Ignoring me or missed the message?

[Anonymous]

A guy I used to work with and I were super close. We know each other better than we know ourselves, he said I'm his best friend, and that I'm like family. We spent our days at work laughing our heads off, with him always doing dumb stuff to get my attention. I miss it. He truly was/is one of my best friends. All of our coworkers either think we're a thing or on our way to it.

When he left, we had a sweet goodbye bye, basically said we hoped to stay in each other's lives, that sort of stuff. I saw him a few weeks later, it was a sweet reunion, etc. The next couple times I saw him, he was stressed and just in an antisocial mood. I truly don't think his lack of a conversation was personal. He was basically out of my life, until I saw him last week. We didn't think we'd see each other at this thing, and I can't tell you how shocked and excited he was. He seemed SO happy to see me. He gave me a hug, and we chatted for a few minutes. He said he missed, and that he'd reply if I reached out.

Here's the kicker- I reached out. He did in fact not reply. I sent him a brief WhatsApp messgae, and an old photo I found. After consulting a friend, I decided that there's a significant chance he doesn't even still have WhatsApp since we just used it for work. So I sent him a DM on Instagram a few hours ago, and added that I was sorry if he received the message twice. Dude has been on Instagram multiple times. I don't typically look at my dm box and will sometimes miss notifications, so it could be that, but he has been on Insta. Basically, I'm so confused because this is such a contrast from this time last week. Thoughts? Am I being dramatic, or is he ignoring me?

[Anonymous]

Are you guys already friends on IG? If not then he may not recognize your profile and left it alone for now. If you were already friends then I guess he just isn’t prioritizing your message, which I think says a lot about where you stand.


Honestly, this may be one of those situations where you were super close because you worked together and now that you don’t, you’re seeing that the friendship may not have been what you thought it was. I know that’s like impossible to fathom, especially after he seemed so stoked to see you recently but it happens all the time.


Graduating high school and never speaking to those super close friends again, spending years at a job working with someone only for one of you to leave and you slowly drift apart or don’t talk again altogether. It would be nice to have some formal goodbyes but I’m sure he just doesn’t want the confrontation or he doesn’t necessarily mean to distance himself on purpose. Its hurtful but you can’t let it matter more to you than it does to him.

[Anonymous]

What are your intentions towards them