Is he playing me? What's going on with him?

[Anonymous]

So there's this guy with whom I had been talking the past three months. We met at work and while I immediately took an instant dislike of him, he managed to weasel his way in my good graces! At first we were talking only when bumping at each other, small talk, at some point he asked if he could friend me on Facebook! When he first messaged me it was all innocent, nothing prepared me of how bold he will grow with his sexual innuendos and later on be more upfront on his desires to bed me! He's not bad looking and I'm a single woman, I thought a little flirting here and there wouldn't hurt anyone! What he wasn't clear on from the start though was that he only wanted sex & nothing more! When it became clear to me, I confronted him about it and explained while there's clearly some chemistry between us, I don't do sex buddies only! I thought that would be the end for us! Although he toned down his sexual innuendos while messaging me he still manages to be suggestive now and then although I was crystal clear that if you want that to happen you'll be mine, he grew bolder in person throwing a comment or two about the sexual tension and all! I'm still standing strong on "no one night stand policy"he knows that, we had a fight a few days ago because he acted like a jealous boyfriend when I didn't reply to his messages immediately since I was out with my girlfriends! He said I did it out of spite!!! Like what? I'm dumbfounded! We're not together! Aside from him tagging along for a stroll to a park near my house a few times, he hasn't made any move to hold my hand, or kiss me or ask me out on a date!! I don't understand him at all! Sometimes I think he's playing me, tries to wear me down to sleep with him, it's like a challenge to him now! Other times I believe he's genuinely interested in me since any time I'll message him to meet me, he'll be there almost immediately! What do you think? Is he only after sex or more? Should I end this before I fall for him for real?

[Anonymous]

It's important to trust your instincts and prioritize your own well-being in this situation. Based on the information you've provided, it seems like this guy is primarily interested in a sexual relationship and has been persistent in his advances, even after you made your boundaries clear. His behavior, such as being suggestive and acting possessive, could be red flags.

If you're looking for more than just a casual fling and he's not respecting your boundaries, it might be best to end the relationship or at least have a serious conversation with him about your expectations and see if he's willing to change his approach. Ultimately, you should make a decision that feels right for you and ensures your emotional and physical safety. If you feel that he's not genuinely interested in a more meaningful connection, it might be best to move on before investing more emotions in the relationship.

[spartan55]

All guys want sex. Some guys want the relationship that goes along with it too.

[Nikki1989]

Of course, he is. That is what most men do best.

[Anonymous]

Why would a man play you?