Happiness is so hard to find d now a days form me if people are happy let them be HAPPY if 2 people were the same age got together these have the same odds of staying together is an older and a younger person and they have the same odds has two older people getting together The way the world is headed. Who knows what's going to happen anyway if people are happy I say let them be happy they will figure it out
As long as they’re both adults, it’s not a big deal. I also don’t agree with people in their 20s dating people in their 40s, 50s and so on, but to each their own. Still, most people aren’t as mature as they would like to believe.
Personally I would have a ten year limit on an age gap, maybe I would goa little bit more depending on the person. That being said, everyone is different and if two people are happy together it does not matter what the age gap is.
Anything more than a 10 yr age difference will cause trouble and hardship down the road. Statistics show The bigger the age gap, the higher divorce rates.
Simple solution, dont marry. Marriage is nothing but a mere institution derived by a male narcissist most likely and when women hi-jacked it when they started to be seen as equals. Everything leading up the wedding day is a little girls big eyed dream. Then afterwards, you mine he says, till death do us part. Then women take over and slowly things occur less and she can waddle that as weapon against him, not saying its like that with every marriage but it certainly isn't wrong.. often the base of married jokes or complaints amongst men.
Keeping my pad, Im ok with with bit having one relationship (who decided that? Certificate of owner ship is what it was meant to be) and ill take care of my kids regardless whom they are living with, which i prefer a split time arrangement... its almost like a short term nanny. Thats the way i see it.
Why didn't you leave comments about what you think about 50 year old women with 25 year old men?
"I believe that men in their 50s and above who go after women in their early 20s are sexual predators who take advantage of a girls naivety and also try to manipulate them into the woman they want them to be." - You know this to be true of all men who do this? And again what is your position on women who do the same?
So you agree it's wrong when women pick and mold men into who they want the man to be? Answer my questions honestly and don't tapdance with bullshit sidestepping.
Yes, I agree that it is wrong for women to do the same thing. I would've preference if you asked me more politely. Not everyone is a feminist you know.
Late teens (18 or 19) to early and middle twenties (20-26): to me, shouldn't be dating people more than 3 years older. For 18 and 19 maybe only 2 years older. Anyone over 26 can date who they deem fit, they should be mature enough to do that by then. I've just seen plenty of incredibly immature 18-26 year olds, including myself at times. I think 26 is maybe the year where people get their stuff together😂, that's just my estimation though.
Here is the rule. Take the man's age and divide it by two and then add seven years. And that is the youngest woman he can date. For example. I am 50. Divided by 2 and you get 25. Add 7 years and the youngest woman I can date would be 32. That is how to determine if the age gap is acceptable.
@RedFever Yeah I know you think it's stupid. 🙄 It doesn't surprise me at all that I got two thumbs down from females.
This issue always gets women worked up.
It's because as a man ages if he stays in shape, looks good and builds a good career with money and assets it allows him to date and marry a women who is younger than him. The reverse is not true. An older women will never look as good as a young woman and men in general don't care about a womans career or money.
Are you joking? Most (over 90%) of men do NOT "stay in shape" or "look good". Bodies deteriorate regardless of which of the two genders you may happen to be. It's called the aging process, and you're not immune to it. As for a career and money - pfft! Who cares about that? As long as you have enough to live on and are not starving on the streets, you're doing fine.
About ninety nine percent of women when they sizing up a man that's who😆. It's called hypergamy. And if you are not going to be honest with yourself about that then you are approaching this whole topic with a very naive attitude. Yeah many people including men let themselves go as they age. But many also keep themselves in shape. But even men who have gotten soft are still able to snag younger women if they are financially well off. But how many times have you seen an overweight older woman with a handsome man who is 15 or 20 years younger than her? A 25 year old man doesn't care that a 45 year old woman has a PhD and earns a lot of money. If she is good looking he might bang her but that is all. He is not going to get deeply involved with her. If you want to marry a man your own age the the time to do it is in your 20s. Don't squander those years. Because every year after age 30 a womans value drops with a steep drop after age 35.
