Dis these guys ghost me because they find me unattractive or because they fear I may want something serious?

[Anonymous]

Lately guys seem to be interested in seeing me, but than those me just before we go out.
case 1: I met this guy at a party 10 years ago, we made out a lot, I didn’t sleep with him, we went on a date after that, he told me he wanted something serious, I did not and told him I didn’t want to date him. We kind of kept in touch. 10 years later, this summer, I wrote to him and proposed we see each other. He first seemed very interested, trued to sext me, to which I did not respond, than he got cold and canceled our date the same day saying he had a lot to do.
case 2: this guy keeps matching and unmqtching me on tinder, he shows interest/writes that he’d like to go for a drink; but he always unmatched me before we could plan anything concrete

[aintnocandle]

Both of these guys are fickle. Move on. Find a man that is clear with his intentions and pursues you enough to actually meet up with you. It has nothing to do with you. If you’re clear with your intentions and are friendly, they’re just the wrong men.
Plus, if one of them is on tinder, I would never take the guy seriously.
For the first guy, he may have taken you not sexting him as disinterest but that could easily be cleared up if you just voiced you didn’t feel comfortable sexting before meeting him. But I really think he isn’t worth the effort if he tried to sext you before meeting up with you so I’d say just move on and find better.

[hhhffg7889]

I used to ghost women who were always negative minded or too intense. It wasn't because I didn't have interest in her or a relationship. It was purely out of seeing the crazy that lies ahead.