Girls, Making moves?

[Apraxia]

What are some telltale signs that the girl I’m dating wants me to be more intimate.

[loves2learn]

If you are hugging and cuddling look into her eyes and smile and lean in to kiss her. Reach under her shirt and feel her back. Tell her how soft her skin is and how sexy her body is. Read her body language and when it feels right take off her shirt.
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Just take things slow, reassure her, check in with her. I would be very surprised if she did not want to be more intimate with you.

[loves2learn]

Do you mind if I ask about your username? Do you have apraxia?

[Apraxia]

Yes and I have dyspraxia fun combo

[Apraxia]

Apraxia of speech I might add

[loves2learn]

So it affects your speech and coordination? I applaud you for powering through that. No go kiss your girlfriend. :)

[Apraxia]

I have actually asked her if she wanted more intimacy , she said no she’s okay with how it is and I told her just tell me if she wants me to be more intimate. Didn’t know if maybe she was thinking otherwise.

[loves2learn]

Hmmmmm. Ok. Well glad you asked her.

[Apraxia]

Yeah I kinda was just wondering if maybe there’s signals that she is ready, that I’ve missed ( I missed her asking me out before we started dating…I’m very oblivious)

Sadly I can’t kiss her I’m in a lockdown 😭.

[loves2learn]

Awwwww. Well I guess intimacy has to wait too then.

Well, I was always receptive to my boyfriends putting moves on me. Usually they would smile and lean in to kiss me. They might feel under my shirt, take it off/unhook my bra. One step at a time. Some relationships move faster than others.

Do you think she is hesitant due to the lockdown?

As far as sex that one you two have to feel out comfort level together. There are plenty of things sexually intimate you can do prior to having intercourse and I recommend getting comfortable with those things first.

And just communicating openly with each other about what you are comfortable with. And continuing to reassure her how much you like her, how sexy she is and how you can go at the pace that feels comfortable to her.

[Apraxia]

I’m not sure to be honest lockdowns just done weird stuff. I get the whole test limits I’m just very afraid of making her uncomfortable, which is why I was wondering what signals there are I probably should/should’ve seen. Yes I agree we’re very far from sex, again I’m just worried maybe I’m not being sexually intimate enough in general and maybe friend zoning myself.

[loves2learn]

Tell her how sexy she is and how attracted you are to her and that the last thing you want is to make her uncomfortable. Then put on the moves slowly and check in with her.

[loves2learn]

We women are confusing. We don’t always give off obvious signs. And we typically aren’t good at putting moves on either.

[Apraxia]

She doesn’t seem to like dealing with them 😂 (gets shy/awkward).

I should start slowly progressing however and checking in rather then do nothing u have no clue how those step for steps made me wake up

[Apraxia]

I tend to think I’m just oblivious a lot😂 previous example of:
MISSING THE FACT SHE ASKED ME OUT 😂😂😂

[Apraxia]

She’s not good with compliments by she can’t take them***

[loves2learn]

YES! Slowly progress and check in. Do not do nothing.

[loves2learn]

If she can’t take compliments she needs more of them, just subtler. Like you love when she smiles at you or _____ color eyes are beautiful or you really enjoy her company. Things like that. Build her up.

She probably is shy about intimacy because she feels insecure.

[Apraxia]

I know this may be a weird question like I 100% think she’s sexy and want to hold her and kiss her and all that, but I’m kinda uncomfortable with sayin it… outta fear I think…. Any idea how to stop that?

[loves2learn]

That is normal. Slowly putting on the moves, making eye contact with her reading her body language, slowly building her up.

You will gradually gain more comfort with it. New things are always scary.

[Apraxia]

Sorry probably dumb question: Should I still try to ‘make moves’ even though I’ve talked to her about telling me when she wants me to.

Also thank you so much for the advice it has been eye opening and honestly inspiring.

[Apraxia]

It’s of both of she and me are in general confident outgoing people, but are both very awkward with this stuff😅

[Apraxia]

It’s funny*

[Apraxia]

Did not mean that emoji either sorry butterfingers*

[loves2learn]

Yes. Make slow moves. Sounds like she feels awkward about it too and I doubt she will tell you. And your idea of “more intimate” and hers might not be the same.

Sounds to me like her hesitancy stems from lack of confidence/insecurity in herself and/or her body, not that she doesn’t want to be closer to you.

That is where building her up will really help. And taking things slow your first go round is always a good idea.

[loves2learn]

Lol! You are welcome and it is ok! And actually completely normal to feel awkward with your first intimate experiences.

[PrettyPriya]

One real good one is she physically touching in a flirty way? Especially when you are alone when intimacy could happen?

[Apraxia]

We do a lot of hugging, and cuddling but that’s about it I’m not sure on what ‘signals’ to look for.

[PrettyPriya]

Signals like does she look into your eyes? Does she smile when you are cuddling and hugging? Does her breathing get deeper?

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you for mhg 🙏❤️