FLAG! Don't text yet! He's giving you the silent treatment bullsh*t. Honestly, its a cheap and immature tactic to get YOU to apologize for HIS WRONG. Yes, he wants you to cave and acknowledge that a drinking habit is no biggie, because in his sick mind, its not like he's on a killing spree or doing hard drugs...right. Darling, you REALLY REALLY need to stand your ground and NOT cave in. You don't want him to break-up, right? Well neither does he, TRUST ME. PLEASE, look at the facts. He's out at war, do you understand, that once he leaves the continent, he will ADORE you? Did you know that every soldier NEEDS a good woman "worth fighting for"? Did you know that his emotional self can't take the hit on being womanless? So don't worry about him breaking up. Instead SHOW him, you have a spine and don't text, don't call, don't reach out to him. He needs to apologize, and he WILL. Guaranteed, if he loves you, half-guarantee if he likes you. At best, send him an email, that tells him "we need to talk". Make it short and sweet. See what he says. If he gives you a bullsh*t like, "about what?" or "why?" or "only if you apologize" he clearly isn't boyfriend material and will most likely rip your heart out later on. He seems a little immature but you don't, you deserve better treatment. Hope this helped!

[beachbabe21]

Thank you. I'll keep trying to avoid texting him until he decides to grow up and call me...

[ironlion365]

Good job! You'll see how the situation turns out and you'll see how much he likes you. hope it works out!

[patoot10]

even if he did something wrong that doesn't mean you are right .. you said it yourself we were idiot and you lost your temper you should text him and say that you are sorry for what you did but that apology doesn't mean that your okay with him drinking a lot .. get it

[beachbabe21]

I did apologize for losing my temper and he said he was sorry too after the fight was supposedly over, but he hasn't said a word since.

[Anonymous]

He got upset, you got upset you apologized, he apologized and now he's being distant. I think this is OK. It doesn't feel OK, it feels like the worse (I've been there) but I think right now the best thing you can do is just give him a bit of space. Sometimes people don't want to talk things out, they really just want some time alone to figure it out for themselves, and cool off. When I'm angry at my fiance', the best thing I can do is walk away and cool my jets, or else I may spurt my anger out and say something I'll regret. Ironlion is assuming a lot about your man . . . I'd take that with a grain of salt.

[beachbabe21]

Thanks. It helps to get a woman's perspective as well. :)