Go on a vacation. If you are none of what you said when you're probably not attractive to the girls that you're around. For which is not anything abnormal. Take some time for you and relax a bit. The world is a good place there's someone out there for everyone. Confidence is also a plus. Avoid the negative energy of nobody likes me. That is so detectable. Your attitude creates an aura around yourself. This is scientifically proven. That working attract or repel...
I’m only 21, so i can’t really go on vacation whenever i want, also it’s really risky cuz of Covid and there’s Social distance and stuff
So what makes you think girls aren't attracted to you? Because they don't go up and confess?
You might be oblivious.
Also, just because people are not interested in you, doesn't take away your value as a person. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.
@Little_Bumblebee Interest implies value. The Subject is inherently worthless.
@Little_Bumblebee You disregard the Askers question. Nobody is interested in them, he has no actual value. Defective products maybe different, but they are ultimately worthless.
@Little_Bumblebee Considering That they don't want to improve, Nobody will be interested in him if he is not interested in his own development.
@Little_Bumblebee throughout school from the moment I started liking girls, no girls has ever liked me or was at least attracted towards me, i have many good traits, like i can sing and dance, I’m kind, caring, romantic, but yet aside from that no girl has ever liked me, aside from the fact that I’m Shy and introverted and that’s nothing bad so I don't know anymore
@asker HOW do you know that?
Also, work on getting to know people and talk with them, otherwise, how would they get to know your good traits if they don't know you?
@Little_Bumblebee Cuz no girl has ever gave me a sign or anything, and I don’t like taking risks that will lead to embarrassment. I also joined a lot of clubs in high school but even then no girl has ever shown a signs that they like me
I'm not saying there definitely is some girl who have/had a crush on you. But... You might be oblivious to it. Not everybody gives signs. Some hide it.
And also, you said yourself that you don't like taking risks - the same goes for a lot of girls.
But don't complain about people not liking you if you don't try to talk with anybody or do something about it.
@Ryfyle God you’re so Rude
@Little_Bumblebee I’m Introverted and I’m really shy, It’s difficult for me to talk to people even more so with girls, And also i somehow fall for every pretty cute girl i meet and see,
it’s just almost all my guy friends have been in relationships before, but i haven’t even been in one yet and I’m already 21, even younger kids are getting girlfriends and they’re obviously younger than me So I feel like something is wrong with me
@Asker I'm the weirdest guy in any room. I love Fall and Winter because I can wear my big edgy coat. I do the hard nerd shit, like only watching subbed Anime, and rolling polyhedral dice. I Get out there and I get interesting. I go on fucking adventures. When I was your age, I had to padlock my belt to keep people out of my pants.
You're looking for weak fucking excuses for not going out there and getting shit done.
@simpforeddie Your point?
m you don't know what's "wrong" with you?
-you have no flaws?
-no shortcomings?
-no areas of improvement?
-no insecurities?
nobody is perfect... if you don't what's not so good about you, or at least challenging to others, then you just might be in denial
I know and aware i have some flaws, but it’s not that visible where girls will see it and stuff
sometimes flaws are not visible... but you can still tell, you can sense it, and they can be "visible" or "present" in different ways
and something else... why should girls be attracted to you in the first place?
is it something you think it has to happen suddenly or out of nowhere?
have you approached them? have you given yourself and also them, the chance to get to know one another?
Like all my friends have had girlfriends but me, so many guys have girls attracted to them, I’m Kind, Caring, I can Sing, Dance, Act, Other stuff, I’m really romantic, Like all of this but yet no girl likes me so I don't know anymore :(
you ignored my question... so I will repeat it
" have you approached them? have you given yourself and also them, the chance to get to know one another? "
I’m an Introvert and I’m really shy, It’s difficult for me to talk to people even more so with girls, And also i somehow fall for every pretty cute girl i meet and see
Okay... now were a bit closer to the reasons why
first, you fall quite easily for pretty girls... this is a clear indication of immaturity, "falling in love with pretty girls" is not kind, is not a good thing... it is shallow and superficial, because you idealize them for their looks, so you don't really know them as they really are, or you just do not care or value who they are inside... the fact that they are pretty is what matters to you the most, this is wrong.
