It is not possible to set a rule, because everyone is different and every interaction is different.
To me, sex is a serious matter.
I go in raw, so we would have to discuss the matter in advance, have blood taken and tested for every STD known to medicine, then exchange test results.
To me, the purpose of dating was always to audition women who I thought might fit the role of future wife. Evaluating her character and determining her genetic fitness to provide half the DNA of future children was far more important than a few seconds of ejaculatory release.
For that reason, sex took a distant back seat and I was not in a hurry.
I found myself in the interesting position that, if I tried, I would be accused of being a borderline rapist who was 'after only one thing'. If I did not try to rip off her panties during the first date, I was accused to being a closet homosexual. No matter what a man does, the female will condemn him for it.
The logical conclusion that it is better to not play the game. Better to just keep on walking.
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I am 52. The "sex date" is usually the 3rd date. I have had a few on the 2nd, and a couple on the 4th. I have never dated any woman since my divorce that went past the 4th date, and still continued to date her. Not that it makes a big difference to me, that is just how it has worked out. I personally think it is better to wait a little longer, say the 6th date. But women in their 40's + are very aggressive sexually. I even told one that if that is the way guys in their teens and 20's were, then I apologize for us men lol. Because wow.
Once you are in your 30's +, there should be no more of this "what will he/she think of me if I fuck him/her on the 2nd/3rd/et date". You are adults, it is an adult thing to do.
It’s interesting how much slut hatred there is while so many guys don’t want to wait for sex.
Fundamentally, its not about how many dates or time. It’s about measuring their investment and commitment. If I’m looking for a relationship with a guy, I absolutely must have his commitment and loyalty first.
I'm a woman but from experience if a man values you he will wait. There is no specific number. But you have to show profession, nobody likes to feel like they are putting effort into anything for nothing.
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If the lady and I were enjoying each other's company and spending quality time together, including holding hands, kissing, sitting closely together on the couch and discussing (for example) traveling together... by date 4 I'd begin wondering what the impediment to progress was?
The longest actual wait was date #6.As long as I have to until she's comfortable.
Tbh I'm also a little inexperienced and awkward so I would prefer to wait, take our time dating and enjoy getting to know each other. Not sure if it's just because I'm not very experienced but sex isn't as important to me compared to other parts of the relationship, like trust, affection, humour, etc. It's more important that I feel good with her out of bed than in :)I wouldn't. I've never went on a date with the expectation of sex.
Honestly if I don't see the relationship progressing I'm more likely to end it. But that can't be measured in the amount of dates. Different people warm up to others at different speeds.depends on the chemistry between us, frequency of the dates, how long we took getting to know each other before/outside of the dates, how well we got to know wach other during the dates, and other such factors. all that being said, somewhere between zero and 8-ish.
I actually wait nearly 3 months but 1 is a busted wrist and just being busy.
we had talked about it, so it was going to happen, just not a huge rush.I just don't think of the sex... so it doesn't matter much to me
when I am interested in someone, I want to go after your soul... whatever else, happens when it happens... or notA few weeks. If it hasn’t happened after a couple of months I will be wondering if she has much interest. . In my experience dating after my divorce most women were ready after three dates.
I had 1 try stringing me along for 3 months, kept blathering on about how she knows her worth, etc, etc, ad nauseum…we both in our late 50’s. Ain’t nobody got time for that shit.
Pro tip. Only beta bux Bill is expected to wait. Girls can't wait to have sex with the guys they are attracted to... Due to the internet, guys became aware of this dual mating pattern and adapted to it. Hence the 'this is becoming ridiculous'
There's different kinds of sex. Do you mean any kind of sex? Because usually in my experience it starts as blowjobs and handjobs and leads up to vaginal sex. If it's any kind of sex, then only 2 dates. Vaginal sex then 1 to 3 months of dates.
It totally depends on the girl & how hot & horny she is & it depends on how horny I am after the date as well.
I can't set rules but would say at least second time I can wait :)
More expect to see physical escalation date to date.
I'm willing to wait, but at the same time want to screen out women who aren't initially attracted.i won't go near sex until the third date. Back when i was dating that is.
Probably 2 or 3, If you still don't want to have sex with him after that why are you with him.
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HOUSAND NEW CASES AN ONLY 19 TO BEDSNot a guy, but my now husband waited 3 months before having sex with me.
I don't date. either she wants to fuck or we dont meet up.
Same rule i always had. No sex by 3rd date means no 4th date.
Probably when i feel comfortable enough with the girl.
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