"Hypergamy" is a word I often come across when discussing things with idiot incels and MGTOW losers. They also like the word "misandry". It's BS., and you're full of BS, because I have yet to know ANY woman who only cares about a man's wallet when it comes to a relationship. "Yeah many people including men let themselves go as they age. But many also keep themselves in shape." And you don't think women do the same? Are you REALLY that f**king stupid? Am I conversing with an A. I. here? I've seen FAR more women in shape that are over 50 than men! Most of the men I see have huge stomachs that hang over their belts. Ugh! Why am I wasting my time with this pointless nonsense?
honestly most women husband don't make that much more than them they make almost similar money. whether you want to believe it or not but women seriously don't care about money that much at least most women.
@RedFever Hey have you seen actor Russell Crowe lately? I remember reading an article about him a while ago because women were fuming 😤about his new ypung girlfriend
He is a long way from being Maximus from Gladiator. He has a beard like Santa claus a stupid looking ponytail and and enormous belly. I was thinking Russell! What the heck have you done to yourself?
But the point is that in spite of all this he has a new girlfriend that is 26 years younger. That is what money, power and status does for a man. Jerry Seinfeld Kelsey Grammar George Clooney Leonardo DiCaprio (Also pudgy now) To name a few all have younger wives due to their money and status. On the flipside Demi Moore who was still pretty attractive still couldn't keep relationship with younger Ashton Kutcher.
@Yyyyu I have learned that really only about 20% of women can honestly say that. The other 80% really struggle on their own. I see it everyday on my job.
Have you seen Sandra Bullock lately? She still looks half her age. Many other women do too. This issue isn't gendered, you don't have a situation where all (or most) of the men are still slim and good looking, but all (or most) of the women are not.
Since you're resorting to using personal experience (i. e. anecdotal evidence) to support your weird claims here, I may as well do the same. Every single day whenever I go out, the men I see who are over 50 or so are fat and unfit. They clearly do not look after themselves, but it's rare that I come across a female who is of the same age and has the same problem.
@RedFever Getting back to the original point here that method on determining the acceptable age difference has been featured in several articles written by relationship counselors most of which are women. Now you don't seem to like it. So I was wondering what your thoughts are on an acceptable age difference guideline?
@RedFever Yeah many guys over 50 are fat and unfit. But they have money , status and assets. This enables them to obtain women who are younger. I have explained this a few times already. WHAT PART OF THIS ARE YOU NOT UNDERSTANDING YOU DIZZY DAME?
You're ASSUMING, based upon you OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, that women only care about money, status and wealth! WHAT PART OF THIS ARE YOU NOT UNDERSTANDING YOU DIZZY DUDE?
You're using your own biased, prejudiced views about women (i. e. that we only care about money, luxury, status and so on) to base your own bullshit arguments upon. I DON'T CARE ABOUT MONEY! GOT IT? I have enough to live on, and THAT'S ALL I NEED!!! Is there an actual BRAIN in that skull of yours?
99.9% is it? Really? Are you sure it's not 97.3%? Or 92.5? Where did you get this percentage from? I REALLY would like to know, because something tells me you just pulled it out of your ass. And it's not just in your country either, it's the "women of the world" according to you. You live in the United States, but have you ever actually travelled beyond its borders? I ask, because there is a big, wide world out there! People are not all the same, they're individuals, SO HOW THE HELL CAN YOU MAKE CLAIMS LIKE THIS?
@RedFever I make claims like this because I have done a lot of listening to both men and women of all ages. I listen and observe a lot. Go one YouTube and watch channel called "The School of Affluence". Watch all those videos of women teaching other women how to land a man with money. They are endless. And I will ask again. What are your guidelines for an acceptable age difference? Since you didn't like the one I cited.
Hypergamy is still used you guys, many women no matter of their class do hypergamy, even rich women look for rich men rarely you see rich women do hypogamy. Hypergamy has been used since the dawn of time it is about dating up. Just because some people do hypergamy doesn't mean they are gold-digging and it is found quite often even in this day.