second, being an introvert and very shy, I don't see it as a fault, but it sure is a challenge and a reason why it will be difficult for women to get to know you, this is an obstacle as long as you let it be an obstacle... this is something that you have to overcome first, it has to be your doing and your responsibility, and not the work of the girls to come to you... you have to make the effort, and you have to do it for yourself first, for your own sake... and then later, to get a chance to actually know a girl and appreciate them for who they really are and not just their pretty looks
It’s not immature, I never had a girlfriend before like ever, never been in a relationship before, that’s why i fall for girls easily
I always get nervous and Anxious around girls and I always freeze up when i try to talk to girls, I’m like that with a lot of people but it’s worse with girls
to fall in love easily just because someone is pretty... that's immature, it is childish
if you don't want to accept that fact, well... if you cannot actually see why it is wrong and immature, then things will hardly get any better
It's probebly your weight, make sure you are within a healthy BMI. Go to the gym regulary and party. Filrty with every girl you like and you will find the love you deserve.
That’s rude of you to say, Whoever only relies on looks in a relationship is Shallow
Also flirting looks dirty and Makes you look like a person who fools around
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We are human. We are flawed... so whether or not you are aware; there are things you need to work on.
I suggest you do some reflecting. You seem to only be focusing on certain aspects of yourself, when you need to look at yourself as a whole. We all have room to grow and improve.
Also how you see yourself isn't how other people see you.
You might be overlooking some things. I don't know you so you've gotta figure this out on your own. Ask the people around you. Ask what their impression of you is, and what qualities you could work on.
Good luck!
Try to find what's wrong with you. Everyone has something. Maybe you're rude, unattractive, smell weird, act differently around people, maybe they're just not interested at all? Maybe you have a big ego or seem self centered and instead of thinking about others you think about yourself?
I’m none of those things, I’m sure of that
Well what are you? People not being attracted to you has to do with them unless you've done something
I have A good personality for the most part. I’m Kind, Caring, i like cheering people up, I can Sing, Dance, Act, Other stuff, I can be really romantic, Like all of this but yet no girl likes me so I don't know anymore
Maybe you only hang around asexuals, introverts, lesbians, or girls in relationships, or girls that are happy to be single
No that’s not True, In school, no girls have ever been attracted towards me in high school, ofc there were girls that weren’t interested and girls that were already taken but no girl at all was attracted towards me or liked me at all
What makes you think you're attractive?
As i said I have a good personality for the most part. I’m Kind, Caring, i like cheering people up, I can Sing, Dance, Act, Other stuff, I can be really romantic, Like all of this positive things but yet no girl likes me
i mean, the only way you can truly know if they don't like you is asking them, girls generally won't approach you, you have to approach us :)
it’s just almost all my guy friends have been in relationships before, but i haven’t even been in one yet and I’m already 21, even younger kids are getting girlfriends and they’re obviously younger than me So I feel like something is wrong with me
maybe you aren't putting yourself out there enough, go to some bars, talk to girls at cafes and even try speed dating if you want
If you're an average looking dude, unfortunately that's not enough. You gotta be above average or higher. Women don't date average looking men. Your looks are very crucial. You might have to lift weight and be in the gym for some time.
So if a person is an asshole or probably a psycho, that won’t matter if he’s HOT?
Honestly personality is the most important in a relationship or else the relationship will perish and Fail
You’re shallow
What’s gonna happen when you grow old and get all wrinkly and Old? Huh? Will looks matter then?, no by then you’ll just be stuck with a old Asshole or B**ch who doesn’t even give a shit about you. Who wants that nobody
So how old are you? your relationships will suffer if they aren’t a good person or something, Looks won’t matter when you grow old
This is my EXACT situation, and my problem is that I'm just not confident. (of course this is because I have diagnosed social anxiety, but unfortunately girls can't see that unless they find out somehow) Maybe its the same case for you.
Are you confident? Charismatic? Witty?
Women are attracted to the way a man interacts with the world.
It's the same for but I've been told plenty of times how ugly I am so that's why girls aren't attracted to me.
