Does an attractive man to whom many women are attracted, seem even more attractive/interesting to you if he shows you only very little interest?

[Tonytoutouni123]

Yes

No

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I know that's what "some" men believe about women, but speaking for "this" woman, that would be a huge no.. First of all, I don't find someone attractive just because other women do, that's just stupid lol
Secondly, why the hell would I feel more attracted to someone who shows little to no interest in me? Again, that would be stupid..
Playing hard to get don't work, whether it's a woman or a man doing it...

[Tonytoutouni123]

@Brainsbeforebeauty
wouldn't such a "hard to get“ man be a challenge and therefore more interesting to you than the man who has a crush on you anyway?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

No it wouldn't.. I don't play them kinda games and someone who does is a turn off not turn on

[Tonytoutouni123]

@Brainsbeforebeauty

What I don't understand:
In the poll, almost all women claim the same as you do. But in my daily life whenever I open tiktok/instagram/youtube etc.. I see videos like these all the time (please watch):
1. www.tiktok.com/.../6993352496852798725
2. www.tiktok.com/.../6962986780131970309
3. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhmjhH/
4. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhhUnA/

I cannot believe that these videos are only exceptions because the comment section is full of women who confirm it and men who can not understand it.

How do the results of my poll fit with these videos?
Do you have an idea?
Please tell me honestly, whether it could be that there is a spark of truth to these videos.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah no thanks.. And you shouldn't believe everything you see on the internet, especially tick tock

[Ninani]

He's more attractive when he shows me interest despite being noticed by several other women. I wouldn't care for him if he doesn't care for me, it's not worth my energy.

[Tonytoutouni123]

@ninani
@laura123iu
What I don't understand:
In the poll, almost all women claim the same as you do. But in my daily life whenever I open tiktok/instagram/youtube etc.. I see videos like these all the time (please watch):

1. www.tiktok.com/.../6993352496852798725
2. www.tiktok.com/.../6962986780131970309
3. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhmjhH/
4. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhhUnA/

I cannot believe that these videos are only exceptions because the comment section is full of women who confirm it and men who can not understand it.

How do the results of my poll fit with these videos?
Do you have an idea?
Please tell me honestly, whether it could be that there is a spark of truth to these videos.

[Ninani]

The women you show me in those tiktoks live in a world of drama and toxic relationships. All their friends and acquaintances act the same way, so they believe that's how they should behave as well. They close off their emotions and put on a toxic front to fit in and not get hurt by the people doing the same to them. A genuine nice guy is seen as weak in that world. It doesn't matter that they probably could like him more, they don't even consider it because it's all about perception.

[Anonymous]

Most of this happens on the subconscious level and would take both self awareness, and an ability to put ones ego aside to answer truthfully.

Do another survey and ask if women prefer badboys or nice guys and you will get the same outcome... don't waste your time.

[Zenpanda]

I'm going to answer this as a bisexual. Why would I care if if someone is attractive to others?
And second, if they show little interest in me, why would that make me want them more?
Nah, I'll go for equal attraction.

[Tonytoutouni123]

Thanks for your opinion

[Hellothere543212]

I think honestly to some females, yes.

I believe it is dependent on what stage of life that girl is at. If she wants to have fun and more of a sex based or casual relationship, then she will find this intriguing.

Essentially, if she wants to have fun, then she is going to go for the adrenaline stimulating relationship that is essentially a game.

If she wants a relationship, she will want security, affection and consistency.

[Tonytoutouni123]

@Hellothere543212

Thank you for your opinion.

[hopromantic]

Sorry that only works in movies and middle school. No real woman would find this attracting or interesting.

[Tonytoutouni123]

@hopromantic
What I don't understand:
In the poll, almost all women claim the same as you do. But in my daily life whenever I open tiktok/instagram/youtube etc.. I see videos like these all the time (please watch):

1. www.tiktok.com/.../6993352496852798725
2. www.tiktok.com/.../6962986780131970309
3. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhmjhH/
4. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhhUnA/

I cannot believe that these videos are only exceptions because the comment section is full of women who confirm it and men who can not understand it.