Many people date people for whatever reason sex, money, looks, personality, to get out of a surrounding, etc but it doesn't mean the relationship will not be loveless. So he is right about hypergamy.
@Yyyyu Take two men. Both are really handsome have hair like David Beckham. Both are charming and romantic One is rich and the other is not. Who do you think is going to win?
Historically, laws have been nicer to adult age gap than interracial and certainly same sex couples. I think this reflects the radical change of life's second decade.
I personally wouldn't date anyone significantly older or younger than me. I don't want someone disgusting and old but I also don't want anyone young because in my opinion that's immoral and creepy. Not judging anyone else choices but my limit is 5 years but I would prefer that we’re only months apart.
Personally I prefer younger women. As long as they are of legal age I see nothing wrong with it. The heart wants what the heart wants... It is a personal preference and their is no right or wrong when it comes to someone's preference. It would be the same as saying to a bisexual that they are wrong for their preference...
"I believe that men in their 50s and above who go after women in their early 20s are sexual predators who take advantage of a girls naivety and also try to manipulate them into the woman they want them to be.
This might not always be the case though, age barely matters when the two get along very well."
No. Women in their 20s are going after men 50s and up as a scam they do not love them and are just trying to scam them of money. They are criminals and its emotional manipulation and black mail. But it might not always be the case. 🙃 do you see how ridiculous you sound?
Good logical counterpoint, but unfortunately it won't be taken seriously due to "creep factor". By that I mean if you have an attractive (younger) person and an unattractive (older) person do the exact same thing, an attractive person is totally okay and even encouraged, but an unattractive person doing the exact thing is a creep. It's not about the actions, it's about how attractive the person is that decides if what they are doing is acceptable or not.
I don't think this is necessarily ethical or fair, but then we all know "life isn't fair", right? That's just the way it goes.
Hey once the guy can take good care of me, we're compatible, attracted to each other, has all his teeth, and got a head of hair (if he is balding just shave that shit off and go bald that's ok). I am all good.
Ah lassie, as long as both parties are over 18, why not?
I see people getting upset and impassioned about it, but life is short eh, I'm fucking near middle age and I feel about 12. Just enjoy life and what comes your way.
Doug Hutchison (51) married Courtney Stodden (16) in 2011. Needless to say, it didn't last. Michael Douglas (76) is married to Catherine Zeta-Jones (51) for the past 20 years.
@RedFever The majority of relationships that I have known of personally, where there was a large age gap between the two dissolved. They lasted a few months then disintegrated.
Key words here being, "that I have known personally". You cannot extrapolate personal experiences to such an extent and ever think those experiences would in any way, shape or form accurately reflect the larger reality.
@RedFever No you can't but take a good look at Hollywood, for instance. There isn't ONE relationship of where he was too old for her, and to this day is still surviving. There isn't.
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Happiness is so hard to find d now a days form me if people are happy let them be HAPPY if 2 people were the same age got together these have the same odds of staying together is an older and a younger person and they have the same odds has two older people getting together
The way the world is headed. Who knows what's going to happen anyway if people are happy I say let them be happy they will figure it out
Take the older persons age.
Divide it by two.
Then add 7.
If the outcome is less than the age of the person they are dating there is a very high chance they are a creep.
14 year olds should date other 14 year olds. By 24 you should be moving away from dating 18 year olds.
But by 60, dating someone who is 40 is probably okay.
As long as they’re both adults, it’s not a big deal. I also don’t agree with people in their 20s dating people in their 40s, 50s and so on, but to each their own. Still, most people aren’t as mature as they would like to believe.
Personally I would have a ten year limit on an age gap, maybe I would goa little bit more depending on the person. That being said, everyone is different and if two people are happy together it does not matter what the age gap is.
Anything more than a 10 yr age difference will cause trouble and hardship down the road. Statistics show The bigger the age gap, the higher divorce rates.
