How do you feel about big age gaps within relationships?

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What's a no go when it comes to age gaps for you? Is it about legality? Maturity? Circumstances?

Personally, I don't give shits about age gaps as long as both parties are FULLY developed. Legality, "adulthood", not a factor in my book tbh.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Doesn’t bother me what so ever , as long as she is legal of course , but to me age is just a number , what matters is the chemistry and connection between the both of us , fuck whatever other people think , I have dated older and younger girls , through the years and her age meant nothing to me , because we had great chemistry and connection together , , In my opinion , people that hold age as a deciding factor are only limiting themselves from someone that could be absolutely amazing to them , that’s their problem not mine I have dated Younger girls that treated me way better then girls my age , so bottom line age really doesn’t mean shit to me when you meet someone that has amazing chemistry and connection with you , that makes you smile , that makes you happy , that has a lot in common and we can hold a conversation for long periods of time and feel comfortable with each other , that gives their heart to you the same way you do for them that’s all that matters. I don’t walk up to a beautiful girl that catches my eye and Say How old are you? I would be a fucking idiot and I wouldn’t be surprised if she just walked away from me for being such an idiot lol I approached her because I was drawn to her beauty and drawn to the way she presents herself , if her and I have great connection and great chemistry and we are both attracted to each other and the topic of age comes up later on in the conversation and I find out she is older or younger then me , as long as she is legal of course , I am not all of a sudden going to not like her and say oh you are ugly now because we have an age gap , You would be one dumb motherfucker , I am sorry , My intentions is to see her more and more and , if we end up back at my place or hers , I am fucking the shit out of her, Her age is just a number , lately I been preferring younger girls’ I have my reasonings , not saying I wouldn’t go for a girl my age or older but nowadays I see myself drawn to younger girls more than girls my age. Mainly because how fucked up this world has become and how selfish people have become , I been having better chemistry and connection with girls’ younger then me that make me smile and make me feel valued , the same way she feels valued and respected by me , Sadly most girls my age or older are broken , they had their heart shit on to many times to the point they are just plain out selfish , Girls younger then me aren’t that broken , and most girls look up to a man she can feel safe and protected by , that listens to her and hears her , All I know is my sex life os better with younger girls then girls my age or older , If I meet an older girl that doesn’t with hold intimacy and affection and make me feel like I have to earn it from her then I will be shocked and talk differently lol but as of now younger girls’ rule in my book

razelove · Accepted Answer

Personally I couldn't go for a woman more than a decade younger than me. I still find women younger than 27 attractive. In my mind sex is about making babies, and getting with a woman is typically a relationship.

It's an outdated and frankly strange concept compared to how the majority date and view even say marriage. So, even if I find a younger woman more attractive, it won't work if there is nothing in common that would glue a relationship together.

Sex doesn't take up many hours of the day (one at most), working together, hobbies, being able to relate to each other and feel comfortable make up far more of a relationship. When there is too much of a gap in age, or even income, attractiveness, you name it, the ability to relate to each other gets harder and harder.

Like what's the point when I can list positive qualities at 18 ignorant, hot, fertile. Positive qualities at 25+, willing to put up with a LOT, generally stable financially, can still be hot and fertile. I guess it really depends on whether you get to that age and are still ignorant or not.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I rarely base maturity on age because i know some oldass mfs who are still immature af. I always found it creepy for people in their mid to late 20s and older wanting to date someone whose age still ended in —teen. Idc if 15/16/17/18/19 is legal in different places. The shit is weird because they’re still kids in my eyes. For me personally, I wouldn’t want to be with someone 5+ years older/younger than me. There has been exceptions but very few. And age gaps of 10+ years just gross me out.  Thats my opinion and I’m sticking to it

Smiling_Baby21 · Accepted Answer

As long there is an understanding and there isn't the need of the older person in the relationship to feel like they should dictate what the younger partner does or says, I don't think there is a problem. And if they're consenting, what's to stop people from falling in love with whoever they want?

Pinay_ako · Answer

Hey as long as they’re both adults when the relationship started! Who are we to judge!

Avicenna · Answer

If both parties are adults, it's their lives and their decision to make.

Anonymous · Answer

Age gaps within relationships are a personal matter, and opinions on them can vary greatly. Some people may have no issue with significant age differences, while others may have concerns or reservations. It's important to consider various factors when evaluating the dynamics of a relationship with a significant age gap:

1. Legal considerations: Ensure that both individuals are of legal age and consenting adults in their respective jurisdictions.

2. Life stages and goals: Significant age gaps can mean that partners are at different life stages, with varying priorities, career goals, or desires for starting a family. These differences should be considered and openly discussed to ensure compatibility and shared expectations.

3. Emotional maturity and power dynamics: Differences in life experiences and maturity levels may impact power dynamics within the relationship. It's crucial to maintain open and respectful communication, as well as ensure a balanced and equal partnership.

4. Social and cultural perceptions: Society and cultural norms can influence how age gaps are perceived. It's important to be aware of potential societal judgments or challenges that may arise due to the age difference and be prepared to handle them.

