Why do people claim I am mentally unstable?

[Inthecraphole]

I am 27 and never had a real girlfriend before. Just because I only want a woman who is like me who has never had her first love or a boyfriend before, this makes me mentally unstable? Just because I am considering surrogacy or adoption as an option to still be a dad makes me crazy?

[Anonymous]

I think people say that bc you go after young impressionable teenagers to date and that you have a very strict criteria for dating which stems from your insecurities that she might leave you for someone from her past.

[Inthecraphole]

It is not so much the actual action of her leaving. It is the hypothetical situation that exists to where she can reunite with someone from her youth and it be a sweeter, more desirable outcome. Plus, first loves are special, and I don't want to give my heart to a woman who has given hers to someone else before me.

[Opinion Owner]

My point exactly, you’re feeling insecure over something hypothetical and it just screams red flag 🚩 First loves aren’t that special anw, mine was painful and I never want to have anything to do with him anymore. What’s special is the current guy I’m dating, even tho we weren’t each other’s first loves but he’s gonna be my last one for sure and I think that’s much more important

[lfiel475]

No. We all have our path in life and anyone who's judging you for yours, needs to take a look in the mirror.

[Recurrence]

I think that you having this big of a reaction to it is at least a sign of some insecurities

[okeydoke]

Not crazy, but definitely unreasonable as far as dating.