Simple solution, dont marry. Marriage is nothing but a mere institution derived by a male narcissist most likely and when women hi-jacked it when they started to be seen as equals. Everything leading up the wedding day is a little girls big eyed dream. Then afterwards, you mine he says, till death do us part. Then women take over and slowly things occur less and she can waddle that as weapon against him, not saying its like that with every marriage but it certainly isn't wrong.. often the base of married jokes or complaints amongst men.
Keeping my pad, Im ok with with bit having one relationship (who decided that? Certificate of owner ship is what it was meant to be) and ill take care of my kids regardless whom they are living with, which i prefer a split time arrangement... its almost like a short term nanny. Thats the way i see it.
Why didn't you leave comments about what you think about 50 year old women with 25 year old men?
"I believe that men in their 50s and above who go after women in their early 20s are sexual predators who take advantage of a girls naivety and also try to manipulate them into the woman they want them to be." - You know this to be true of all men who do this? And again what is your position on women who do the same?
So you agree it's wrong when women pick and mold men into who they want the man to be? Answer my questions honestly and don't tapdance with bullshit sidestepping.
Yes, I agree that it is wrong for women to do the same thing. I would've preference if you asked me more politely. Not everyone is a feminist you know.
You know how this biased every guys a perv me too bs goes until its about the reflection of themselfs. lmao... good call
Late teens (18 or 19) to early and middle twenties (20-26): to me, shouldn't be dating people more than 3 years older. For 18 and 19 maybe only 2 years older. Anyone over 26 can date who they deem fit, they should be mature enough to do that by then. I've just seen plenty of incredibly immature 18-26 year olds, including myself at times. I think 26 is maybe the year where people get their stuff together😂, that's just my estimation though.
Here is the rule.
Take the man's age and divide it by two and then add seven years. And that is the youngest woman he can date.
For example.
I am 50. Divided by 2 and you get 25. Add 7 years and the youngest woman I can date would be 32.
That is how to determine if the age gap is acceptable.
Who came up with this "rule"? It's stupid.
😂😂
Lmaoooo
@RedFever Yeah I know you think it's stupid. 🙄 It doesn't surprise me at all that I got two thumbs down from females.
This issue always gets women worked up.
It's because as a man ages if he stays in shape, looks good and builds a good career with money and assets it allows him to date and marry a women who is younger than him.
The reverse is not true. An older women will never look as good as a young woman and men in general don't care about a womans career or money.
Are you joking? Most (over 90%) of men do NOT "stay in shape" or "look good". Bodies deteriorate regardless of which of the two genders you may happen to be. It's called the aging process, and you're not immune to it.
As for a career and money - pfft! Who cares about that? As long as you have enough to live on and are not starving on the streets, you're doing fine.
In my opinion 25 is too young for you
@Yyyyu 🤣
I agree 25 is too young.
Read the rest of it darlin.😄
@RedFever
"Who cares about money and a career?"🤨
About ninety nine percent of women when they sizing up a man that's who😆.
It's called hypergamy.
And if you are not going to be honest with yourself about that then you are approaching this whole topic with a very naive attitude.
Yeah many people including men let themselves go as they age. But many also keep themselves in shape.
But even men who have gotten soft are still able to snag younger women if they are financially well off.
But how many times have you seen an overweight older woman with a handsome man who is 15 or 20 years younger than her?
A 25 year old man doesn't care that a 45 year old woman has a PhD and earns a lot of money.
If she is good looking he might bang her but that is all. He is not going to get deeply involved with her.
If you want to marry a man your own age the the time to do it is in your 20s. Don't squander those years. Because every year after age 30 a womans value drops with a steep drop after age 35.
"Hypergamy" is a word I often come across when discussing things with idiot incels and MGTOW losers. They also like the word "misandry". It's BS., and you're full of BS, because I have yet to know ANY woman who only cares about a man's wallet when it comes to a relationship.
"Yeah many people including men let themselves go as they age. But many also keep themselves in shape."
And you don't think women do the same? Are you REALLY that f**king stupid? Am I conversing with an A. I. here? I've seen FAR more women in shape that are over 50 than men! Most of the men I see have huge stomachs that hang over their belts.