How do the results of my poll fit with these videos?
Do you have an idea?
Please tell me honestly, whether it could be that there is a spark of truth to these videos.

[proteus912]

No. If you like someone, you show it. Don't play games. Why would I want to go after someone who shows little interest in me?

[Tonytoutouni123]

@proteus912
I dont know. Maybe because a "hard to get" man appears like a challenge to girls.

In the poll, almost all women claim the same as you do. But in my daily life whenever I open tiktok/instagram/youtube etc.. I see videos like these all the time (please watch):

1. www.tiktok.com/.../6993352496852798725
2. www.tiktok.com/.../6962986780131970309
3. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhmjhH/
4. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhhUnA/

I cannot believe that these videos are only exceptions because the comment section is full of women who confirm it and men who can not understand it.

How do the results of my poll fit with these videos?
Do you have an idea?
Please tell me honestly, whether it could be that there is a spark of truth to these videos.

[proteus912]

It's tik tok, not the real world. It's just content that will get them views

[Sirenboobzilla]

I've actually never really been attracted to the stereotypical "attractive" guy. Always gone for how they talk to me. If he shows me little interest, then I'm just not interested. My partner makes me ugly laugh constantly, and that to me was a massive turn on

[Little_Bumblebee]

No, if someone isn't interested then I back off. It's not attractive.

[Tonytoutouni123]

@Little_Bumblebee
What I don't understand:
In the poll, almost all women claim the same as you do. But in my daily life whenever I open tiktok/instagram/youtube etc.. I see videos like these all the time (please watch):

1. www.tiktok.com/.../6993352496852798725
2. www.tiktok.com/.../6962986780131970309
3. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhmjhH/
4. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhhUnA/

I cannot believe that these videos are only exceptions because the comment section is full of women who confirm it and men who can not understand it.

How do the results of my poll fit with these videos?
Do you have an idea?
Please tell me honestly, whether it could be that there is a spark of truth to these videos.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I watched two if them.

Yeah, it's almost like... women are different *gasp* I know, it sounds surprising. I mean, how can that be? Women be different from one another? Crazy.

[Anonymous]

Difference between girls and women. Women want what’s good for them, girls chase whats bad for them. No it’s not attractive to be ignored. I would simply move on.

[Tonytoutouni123]

At what age do girls become women?

[Opinion Owner]

Technically 18 to be safe lmaoo but really it’s a mindset age is irrelevant. If you’re 30 and acting like a child you’re a child. If you are 18 and have the mindset of an adult you’ll be seen as an adult. It’s a maturity level and a mindset. Some people have Peter Pan syndrome and never grow up.

[nice-girl]

No, I think he seems the same despite the fact that he shows me interest of not

[Tonytoutouni123]

@nice-girl
wouldn't such a "hard to get“ man be a challenge and therefore more interesting to you than the man who has a crush on you anyway?

[nice-girl]

No, just because one is "hard to get" doesn't mean that I will find them attractive

[Tonytoutouni123]

@nice-girl
What I don't understand:
In the poll, almost all women claim the same as you do. But in my daily life whenever I open tiktok/instagram/youtube etc.. I see videos like these all the time (please watch):

1. www.tiktok.com/.../6962986780131970309
2. www.tiktok.com/.../6993352496852798725
3. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhmjhH/
4. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhhUnA/

I cannot believe that these videos are only exceptions because the comment section is full of women who confirm it and men who can not understand it.

How do the results of my poll fit with these videos?
Do you have an idea?
Please tell me honestly, whether it could be that there is a spark of truth to these videos.

[Star_88]

It doesn't matter even if he shows me huge interest if he's flirty with them all.

[Tonytoutouni123]

@Star_88
wouldn't such a "hard to get“ man be a challenge and therefore more interesting to you than the man who has a crush on you anyway?

[Tonytoutouni123]

What I don't understand:
In the poll, almost all women claim the same as you do. But in my daily life whenever I open tiktok/instagram/youtube etc.. I see videos like these all the time (please watch):
1. www.tiktok.com/.../6962986780131970309
2. www.tiktok.com/.../6993352496852798725
3. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhmjhH/
4. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhhUnA/

I cannot believe that these videos are only exceptions because the comment section is full of women who confirm it and men who can not understand it.

