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I (20F) don't know if he (25M) is playing me but I don't want to waste his time or mine, where is this going and is he telling the truth?

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I met "Sam" on tinder recently. He's physically a little out of my league, I thought we'd have a good day together, hook-up and then never talk again. When we met however, we got along like a house on fire. I've never had a first date go so well. We have so much in common, similar history and struggles, it's like I would think something and he would say it. I hooked up with him and thought that would be it, but he wanted to see me again and again. Second date went even better. And third date was amazing, too. He sent me the messages below, he sounded invested and yet simultaneously unsure about this? Here's where I made a big mistake though, my best friend became very suspicious of how this was going and told me I was ignoring red flags (his recent break up, v high body count, sleeping together on the first date, he doesn't have his life in order as he just moved here) and told me he sounds like a disorganized fuckboy, I should end things before he does. I was hurt but I know she wants the best for me and I thought there was some truth to her argument. I spoke to him about it and the entire dynamic changed. He didn't like her assuming he's playing me, because we're both having a good time and agreed on no expectations (but he previously told me that he wants us to see where this goes in a few months and doesn't want me seeing anyone else) He assured me he's here to stay and see where things go, that he really likes me and has enjoyed my company, we're going to be spending a lot of time together. Except now he doesn't want to see me as often, I can't tell if he's playing hard to get or if he doesn't feel the same. He could be busy, he just moved here and has a lot to sort out. But he tells me every day that he's not going anywhere. I feel stupid. We're both still honest about being on tinder despite him saying he'd stop. And besides, I'd delete it tomorrow for him. I feel like he saw this going somewhere, and now he doesn't, but his words make him sound invested?
I (20F) dont know if he (25M) is playing me but I dont want to waste his time or mine, where is this going and is he telling the truth?
I (20F) dont know if he (25M) is playing me but I dont want to waste his time or mine, where is this going and is he telling the truth?
I (20F) don't know if he (25M) is playing me but I don't want to waste his time or mine, where is this going and is he telling the truth?
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