I Always Get Dumped For Not Being Fun. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

My first ex when we was 16 cheated on me and then dumped me because I wasn't fun to be around and he wanted to party and do drugs.

My second ex was fine with me until we went to College and then again he started cheating on me and then lost interest (I had to dump him as he wouldn't do it himself) because I wasn't fun, he wanted to sleep around, and do drugs. (The drugs were an actual stated reason in these cases).

My last broke up with me a few weeks ago because he wanted to be single. He wanted to go to parties, mingle and you guessed it, do drugs.

I wouldn't say I'm a dull person. I'm trusting, I party and so on. But I'm not the type to enjoy partying every night. I don't do drugs. I don't frown on it but I've seen first hand what addiction can do and it's turned me off it. But I'm sick of being hurt, sick of being pushed to the side in favour of girls who are a lot more loose and carefree. I'm not looking for a white picket fence and family at 23 but I have leaned more towards nights in with a takeaway playing Mario-kart. Thing is these people all enjoyed that but it wasn't enough. I'm sick of never being enough. They usually are into that then I guess my boring ass makes them realise they want more from life. They are never into drugs or exsseive parties until me.

Is it my age? Are guys my age too immature? Do I keep going for the wrong guys? Or should I let loose a little bit? Start doing weed, drinking more? I'm just sick of always being the second option while women who are more fun than me always come first.

[jsincal]

I wouldn’t say it’s you. Remember psychology says that the reasons your ex’s say about what’s so called wrong with you is really the opinions of themselves. They’re merely trying to shift the blame towards you. This hurts the self esteem. People tend to aim lower and get more losers in their life which confirms to the first told excuse the first ex gave. I’ll save you therapy money,.. ignore it and keep being you, and don’t look outside of you for validation. Fire the losers and find what you feel is a winner for you in your life.

[Lynx122]

You should look for guys who are not into partying as much from the start. These guys you're talking about weren't really looking for a girlfriend anyway they just took you because you were available and it ended when you were not fitting in their life anymore.

[devilish-cutie]

its not you not being fun, its them being immature and not caring about you enough. Yes, you go for wrong guys. there are guys that dont party a lot or do drugs. Next time try to have more standards. Maybe stay single for awhile rather wasting time on some stupid boys until a man shows you he is worthy of your time

[SofiSin667]

It’s your fault for going after guys with opposite interests. There’s plenty of guys your age that are not into that scene but you’re choosing to overlook them.

[GingerGuy]

Wrong guys. You probably need ones that DON'T do drugs. Will make for a much better relationship anyway regardless.

[The_Naughty_Guy]

It’s not your fault. It’s just that you are going after wrong and immature guys. There are many guys who don’t do these things much. Maybe you should date such guys.

[Iron_Man]

You’re a kid and you’re already going through all that madness

[Anonymous]

Maybe look for guys who don’t want to be a man whore and have drug addictions.