Why do I keep accidentally saying stupid things?

[Anonymous]

I keep saying stupid things or misunderstanding what people say and saying the wrong thing. For instance, my friend said she was lying in bed in the middle of the day on our group text and I said hhahahahah because I thought she was just being lazy. Then I found out she had been ill and therefore bedridden and I had laughed at it? Like I didn’t know but I keep saying stupid things. How can I stop doing this?

[Evealyn]

It's because you're kind of slow. That's how most autistic people are like. They don't understand when they are being obnoxious and when to shut up. Sometimes as a kid they learn when they're being obnoxious because they were constantly skulled for it. But the difference in your case might've been your parents treated you like a pampered princess and you never learnt when to shut up or they did and you just weren't getting it. It'll be harder as an adult because most people try to be polite and try not to offend you. And it'll be hard for you to tell if the person is annoyed. Maybe a interpersonal skills coach.

[bredtaleth]

It seems you're working on the basic path towards recovery: Mindlessly saying stuff and not paying attention properly. That is, a lot of stupid stuff you will say is due to these things, so the fact that you stop and ask should mean you're on the right path. Unless you're just stupid, of course ;)

I've misundestood people a lot, and have often felt like I didn't understand what most people were talking about. Some people just lack situational awareness or aren't that savvy in regards to social interaction. Just don't take it too heavilty, and you'll be fine. Sometimes saying something stupid or out of place can be the perfect ice breaker that people need.

[Wise4myage]

Try to always think before you speak, and never be in a rush.

[kyleelyn199723]

Well it’s easy to say stupid things during texting because you can’t read emotion through text messages. She also didn’t specify that she was feeling sick until you reacted that way, so that doesn’t help either

[Asker]

She literally didn’t even specify it, I found out later from someone else and then felt really bad

[kyleelyn199723]

Yeah that’s not your fault.