Girls, Why don't girls like me?

[dshaw1066]

Ok so I'm a college student. I'm fairly social, and I'm told all the time that I'm really funny and a nice guy. I do lots of volunteer work, and I like to think I come across as a good person.

I'm also a really romantic person. I just desperately want someone to love me. But girls won't even look in my direction, let alone get to know me better.

I just don't know what the problem is. I've lost a lot of confidence because of all of this but I used to be really outgoing and had the same issues.

Is it my appearance? I know I'm no supermodel but am I really that ugly?

[SueShe]

You are the only one that can help that situation.

In order to have friends or a girlfriend, you must be proactive and find friends. They will not just pop up in your life without you being involved in the relation. Best is to join a club, take a hobby where you can meet people with similar interests.

If you are good at one specific occupation, then see if you can find a club or place where others meet that share that passion. The rest will just fall automatically into place. Sharing the same interests with a person is always a good start to get to know that person better because you have common grounds.

But you have to work on yourself first. That would include shyness and social anxiety if those are part of your problem.

You can train your approach, your attitude and expression in front of a mirror for example. Think of what message you want to bring across and rehearse it until you are satisfied. The next step is the most difficult one and that is the one where you have to put in practice what you learned and rehearsed.

But without you wanting and acting upon it, nothing will ever happen. You have to get out of your comfort zone for it to happen. The most important is not to be afraid to fail. If you are rejected, get back onto your feet and try again.

[Nikki1989]

This is impossible to say without knowing you personally.

[Anonymous]

You sound kind of nerdy. A lot of girls our age don’t like nerdy guys. Good news, some do. Bad news (or good news, depending on your perspective), most of the ones who do are nerdy too.