So? How does that help me? Not helpful at all
So find out why, ask them. You don't have a profile pic, your anon, your probably not ugly. Something tells me by your response you might come off as not so kind, so maybe it's your personality that's holding you back
i'm sure you're not ugly
@kaylealealea I agree, I'm sure he's not ugly.
@InferiorElegy My personality is pretty good, I’m Decent Looking, i have many good traits, like i can sing and dance, I’m kind, caring, romantic, but yet aside from all that no girl has ever liked me, aside from the fact that I’m Shy and introverted and there’s nothing bad so I don't know anymore
@InferiorElegy i meant you hahah
@kaylealealea I know but if you saw what I really look like, you wouldn't think that. Even some of the nicest people I've ever met, look at me strange and avoid topics of my looks, they don't even lie to me and say I'm good looking, they just say I have a great personality. It just means they're to nice and worried saying I'm ugly would be hurtful and it used to be, but after accepting the truth that I am ugly, I've become numb to others calling me ugly.
You're boring. Go kill something big and develop from the struggle.
You’re rude, you don’t know me
Girls are Picky and Shallow, it’s not my fault
you're gay but you don't know it yet. They do though.
I’m not Gay! I’m Straight, I wouldn’t be attracted to girls otherwise. You’re extremely Rude
Probably social behavior based or character traits lacking or attitude things or just behavioral things as much as it annoys me
You are probably unattractive. take the blackpill brother
I’m not unattractive, I’m not ugly at least
Well, how exactly do you expect us to know?
Throughout school from the moment I started liking girls, no girls has ever liked me or was at least attracted towards me, i have many good traits, like i can sing and dance, I’m kind, caring, romantic, but yet aside from that no girl has ever liked me, aside from the fact that I’m Shy and introverted and that’s nothing bad so I don't know anymore
I'll ask you again - how is anyone here supposed to know what the reasons are?
Personality is the most important but you could help me based on that, stop being so logical about it
It's not just about logic. We simply do not have even remotely enough knowledge about you to know. We don't know what you look like, we don't know what you act like, we don't know anything that's relevant in determining how attractive or unattractive you are. We also don't know how the women around you respond to you.
Any answer you will get here from anyone will be completely generic and not specific to you in any way.
Usually when someone (who isn't explicitly ugly) has no success in dating, it's something about how to act around people. Their vibe. Something that is hard to pin down. Insecurities, awkwardness. Stuff like that.
Didn’t I already say what i am like? I already said things about me and stuff
None of that matters. We don't see your body language, or theirs. All we know is some random facts on paper, and they're how you perceive yourself. We'd have to experience your behavior personally or talk to the women that encounter you.
But by the way you respond to me, I can already tell why you have no success with women.
Why?
You'd be offended if I explained it to you.
Just say it, IDC! , that’s how much power you have over me, IDC
See, that last response is a perfect example. You react in very childish, cringy ways, you come off as very awkward, not exactly very intelligent. It's just clear to me that you're socially weird and probably act like that around women even more so.
In short, you exude very strong incel vibes. And that's by far the most unattractive thing for women.
are you SURE you're decent looking?
Yes I’m sure, I know I ain’t so ugly that’s for sure
not ugly is not enough. you have to be good looking
I’m decent looking, i ain’t ugly
how much out of 10?
I don't know, like maybe 6-7/10
Gotta be 8/10 or higher for girls to hit on you
Relying on Looks alone in relationships is shallow if you’re just gonna judge me on my looks/appearance instead of actually Helping then stop answering and Be quiet
looks is how you get girls though. it's just a fact.
It’s shallow and unfair, It’s discrimination and saying ugly guys can’t ever get girlfriends, i Despise anyone who only focus on look rather than Personality
it doesn't matter what you despise. facts are facts. girls like hot guys. period.
So Shallow
So what? It doesn’t matter if they’re a asshole or Psycho as long as they are HOT?
correct. that's how girls are.
How would you know that tho? From your experience? Your experience doesn’t count for everyone
true. anyway i'm sure you can find a girlfriend. you just have to do the work and not wait for one to like you first.
You are probably ugly
Rude, I’m not Ugly, I’m decent looking and i Also have a good personality
I’m not sure
Not very helpful, like at all
I’m gonna answer what I should have said before: maybe you aren’t that decent looking
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