How do the results of my poll fit with these videos?
Do you have an idea?
Please tell me honestly, whether it could be that there is a spark of truth to these videos.

[Star_88]

There is truth only if the player is good looking or gave those ladies mixed signals. But I personally ghosted that kinda guy because I'm very very straight about my relationship priorities and have zero tolerance for ANY games. He is ugly for me after I discover how many girls he stringed along.

[Anonymous]

No it’s actually looking like he’s disinterested. I can handle a lot but I hit a threshold and I can disconnect and I’m onto someone else. Or do my own thing.

[Tonytoutouni123]

Okay, let's assume the man doesn't signal any interest to you because he's really not interested in you. So he's not pretending, he is really not interested. But he's very attractive. Does the fact that he is not interested in you make you want him even more?

Do you find attractive men even more attractive when they don't seem interested in you than when they seem interested in you? Do these men come of as a "challenge"?

[Opinion Owner]

So you’re not interested in me?

[Tonytoutouni123]

Yes let’s say I am not interested in you but I look very attractive.

I would be "hard to get“. Wouldn't that make me a challenge for you and therefore more interesting than if I had a crush on you anyway and you knew it?

[Opinion Owner]

Why are you doing this to me

[Tonytoutouni123]

Cause in the poll, almost all women claim the same as you do. But in my daily life whenever I open tiktok/instagram/youtube etc.. I see videos like these all the time (please watch):

1. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhmjhH/
2. www.tiktok.com/.../6993352496852798725
3. www.tiktok.com/.../6962986780131970309
4. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhhUnA/

I cannot believe that these videos are only exceptions because the comment section is full of women who confirm it and men who can not understand it.

How do the results of my poll fit with these videos?
Do you have an idea?
Please tell me honestly, whether it could be that there is a spark of truth to these videos.

[ushagomez]

No, he would just seem arrogant and self-centred and there be a little or no interest to me

[Tonytoutouni123]

@ushagomez
wouldn't such a "hard to get“ man be a challenge and therefore more interesting to you than the man who has a crush on you anyway?

[ushagomez]

I prefer neither crush nor narcissist.

[Tonytoutouni123]

@ushagomez

Ok thanks for your opinion :)

[DizzyDesii]

Nah i rather go for the hot lonewolf who other girls rarely notice for some reason

[Tonytoutouni123]

What if it seems to you, that this hot lonewolf is not interested in you? Does it make you want him even more?

Do you find attractive men even more attractive when they don't seem interested in you than when they seem interested in you? Do these men come of as a "challenge"?

[Tonytoutouni123]

@DizzyDesii

[DizzyDesii]

Nah its too many options in this world to go for the one who doesn't want you in return

[Tonytoutouni123]

@DizzyDesii
What I don't understand:
In the poll, almost all women claim the same as you do. But in my daily life whenever I open tiktok/instagram/youtube etc.. I see videos like these all the time (please watch):

1. www.tiktok.com/.../6962986780131970309
2. www.tiktok.com/.../6993352496852798725
3. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhmjhH/
4. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhhUnA/

I cannot believe that these videos are only exceptions because the comment section is full of women who confirm it and men who can not understand it.

How do the results of my poll fit with these videos?
Do you have an idea?
Please tell me honestly, whether it could be that there is a spark of truth to these videos.

[Tonytoutouni123]

Sry the 2. link doesn't work. Here again: www.tiktok.com/.../6993352496852798725

[DizzyDesii]

Theyre insta attention hoes. You can't trust them

[keareeve]

not at all. if he isn’t interested, he can just say that. if he’s purposely showing no interest to look “cool”, then he’s just making himself less attractive lol

[Tonytoutouni123]

Ok, let’s assume he doesn’t pretend to look cool, he just really isn’t into you but he is very attractive:

wouldn't such a "hard to get“ man be a challenge and therefore more interesting to you than the man who has a crash on you anyway?

[Tonytoutouni123]

@keareeve

[keareeve]

no, he’s less attractive. it really doesn’t matter that he’s physically good looking… it’s creepy to keep pushing for something with someone who’s clearly uninterested. i’ll have way more fun with someone interested in being with me, so i’m not going to waste my time on someone who doesn’t care.