Ugh! Why am I wasting my time with this pointless nonsense?
honestly most women husband don't make that much more than them they make almost similar money. whether you want to believe it or not but women seriously don't care about money that much at least most women.
@RedFever
Hey have you seen actor Russell Crowe lately?
I remember reading an article about him a while ago because women were fuming 😤about his new ypung girlfriend
He is a long way from being Maximus from Gladiator. He has a beard like Santa claus a stupid looking ponytail and and enormous belly. I was thinking Russell! What the heck have you done to yourself?
But the point is that in spite of all this he has a new girlfriend that is 26 years younger.
That is what money, power and status does for a man.
Jerry Seinfeld
Kelsey Grammar
George Clooney
Leonardo DiCaprio (Also pudgy now)
To name a few all have younger wives due to their money and status.
On the flipside Demi Moore who was still pretty attractive still couldn't keep relationship with younger Ashton Kutcher.
@Yyyyu Women don't care about money?
😄😁😆😅🤣😂.
That is the best joke I have heard all week.
Most women date men who make similar money so,?
@Yyyyu I have learned that really only about 20% of women can honestly say that.
The other 80% really struggle on their own.
I see it everyday on my job.
Elaborate
@Yyyyu Elaborate on what? I practically wrote a thesis here already.
Have you seen Sandra Bullock lately? She still looks half her age. Many other women do too. This issue isn't gendered, you don't have a situation where all (or most) of the men are still slim and good looking, but all (or most) of the women are not.
Since you're resorting to using personal experience (i. e. anecdotal evidence) to support your weird claims here, I may as well do the same. Every single day whenever I go out, the men I see who are over 50 or so are fat and unfit. They clearly do not look after themselves, but it's rare that I come across a female who is of the same age and has the same problem.
@RedFever Getting back to the original point here that method on determining the acceptable age difference has been featured in several articles written by relationship counselors most of which are women.
Now you don't seem to like it. So I was wondering what your thoughts are on an acceptable age difference guideline?
@RedFever
Yeah many guys over 50 are fat and unfit.
But they have money , status and assets.
This enables them to obtain women who are younger. I have explained this a few times already. WHAT PART OF THIS ARE YOU NOT UNDERSTANDING YOU DIZZY DAME?
You're ASSUMING, based upon you OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, that women only care about money, status and wealth!
WHAT PART OF THIS ARE YOU NOT UNDERSTANDING YOU DIZZY DUDE?
You're using your own biased, prejudiced views about women (i. e. that we only care about money, luxury, status and so on) to base your own bullshit arguments upon. I DON'T CARE ABOUT MONEY! GOT IT?
I have enough to live on, and THAT'S ALL I NEED!!!
Is there an actual BRAIN in that skull of yours?
@RedFever
I am talking about the other 99.9% of women in this world.
You are just not being honest with yourself.
And yeah Sandra Bullock looks pretty good for her age. So show me her husband or boyfriend that is 25 years younger than her😏.
99.9% is it? Really? Are you sure it's not 97.3%? Or 92.5? Where did you get this percentage from? I REALLY would like to know, because something tells me you just pulled it out of your ass.
And it's not just in your country either, it's the "women of the world" according to you. You live in the United States, but have you ever actually travelled beyond its borders? I ask, because there is a big, wide world out there! People are not all the same, they're individuals, SO HOW THE HELL CAN YOU MAKE CLAIMS LIKE THIS?
@RedFever I make claims like this because I have done a lot of listening to both men and women of all ages. I listen and observe a lot.
Go one YouTube and watch channel called "The School of Affluence". Watch all those videos of women teaching other women how to land a man with money. They are endless.
And I will ask again. What are your guidelines for an acceptable age difference? Since you didn't like the one I cited.
No most women don't care lol believe me gold digger are minority at least 90% women won't touch a bald old guy only because he is rich
Hypergamy is still used you guys, many women no matter of their class do hypergamy, even rich women look for rich men rarely you see rich women do hypogamy. Hypergamy has been used since the dawn of time it is about dating up. Just because some people do hypergamy doesn't mean they are gold-digging and it is found quite often even in this day.