Ultimately, the success and happiness of a relationship depend on the compatibility, understanding, and mutual respect between the individuals involved, regardless of their age. Each relationship is unique, and what matters most is the genuine connection and shared values between partners.

strateguy632 · Answer

for me the highest priority is legality, kuz my nature is obey rules. and if i had any doubt look at all these law suits of underage not considered consent. i feel the age gap is proportional to the total age. for example age 18 until 25 matches age 18 until four years older for example 19 with 23 or 22 etc. but more than 4 seems too big like a cradle snatcher despite 19. as the age increases the gap increases in my opinion. age 26-30 match younger by four years kuz partner young or older by 5 years [how i feel today] but 30 with 36 or 24 seems awkward, despite both like each other. for me when i was those ages it would be a deal breaker but never had opportunity.

CuriousJC · Answer

As long as the woman is anywhere between 21 or above I don't really give a damn about the age Gap. I put her before me. In other words, anything that she wants whether if it's her emotions or happiness or sadness something she wants to do or something she likes to do or something she loves I try my best to satisfy her needs before mine. In any relationship your partner comes first before you and it goes both way in a gay relationship or a lesbian relationship.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

My problem is with power gaps. Like if a 25-year-old wants to date a 35-year-old that’s totally fine with me. But if a freshman in college wants to date a sophomore in college, I have a problem with it because freshman in college don’t have a strong network yet, so they’re more vulnerable.

Novacane · Answer

I never found an issue with age assuming both are of legal age of course! but there are times when I see 10+ age difference it is shocking but in a non-judgmental just confused about how that attraction happened and if there are other motives from the woman and the man. but I typically dont judge if its people I dont know.

nolabels · Answer

The older I get, the less that they matter to me, but they probably matter more to a younger person.

I do have personal experience where the younger person in a relationship was torn to some degree over age gap.

I'd just say to be mindful of the needs of each other, especially the more vulnerable individual in the pairing.

RavVid · Answer

You can go to jail for under age. Where I am 18. There is ambiguity as a 17 girl might be more developed than an 18 girl. 16 which is most common age of consent seems to be usually too young but could be advanced.

Guys have to more careful. Locally a 17 girl went after a pro-footballer, succeeded and then complained about it. He was unwise.

boggboss · Answer

Youngest I would go is 20 I think and oldest I would go is 35 or around their I think with the younger side I wouldn't expect her to be as mature as I would want in a partner but there are always exceptions and Ilderton being I think we would be as different stages in life

MizzArtFreak89 · Answer

If they're of legal age, then that's fine, but personally for me since I'm 33, I don't think I would date someone that is 18-23 range. It would be pretty weird for me. 23 maybe is okay but younger just feels weird. If the man was 27 then that's fine. As long as the two people are adults, it isn't our right to judge.

MysticDevice · Answer

It's a preference to a certain gap in the age. But at a further point it just becomes weird. Like a 28 year old and a 19 year old. Yeah its perfectly legal but the 19 year old is basically a kid. I say you're generally still a kid until at least 26.

I just prefer my age range to avoid complications

silvermoon84 · Answer

What other people do is none of my business as long as they’re both legal however speaking for myself, I wouldn’t date a guy older than 50 or younger than 30. I generally stick to guys within 5 years of my own age, meaning between 34 and 43.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Age gaps of over 20 years seem to be more “acceptable” once the younger person is 30+. While people can cite outliers of a 41 year old and 21 year old getting married that still seems in many ways like a mother marrying a son when it comes to maturity.

Sharkstealth · Answer

I'm at the point mid life crisis that I want to find I'll say approximately a 22 year old female to treat to probably her best time in her life. Shows, random trips to the Bahamas to swim with dolphins, private getaways in the middle of the Cascades and Rockies. Great meals sampling many different heritages. And my hand in her hand for a couple years at the end of my existance here. Not a relationship though just a friendship.

Justagirl_03 · Answer

As long as both the parties are okay with it and they're above the legal age of consent, I could care less

TallAnon · Answer

I've known a ~20 year old girl with a >40 guy and it was always weird to me.
He gave her a great life, she owned her own horses and such, financed by him.
They did martial arts together, which is where I knew them from.
She was just so much less mature and it looked like he caused her to not spend much time around people her age.
Both friendly people, easy to get along with, but just always kinda weirded out.

kakaling · Answer

Age has a big impact on what the person is looking for in a relationship, the relationship I am looking for, younger girls will be easier to find, older girls will be much rarer to find. Mature or not I still prefer looking for a girl that still believe in love without it I don't really see a need to find regular partner.

Mallic00 · Answer

Bro I have seen too many people older then me who are fucking unbearable man children and I've seen people fresh out of high school who are more wise then they have any right to be. As long as they are levelheaded, competent and won't get me thrown in jail I don't really care.

KingslayerC · Answer

Same way I feel about LGBT stuff. It might be gross to me, but it's not my business. As long as there is informed consent on both sides, it's not my place to do anything about it. Other than dry heave in private.

richardcory · Answer

For short term relationships, I see not problem at all. If people are thinking of a life long relationship and there is a big age gap, they need to figure out what they will do when one is old and the other isn't.

