Did I come off as desperate in sending the last 2 messages?

Question

He didn't seem interested to see me.

Did I come off as desperate in sending the last 2 messages?

Answer 1

Anonymous

If he did lose interest there could be a million reasons why (many not having anything to do with you) try not to tell yourself a story about what it means or think that it’s you. I always over analyze these situations myself but I just push forward and keep telling myself not to assign meaning to it. I know it sucks but keep pushing forward and hype yourself up a little!

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Answer 2

snowgirl123 | 81 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

well, I don't think you said anything abnormal. you were just courteous and polite. not desperate at all.

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Answer 3

DumBear | 54 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

No not at all lol, why would u feel thats desperate? Because he didn't reply?

Trust me you weren't

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Asker

1 mo
I see. He completely ignored the text and its been a day. He hasn't done this before. He used to text within hours at most. For context, he's 27 and I'm 20. Should I move on?
DumBear

1 mo
It really doesn't need to be a game, if u want to talk to him then just message him casually about anything
Asker

1 mo
I would, but I don't really get the sense that he wants to see me. He is basically ignoring me for 2 days now and could care less that the sport event was canceled. I appreciate your input though
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DumBear

1 mo
Guys can be dense or scared to go for it. Stop overthinking and just message/flirt a little bit. If he still doesn't bite then yeah id back off then. But i think its very casual convo so far so why should he think otherwise?

Answer 4

Asker

I see. He completely ignored the text and its been a day. He hasn't done this before. He used to text within hours at most. For context, he's 27 and I'm 20. Should I move on?

Answer 5

DumBear

It really doesn't need to be a game, if u want to talk to him then just message him casually about anything

Answer 6

Asker

I would, but I don't really get the sense that he wants to see me. He is basically ignoring me for 2 days now and could care less that the sport event was canceled. I appreciate your input though

Answer 7

DumBear

Guys can be dense or scared to go for it. Stop overthinking and just message/flirt a little bit. If he still doesn't bite then yeah id back off then. But i think its very casual convo so far so why should he think otherwise?

Answer 8

Surfer96

Xper 1

Absolutely not, i find it pretty normal, no worries really , chill : )

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Asker

1 mo
Thanks. I just wonder at what point he lost interest. We talked on the phone a couple days ago for hours and he kept complimenting me and mentioning how he wants a girl to enter his life. He was always attending stuff I invited him to. He would initiate calls. But recently, I was the one to initiate a call/text. Now he's closed off. He's a friend who I've only got to talking these last few months. Do you think something I did caused him to lose interest that quick?
Asker

1 mo
Do you think I looked overeager?

Answer 9

Asker

Thanks. I just wonder at what point he lost interest. We talked on the phone a couple days ago for hours and he kept complimenting me and mentioning how he wants a girl to enter his life. He was always attending stuff I invited him to. He would initiate calls. But recently, I was the one to initiate a call/text. Now he's closed off. He's a friend who I've only got to talking these last few months. Do you think something I did caused him to lose interest that quick?

Answer 10

Asker

Do you think I looked overeager?

Answer 11

caaarol23

Xper 1

i would delete him, he could have said like “it was nice seeing you too” but he didn’t. looking at the texts he’s not interested and there’s probably another girl. stop texting him now, you’re wasting your time.

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Answer 12

Anonymous

Think you posted an earlier version of this. Yes I’d move on and see if he comes back. Maybe he will maybe he won’t men are weird

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Answer 13

Flower7 | 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

No, it sounds fine to me. Not desperate.

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Asker

1 mo
Thanks for the input. He ended up not responding and its been a day. I wonder at what point he lost interest. We talked on the phone a couple days ago for hours and he kept complimenting me and mentioning how he wants a girl to enter his life, offering to give me food over the phone. He was always attending stuff I invited him to. I asked on a date once, he went and said he enjoyed it. He invited me to his sport game once. Now he's closed off. I was the last to initiate the last call and texts. He's a friend who I got to talking to these recent months. He's ignoring now.
Flower7

1 mo
It’s really hard to tell why guys seem to suddenly lose interest. Did you meet him on a dating site by any chance? That behavior is very common there.
Asker

1 mo
No, we met in person through mutual friends. He's the type to get a lot of attention from girls, he's attractive and several years younger. I'm late twenties, he's early twenties
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Flower7

1 mo
This type of issue probably would be worse with a very attractive guy.

Answer 14

Asker

Thanks for the input. He ended up not responding and its been a day. I wonder at what point he lost interest. We talked on the phone a couple days ago for hours and he kept complimenting me and mentioning how he wants a girl to enter his life, offering to give me food over the phone. He was always attending stuff I invited him to. I asked on a date once, he went and said he enjoyed it. He invited me to his sport game once. Now he's closed off. I was the last to initiate the last call and texts. He's a friend who I got to talking to these recent months. He's ignoring now.

Answer 15

Flower7

It’s really hard to tell why guys seem to suddenly lose interest. Did you meet him on a dating site by any chance? That behavior is very common there.

Answer 16

Asker

No, we met in person through mutual friends. He's the type to get a lot of attention from girls, he's attractive and several years younger. I'm late twenties, he's early twenties

Answer 17

Flower7

This type of issue probably would be worse with a very attractive guy.

Answer 18

shepardmaddison | 93 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

To be honest he doesn't seem interested... Sorry

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Asker

1 mo
I think he isn't too.. I just wonder st what point he lost interest. We talked ok the phone a couple days ago for hours and he kept complimenting me and mentioning how he wants a girl to enter his life. He was always attending stuff I invited him to. Now he's closed off. Do you think I came across as desperate in the recent text?
shepardmaddison

1 mo
I wouldn't say desperate, but it's pretty clear you're way more interested than him
Asker

1 mo
Do you think my overeagerness pushed him away?
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shepardmaddison

1 mo
Overagerness? What's your age and his?

Answer 19

Asker

I think he isn't too.. I just wonder st what point he lost interest. We talked ok the phone a couple days ago for hours and he kept complimenting me and mentioning how he wants a girl to enter his life. He was always attending stuff I invited him to. Now he's closed off. Do you think I came across as desperate in the recent text?

Answer 20

shepardmaddison

I wouldn't say desperate, but it's pretty clear you're way more interested than him

Answer 21

Asker

Do you think my overeagerness pushed him away?

Answer 22

shepardmaddison

Overagerness? What's your age and his?

Answer 23

Laggy | 374 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

You didn't you left him with a choice that's good

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Asker

1 mo
Thanks. I just wonder at what point he lost interest. We talked ok the phone a couple days ago for hours and he kept complimenting me and mentioning how he wants a girl to enter his life. He was always attending stuff I invited him to. He would initiate calls. But recently, I was the one to initiate a call/text. Now he's closed off. He's a friend who I've only got to talking these last few months. Do you think something I did caused him to lose interest that quick?
Asker

1 mo
Do you think I looked overeager?

Answer 24

Asker

Thanks. I just wonder at what point he lost interest. We talked ok the phone a couple days ago for hours and he kept complimenting me and mentioning how he wants a girl to enter his life. He was always attending stuff I invited him to. He would initiate calls. But recently, I was the one to initiate a call/text. Now he's closed off. He's a friend who I've only got to talking these last few months. Do you think something I did caused him to lose interest that quick?

Answer 25

Asker

Do you think I looked overeager?

Answer 26

charlean | 53 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

Nah;

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Answer 27

es20490446e | 4.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Nope.

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