Ok... Hey man. One, your no more inferior or superior than the next person. Two, it sounds like you may be suffering from social anxiety. I was at that same point at a past point of my life. I said things before thinking, I was always on guard, and even though that sounds like being on guard would solve the problem, it just made things worse in all areas. Socially, mentally, and physically when I tripped or did something irrational. I felt like I was alone, less than others, had a dim future ahead. I knew I needed answers. And those were days when the internet was a myth in smaller cities, so finding the answers were quite different. The first thing you did right was admitting to yourself and someone else you feel inadequate. Next I would get advice from a professional if you can. Try breathing and trying to stay calm when feeling yourself about to say something. Even if someone asks you a question or says something to test your patience. After all, silence is golden. Another technique to portray coolness is keeping your eyebrows calm and your eyes from darting around. But with all of that said, I really don't know the full situation of you encounters. Is it with friends? Family? Crushes? Either way. Hope it helps, and good luck. Its darkest before dawn.
P. s sorry for not swearing... Fuck all that. 😎
Use the force Luke; stop giving a fuck and relax. They all have their issues also or at least wouldn't do better then you if they had to be you. We all or born with our looks, we don't get to choose our family and how well-off they are nothing. It's not balanced or fair but we each have to survive and do the best we can. For some of us life is just going to be much more of a struggle than for others at least be proud of what you've done with what you have. Be happy no matter what keep going don't let them Knock You Down and if they do get up and walk forward. Do the best you can out there with the motivation intelligence and looks that you do have don't waste any of it.
The best thing would be a trick used to win a negotiation:
Silence. The times when you want to say something and you know it's just going to be weird, garner a little impulse control and stay silent. The less you say, the less ammo people have to use against you.
But when you do speak up, best thing is to stop thinking about YOU and what YOU should say, and really listen to the other person. Let people talk about themselves. They love to do so anyway, and will think you are great company. If you can't think of something to say about you, ask about them and their life/family/job/school, and be really interested in hearing what they have to say.
Just stop stressing out by trying so hard to create this normal facade, calm down and embrace everything that life is. Don't grip on to your faults, let go of them. The more you focus on screwing up the more you end up screwing up because what you think and feel inside is what you create on the outside of reality. Place your attention on everything but yourself, pretend like nothing's wrong and fake it until you make it.
I do the same things I’m socially awkward sometimes. I think most of it is over thinking if you breathe and listen to what others are saying I find it much easier to respond, or simply don’t. You don’t have to talk just because they do. When you feel the need to say something do. When you have nothing to say, don’t.
Stop trying to fit in. You're different. Embrace your differences, and be with people who respect's and love your differences. You're normal. But if you really have personal issues with yourself, and you can't accept yourself. Then you need professional counseling. Your hanging around the wrong kind of people.
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I was the exact same way. Two pieces of advice helped me I hope they will help you. 1st "hey man we like you, don't try to impress us. When you do that you say dumb shit that makes us like you less. Stop saying dumb shit, before you say anything ask yourself 'is this dumb shit' if it is don't say it". 2nd "everyone wants to be liked everyone, wants to be poplar, everyone wants to be listened to." Next social situation you are in listen for things other people say, that you like, and compliment them. Hey that was really insightful, you're a really good story teller etc. Make sure before you say anything you ask yourself 'is this dumb shit.' always look for opportunities to make other people look good. Do things like this consistently and successfully and everyone will want you around.
Why do u need to fit in? I don't! I'm the same as u, I fuck up in social situations all the time, but I use me fuck ups to my advantage. I make it seem like I meant to do it, so that it seems like a comedy act of sorts
Stop worrying about what others may think. Once you get tired of that. You’ll be confident that, hey as long as I’m having fun! That’s what happened to me. I say some of the dumbest things but... that’s what came out. Oh well. Lol
Tell yourself that people already like you, rather than to try make people like you. In that way you can be more at ease.
Same here, but I'm even worse. Social anxiety maybe?
Accept my proposition to mold your weak human form into a might steel horse, roaming the great iron tracks of life. You will never fuck up again. Nor have any social situations ever again for that matter
Maybe you are trying to be someone you are not? Be yourself and try to think ahead
Be yourself no matter who cares... respect and be respected. They have theirs oppinions, and that's it... just oppinions about you.
that way of thinking help you less nervous around others.
There is no normal. You need to accept the bounds of your personality and let go.
Chances are you'll become more slick and confident with age anyway.
I’m the same way 😞 I always trip up on words or say something stupid. Or space out right when someone asks me a question.
Dont feel bad it happens to be all the time just be careful and be alert next time
I've the same problem and don't know what to do either.
You need to start smoking weed that helps anxiety keeps you calm , and sometimes it takes you out of your comfort ZONE I was you once so I know you need help
Normal is overrated. Your flaws are yours and yours alone. Own them or they'll own you. Don't be so concerned about how others view you.
I definitely feel you, but I think it's best to just be yourself... But sort of make small improvements like not saying things that are completely inappropriate and irrelevant as much.
Don't believe that u hv anything to lose just do what u want to do
just stay calm and be yourself. do not worry what others will think or you will continue to mess up
Practice makes perfect.
I do as well my mouth usually
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