Ladies, what is the highest number of matches you have had on a dating site?

[KrakenAttackin]

[meetkitty123]

@KrakenAttackin
It's is so very true. We do get many matches. To be honest it's overwhelming. I was truly interested in the site but I eventually coward out of the search because I couldn't take the daily "you have... 5, 10, 20... new matches today" I was beginning to think the site was full of it and selling me nonsense. And sadly when I first made the profile I would start with a broad range where I was not picky but in order to narrow the numbers down like you got to get ridiculously picky on every detail. On one site I recall I started with the choice any for religion changed it to spiritual eventually Christian and then finally had to cut it down to the specific denomination. And this was only for the religion part there's all other sorts of subcategories that I had to narrow down my selection to the point the site forces you to nip pick while under normal circumstances I wouldn't be so particular. It gets overwhelming and I had to back out.
Sadly I totally forgot about my account that I had open ages ago when I left from my man. If I hadn't seen this post I wouldn't have remember. Now I feel dreadful as I noticed I had received a few messages.
So what I can say for those dear men please I know it must be dreadful but don't take it personally if a lady doesn't respond. I myself didn't mean to do that. Which by the way I would love advice to know if it's best to apologize to them and explain I'm removing myself from the site or would it be better to leave it alone? I swear the sites themselves just gets so stressful... It was my only attempt at a dating site and I just dropped it.

[KrakenAttackin]

Don't feel badly for the men who messaged you, they messaged 1000 other women as well.

[meetkitty123]

Oh 💡enlighting
I appreciate the perspective.

[KrakenAttackin]

@meetkitty123. How can you possibly filter through this number of matches?

[meetkitty123]

😔 can't unless you spend hours upon hours answering one questionnaire at another questionnaire which are supposed to bump up the ones who are your better match based on personality and habits but some of these questionnaires have 20+ questions on them I found myself spending more time answering website psychological questionnaire nonsense leaving very little time to actually take a look at my matches much less send them a message or even get to know anyone.

[meetkitty123]

G@G has a better set up for getting to learn a person (by reading their posts/ answers) ironically thats is not at all what this website is intended for and I'm not saying that it should be used for that... Compared to any other stupid dating website which only offer psychological analysis.
But I suppose gags structure would benefit a dating website more. If the individuals were able to ask random questions and other people answer them this would make it easier to navigate through "matches" found through psychological analysis. I suppose members could have a certain number by their name which would look different on each members account that would indicate how well you are compatible. the higher the number more compatibility the lower the number less compatibility base on of course those psychological analysis test. It would relieve a lot of pressure In getting to know an individual since you would be socializing within a community and of course have the option to private message if you grew comfortable with someone. But I don't know much about dating websites except for eHarmony/match however I believe that doesn't exist

[midnightmoon05]

I have no idea... been a long time when Match came out and I met my ex. husband there.
I just remember having to delete lots of guys who was just saying Hi.
I wanted a quality partner. Someone who can write, engage, and challenge me.
I don't like to waste time. If they put in effort into getting to know me from my profile. I engage for a week. I meet. I know by date one if I have any attraction.
My ex. and I have a lot in common in the sense that we both have similar value with the follow:
1. Education
2. Health (holistic first), quality, fresh foods.
3. Political (don't trust the govt.100%, but obey what we must)
4. Family is important to us... well... his mom is too much for me (he is an only child, she never cut the cord)
5. Financial, both work for a better life, for the best of each other. Know how to budget and save as much as 30-50% of combine income.
6. Goals for the future
7. The way we communicate
After dating 9-12 months, we have the above compatibilites... then we decided to get marry.

I can't help you with how these swipe left or right works. But if you can find a woman who share your values/standards, give her a chance, but never over look their way of treating others (the relationship between her and her dad/mom)...

Now that we are divorced, he met someone with similiar value.
I too have someone similiar. (with hard work to get him to come on board) Our children are in good hands with 4 loving adults.

What has your experience like with online dating?

[ShadezMcgee]

I always had better luck on Tinder than Bumble when I used them, sometimes came across profiles on both the apps that were the same.

Usually had about 10, maybe 15 matches a month. Good chunk of them were single moms or women I wasn't attracted to. Some of them looked great, but either didn't respond or would be fake, so there's that.

[007kingifrit]

you didn't set it to female only but i will say you know its 9;1 men on those sites? its gana be waaaaay more matches than we get

[KrakenAttackin]

Oh I know. I want to see the disparity between men and women.

[meetkitty123]

It's very true. We do get a lot and It's gets very overwhelming.

[Subarugirl]

When I had tinder 20 or more a day was pretty common in I was active on it

[Andres77]

How active?😏
Forget that question.
we're they dates or hookups?

[Subarugirl]

@Andres77 Actually I never ended up going out or meeting with anyone I matched with

[KrakenAttackin]

@Subarugirl. I see these women who say they have 900+ matches over a very short period of time. What does this do to the psyche of a woman?

[Subarugirl]

It cheapens the legitimate attention they get. You get used to being seen as a sex object and realize that most men only value you for your ability to sexually gratify them.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Subarugirl. How so? If men are genuinely interested in you, is it assumed that interest is just sexual? Do you assume the interest is sexual because you put provacotive photos as your profile? I am genuinely asking not judging.

[Subarugirl]

I am not naïve, but I am skeptical of any man who randomly starts being overly friendly and complimenting my appearance. The internet is a tool, neither good or bad it all depends on how it's used.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Subarugirl. Ok, but you created your profile with the purpose of getting "matches", correct? So are you inherently suspicious of your matches? Would that not hint at a different problem?

[Subarugirl]

I'm not suspicious, I am skeptical, there is a big difference. I think that is very healthy to be warry of anyone who match with on an online dating app.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Subarugirl. Oh, I agree, for sure. So how does a lady separate the bunch and find someone she might want to meet. Is it just "he's hot"?

[Subarugirl]

Depends on the lady, but for me I wouldn't meet up with anyone I couldn't have a stimulating conversation with. Hypothetically.

[zagor]

I posted a fake F profile once, without even a pic, and got 61 messages in a day and a half.

I did it after getting about 5 messages in 3 months with my real profile, just to see how the other half lives.

[Likes2drive]

It’s probably a crazy amount compared to almost none when I’m on one LOL but it’s reverse on these questions because I noticed more men answer questions than women

[meetkitty123]

I honestly noticed what you mentioned. I get tons of men responses and lucky to hear from 1 or 2 women even on posts where I only invite women (though I always leave my post open to both genders) but isn't that safe to conclude it's technically the same as those dating websites more men to women ratio?

[Likes2drive]

@meetkitty123 yeah it seems to be the case with more men on sites then women it appears unless it’s Instagram LOL

[Macnelon]

400+ but I had had the app for about a year, and I live in a big city.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I think... 11 or 12 or something, I don't really remember.
It was on tinder and I don't swipe right that often because of several reasons.

[Andres77]

I tried a dating service once... you had to go make a vhs video interview and leave a picture for their binder book of other potentials.

All these apps are totally foreign to me.

[Slim57]

Since you got it where men can answer too let me just say I paid for it and got upwards of about 130 matches in less than a week but less than 5 even said anything, and i never dated one of them, that was when I called it quits

[Anonymous]

I dont use it. These apps have the reputation of hooking up apps. I dont want one night stands. So i think many people use it to have one night stands

[ChloeStarlight]

None cuz I don’t use dating sites

[Justneedtokno]

I don’t use them so I wouldn’t even know.

[Anonymous]

Better than yours

[KrakenAttackin]

Anon... That wouldn't be hard.

[krin_m]

Never been on Tinder and don't plan to use it!