MementoMori777 · Answer

i guess the children thing kinda puts a limit to what i look for cause tbh i like older women because of the maturity so i wouldn't be surprised if i would go to the 40s if it wasn't for the family id want to start with her.

Anonymous · Answer

I am 28. I of course LOVE younger women. But, sadly, when it starts approaching a 10 year age difference, there starts to become an issue of compatibility. I have tried to date women that young and I didn't make it past the first date (and they were only like 8 years younger at that time). I have never had a real girlfriend either.

Ben487 · Answer

I also don't have a problem with large age gaps. I would like to land a younger wife/girlfriend. It would be fantastic. I don't care if it ends up looking weird to some people. fuck those people.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I agree with you. My last girlfriend (ex) was age 18 when I was age 35, but there was too much with her. She lost or stolen my class-ring, and it was a sentimental peace that was a part of my life, so I broke up with her.

Fireguy17 · Answer

It depends on your age. At 20, 5 years younger means jail time. At 30 it isn't a big deal. Everyone is different, and females mature sooner than guys.

SnowedIn · Answer

If both parties are legal adults and consenting then no issues with it. They can do what they want; I neither mind nor give it a second thought.

Matcha19 · Answer

As long as it’s legal and consensual, why should it matter? It’s the couple’s life. They enjoy each other and that’s all that matters.

mandyfire98 · Answer

I've been with a couple of guys who were in their 40s. One was basically 50. I'm just into older guys really.

ShesRad80 · Answer

doesn't matter as long as they are consenting adults and making each other happy

DaBiggestBird · Answer

Stuff’s brazy, 18 years olds be getting funky with folks old enough to be their WW1 grand pappies. That is yuck and no amount of idiocy will change that. L + ratio times lonely AF + touch some grass to the tenth power.

BlackJeep · Answer

I've been in two age gap relationships over a year long since my divorce. I'm with an old soul so I don't notice the age difference. I was an athlete and stay active so it's easier to find someone who can keep up

TrueConfection · Answer

I don't care what other people do as long as it's not a 30+ yo pursuing one of my daughters.

petitedollbabee · Answer

As long as it’s legal and both parties met after 18. If they met while one of them was under 18, I’d consider that grooming.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't see me dating younger than 30 or older than 60. I don't like to set age restrictions. But any gap larger than 10yrs. Typically does not bring much longterm success.

rachel776 · Answer

my boyfriend rn is 33 i would go as old as 40 but mostly 20s

DaddyDiablo · Answer

Depends on the age gape really sometimes it's best to stick to people of your age n similar interests instead of older n probably just as dumb younger person or same age person

htmndg183 · Answer

As long as they are adults who are fit and well to take care of themselves and within reasonable capacity to make and take important decisions in life, age gaps shouldn't be a problem.

exitseven · Answer

if they are over 18 and they are happy then it is okay.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Personally I don't like it for myself. Passing over 15 years in difference is too much.

Redkitty_21 · Answer

I’m okay with it. Obviously not underaged but yeah I’m okay with it. I like someone who is 45 and I’m younger than him.

shades777 · Answer

there's no rules on dating once your both adults but people will judge you regardless of whoever you pick

justabuddy · Answer

I found that age doesn't do much. You just limit yourselfband your choices ( within reason of course). Most of the happiest cuoprs I know have an age gap because they based the relationship off of more important factors.

mommymommymommy · Answer

I mean, there's nothing "wrong" with them, per se, but, people may wonder, why. Like, why did they go SOOOO far away from their own age, ya know?

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

I don’t mind much. I just love my partner how they are, not how the age is. I said, I love my partner, not that I love 28 years. Age is irrational.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I don't care whom consenting adults date. Personally, my biggest gap was 17 years older..

SunnyRS · Answer

Age gap only matters to me if it creates communication gap, which is quite possible with big age difference.

OddBeMe · Answer

As long as it’s not teens, I’m fine. But I think people connect more narrowing the age gap to just a few years. Thus finding their forever vagina.

Jerre · Answer

I don’t care about age gaps. I’ve dated and had sex with girls from 18-65.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

As long as they're both legal, I have nothing against it

Raaj4you · Answer

It doesn't matter if male and female are heartily, mentally and sexually compatible.

normandi · Answer

Age doesn't matter what matter is abilities if you can fuck and run and make money then you are young personally I only date young woman

Anonymous · Answer

My no goes are: Girls under 18 Girls over 25 Dudes of any age

Anonymous · Answer

As long as they are both consenting adults, it doesn't matter to me.

xoxosilentgirl · Answer

as long as he’s not older than my parents

bowenw · Answer

They don't bother me.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

It will cause problems

bobthe1st · Answer

I was told, half your age plus 8 is about fair

Alex8736 · Answer

As long as both parties are within legal age

dudeinohio · Answer

I go up. to.7 years younger. No one older.

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