Many people date people for whatever reason sex, money, looks, personality, to get out of a surrounding, etc but it doesn't mean the relationship will not be loveless. So he is right about hypergamy.
@Yyyyu Take two men.
Both are really handsome have hair like David Beckham.
Both are charming and romantic
One is rich and the other is not.
Who do you think is going to win?
Rich one but because they're similar lol.
@Yyyyu. Checkmate.
There is nothing wrong if both are in love. I personally love men 10-15 years older than me and I am not ashamed of it.
Historically, laws have been nicer to adult age gap than interracial and certainly same sex couples. I think this reflects the radical change of life's second decade.
Personally I think its gross but people are free to do whatever they want and like whoever they want
I personally wouldn't date anyone significantly older or younger than me. I don't want someone disgusting and old but I also don't want anyone young because in my opinion that's immoral and creepy. Not judging anyone else choices but my limit is 5 years but I would prefer that we’re only months apart.
Personally I prefer younger women. As long as they are of legal age I see nothing wrong with it. The heart wants what the heart wants... It is a personal preference and their is no right or wrong when it comes to someone's preference. It would be the same as saying to a bisexual that they are wrong for their preference...
Agreed. Depends on maturity level too. Especially early bloomers w late bloomers. Which happens all too often with women and men
"I believe that men in their 50s and above who go after women in their early 20s are sexual predators who take advantage of a girls naivety and also try to manipulate them into the woman they want them to be.
This might not always be the case though, age barely matters when the two get along very well."
No. Women in their 20s are going after men 50s and up as a scam they do not love them and are just trying to scam them of money. They are criminals and its emotional manipulation and black mail. But it might not always be the case. 🙃 do you see how ridiculous you sound?
I don't sound ridiculous to me, but whatever floats your boat.
Good logical counterpoint, but unfortunately it won't be taken seriously due to "creep factor". By that I mean if you have an attractive (younger) person and an unattractive (older) person do the exact same thing, an attractive person is totally okay and even encouraged, but an unattractive person doing the exact thing is a creep. It's not about the actions, it's about how attractive the person is that decides if what they are doing is acceptable or not.
I don't think this is necessarily ethical or fair, but then we all know "life isn't fair", right? That's just the way it goes.
Hey once the guy can take good care of me, we're compatible, attracted to each other, has all his teeth, and got a head of hair (if he is balding just shave that shit off and go bald that's ok). I am all good.
Ah lassie, as long as both parties are over 18, why not?
I see people getting upset and impassioned about it, but life is short eh, I'm fucking near middle age and I feel about 12. Just enjoy life and what comes your way.
I think positively. In my opinion, there may even be a difference of 15 and 25 ages. Love has no age.
Doug Hutchison (51) married Courtney Stodden (16) in 2011. Needless to say, it didn't last. Michael Douglas (76) is married to Catherine Zeta-Jones (51) for the past 20 years.
I don't believe Women should be chasing men older than three to four years older than she. People need to look into the opposite sex their own age.
Nah, I don't think so.
Nah I'll pass on that one I can't
@RedFever The majority of relationships that I have known of personally, where there was a large age gap between the two dissolved. They lasted a few months then disintegrated.
Key words here being, "that I have known personally". You cannot extrapolate personal experiences to such an extent and ever think those experiences would in any way, shape or form accurately reflect the larger reality.
@RedFever No you can't but take a good look at Hollywood, for instance. There isn't ONE relationship of where he was too old for her, and to this day is still surviving. There isn't.
Um... that's Hollywood. Their job is to sell fantasy in order to sell tickets to their movies. That's how they make money. It's not real.
I agree with you through I don't think that five year older is bad if you're in your early 20s.
@Interstate one age gap relationship I know were actually abusive.
@Yyyyu That is DEFINITELY another factor that can get out of hand!
I am happy that I ended up meeting you. I used to think that all old guys prey on young guys but I am happy that you are not like that 👍
@Yyyyu Well thank you, I appreciate that. That's what she said.