[Tonytoutouni123]

@keareeve
Ok but what I don't understand:
In the poll, almost all women claim the same as you do. But in my daily life whenever I open tiktok/instagram/youtube etc.. I see videos like these all the time (please watch):
1. www.tiktok.com/.../6993352496852798725
2. www.tiktok.com/.../6962986780131970309
3. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhmjhH/
4. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhhUnA/

I cannot believe that these videos are only exceptions because the comment section is full of women who confirm it and men who can not understand it.

How do the results of my poll fit with these videos?
Do you have an idea?
Please tell me honestly, whether it could be that there is a spark of truth to these videos.

[keareeve]

soo you’re not understanding that woman can have different preferences? you asked our opinion on this topic and we all told you OUR preferences. you just happened to hit a group of women who.. find mind games and 0 effort a waste of time. i don’t understand why women would be attracted to a guy who doesn’t care. i find men like that ugly, no matter how “hot” you claim he is. those tiktoks are made by women who think the opposite. you’re not getting the answer you want because not every woman likes the same type of man, we don’t understand it either if we aren’t attracted to it lol. it’s really not a hard concept to grasp.

[menina]

No he doesn't. That doesn't even make sense to me. I know what is like to be rejected so I obviously I wouldn't be interested in someone who isn't interested in me.

[Anonymous]

A guy who upright shoes his interest and is clear about it is 100 times more attractive than any guy who fakes disinterest or plays games

[Tonytoutouni123]

Okay, let's assume the man doesn't signal any interest to you because he's really not interested in you. So he's not pretending, he is really not interested. But he's very attractive. Does the fact that he is not interested in you make you want him even more?

Do you find attractive men even more attractive when they don't seem interested in you than when they seem interested in you? Do these men come of as a "challenge"?

[Opinion Owner]

Okay interesting question. The answer is no not at all. If I see a man who is very attractive and he shows me no interest at all, I forget about him and have no further thoughts towards him. However, if a guy who is very attractive opens a conversation or says hi or strikes up conversation with me then I'd probably think about him a bit more and if he showed some kind of romantic interest then I'd be interested back.

I think this will answer it for you;
Men are competitive breeders, so men want to mate with a high level female, so you see women who are "a challenge" as worth pursuing. Men have pursuit instincts built in. Women don't have that, we are selective breeders so we select healthy males and those that appear like they'd be good mates. But this is the important part, we are selective, so we don't pursue.

[Tonytoutouni123]

Ok but what I don't understand:
In the poll, almost all women claim the same as you do. But in my daily life whenever I open tiktok/instagram/youtube etc.. I see videos like these all the time (please watch):
1. www.tiktok.com/.../6962986780131970309
2. www.tiktok.com/.../6993352496852798725
3. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhmjhH/
4. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhhUnA/

I cannot believe that these videos are only exceptions because the comment section is full of women who confirm it and men who can not understand it.

How do the results of my poll fit with these videos?
Do you have an idea?
Please tell me honestly, whether it could be that there is a spark of truth to these videos.

[Gwenhwyfar]

No but a lot of women will fall for that old trick

[Tonytoutouni123]

@gwenhwyfar
Ok thank you

[Avicenna]

Yeah, a lot of women still will be attracted because they can envision themselves with him.

[laura123iu]

no he just seems like an asshole and id move on

[Tonytoutouni123]

@laura123iu
What I don't understand:
In the poll, almost all women claim the same as you do. But in my daily life whenever I open tiktok/instagram/youtube etc.. I see videos like these all the time (please watch):

1. www.tiktok.com/.../6993352496852798725
2. www.tiktok.com/.../6962986780131970309
3. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhmjhH/
4. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhhUnA/

I cannot believe that these videos are only exceptions because the comment section is full of women who confirm it and men who can not understand it.

How do the results of my poll fit with these videos?
Do you have an idea?
Please tell me honestly, whether it could be that there is a spark of truth to these videos.

[laura123iu]

i guess it depends on your culture and background. it's like how guys like women that argue or yell at them or get jealous easily, they think the sex will be good if they get with someone with poor attitudes/personalities. that's why a lot of people stay in abusive relationships lol. but most of all if you accept this kind of treatment you're have a really low self esteem or you're crazy.

[tatianamay]

No, absolutely not. Im not a fucking simp

[Tonytoutouni123]

Okay, let's assume the man doesn't signal any interest to you because he's really not interested in you. So he's not pretending, he is really not interested. But he's very attractive. Does the fact that he is not interested in you make you want him even more?

Do you find attractive men even more attractive when they don't seem interested in you than when they seem interested in you? Do these men come of as a "challenge"?

[Tonytoutouni123]

@tatianamay

[tatianamay]

Why the fuck would I be interested in a guy who is NOT interested in me?

If I liked a guy, I would tell him. Or at least, i would try to supress my feelings (only because im not allowed to date until im 21) so i would NOT give a fuck if he is imterested in me or not.. until im 21. Lets say im 21 now, and im interested in a guy. I woukd be upfront about my intentions with him. Im not the type of girl who plays silly ass mind games. And if he makes it clear that he is not interested in me, I would move on and find a different guy. I would NOT be interested in that guy anymore.

I find a man attractive when he is honest and tells me what he wants from me. Now thats the definition of a real man

[tatianamay]

Why the fuck are you tagging me? Im the only one in this comment thread.. no need to tag again 🙄

[Tonytoutouni123]

Sry I've tagged you to make sure you'll see my reply because that way you probably get another notification.

"Why the fuck would I be interested in a guy who is NOT interested in me?"

I suspected that a "hard to get“ man may come off as a challenge and therefore could be more interesting to you than the man you know for sure has a crush on you anyway.

[tatianamay]

No, its fine, dont worry. Sorry for being rude. I got into an argument with someone and they got on my nerves.

What? No. Absolutely not. Any self respecting woman who knows what she wants, would not play stupid games. Nor would they entertain such type of behavior. I ain't gonna let anyone treat me like shit. Im worth way more than that. Why would i even waste my time with a man who is playing these mind games with me? Sounds stupid

[Tonytoutouni123]

No problem 🙂

What I don't understand:
In the poll, almost all women claim the same as you do. But in my daily life whenever I open tiktok/instagram/youtube etc.. I see videos like these all the time (please watch):

1. www.tiktok.com/.../6962986780131970309
2. www.tiktok.com/.../6993352496852798725
3. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhmjhH/
4. http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhhUnA/

I cannot believe that these videos are only exceptions because the comment section is full of women who confirm it and men who can not understand it.

How do the results of my poll fit with these videos?
Do you have an idea?
Please tell me honestly, whether it could be that there is a spark of truth to these videos.

[Tonytoutouni123]

Sry the first two links donˋt work.
Here again:
www.tiktok.com/.../6962986780131970309

www.tiktok.com/.../6993352496852798725

[JosyJosy]

Nope mixed signals and I'll move on

[Tonytoutouni123]

@JosyJosy
Ok, let’s assume, he just really isn’t into you but he is very attractive:

wouldn't such a "hard to get“ man be a challenge and therefore more interesting to you than the man who has a crush on you anyway?

[JosyJosy]

Nah I wouldn't care. If he's not interested, my interest in him would be gone

[Tonytoutouni123]

@JosyJosy
Ok thanks for your opinion.
What I don't understand:
In the poll, almost all women claim the same as you do. But in my daily life whenever I open tiktok/instagram/youtube etc.. I see videos like these all the time (please watch):

www.tiktok.com/.../6993352496852798725

http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhmjhH/

http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhhUnA/

http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8GhCvUv/

http://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8Ge8fBR/

I cannot believe that these videos are only exceptions because the comment section is full of women who confirm it and men who can not understand it.

How do the results of my poll fit with these videos?
Do you have an idea?
Please tell me very honestly, whether it could be that there is a spark of truth to these videos.

[Tonytoutouni123]

www.tiktok.com/.../6962986780131970309

[JosyJosy]

Many will act the same way like me, many will not. Many different individuals on this planet you know.