Why am I so stupid?

[Anonymous]

I'm just so like stupid.
when I was in high school and in school I missed a lot and would skip school. I got sick a lot and missed a lot of days. Which I was placed on an IEP which is special classes. some of my classes were normal but I missed a bunch of school throughout middle and high school. My psychology class one day took a IQ test and I got like 73. like am I able to live on my own? thats borderline mental disability. I feel so worthless and by my not changing and repetitive posts I now see why I'm just plain stupid... I wouldn't have a car if I wasn't paying it off from my mom. I wouldn't have a home if I wasn't living here. I help out with the bills. But I feel so stupid, and so incompetent. I struggle with tests.. I feel so stupid. sometimes things don't click with me. if I'm intellectually disabled I wanna know. Because I can kinda prepare for it. I was working with disabled adults for a while and I quit because I felt like "this is me" I don't know if I'm overthinking it but I'm so worried. how can I find out if I am? I feel really mentally disabled. I am in therapy and I have depression and anxiety. But, the thing is I am 24 still living at home, I have a half paralyzed dog, and I feel stupid. Compared to my friends, they are smart and quick witted and for me I feel like sometimes they boss me around. I don't know if it's due to lack of self esteem and confidence but I worked with mentally disabled adults and I mean I am not as bad as them (NOT BEING MEAN) but I feel like a step down I would be. I have a hard time talking I got social anxiety and I am introverted. Sometimes it takes a while to process stuff, I know the basics of life I can take care of my laundry, cleaning, and taking care of my dog. But even then I feel like he goes neglected because I worry about myself a lot. I get stuck in my own brain, and I have a hard time with reading because I get distracted easily so I have to keep reading it over.

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I do have ADD and struggled with reading comprehension In school as well with math. AND science. I loved English class and always got good grades there. But I don't know. I'm quiet and am trying to talk more for my social anxiety to help with it.

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It scares me, it really does.

[cryscrys1]

You came to a conclusion you are stupid or incompetent because you are comparing yourself to others and don’t fit the picture of the “smart people”. You are making your life hard and falling into manmade traps.
You failed tests in school etc AND?
You think you process things slowly etc AND?
Thing is you are brainwashed into thinking man made rules are meant to be fulfilling to the T. Well you are WRONG
You are a human into this temporary world fuck you are here now and tmrw you are dead.. and YOU ARE AS YOU ARE don’t overthink too much. You have to love yourself. Just be happy with what you have and do. Future is unknown.. you don’t have your house etc..) well you never know you might have your own place some days. YOU KNOW life isn't easy even people who work day and night can’t survive a “happy life “ so its totally normal to have a hard time. It’s called life..
Keep your head up and be proud as you are as who you are. Fuck others. Don’t think too much don’t take life so SERIOUS. I like you somehow I wish I was your friend you are an Empath. You can make a human happy your thoughts and sensitivity has grown you so much.
Im proud of you. Don’t fall into human man made shit.
You are A M A I Z I N G

[Anonymous]

Number of times you said you were stupid = 5

There are a number of other times where you describe yourself negatively too, worthless, mentally disabled etc.

It is obvious to me that you are anything but stupid just from your command of language, that is not your problem.

Your problem is a lack of self love, you spend all your time saying awful things about yourself in your head, is it any wonder that you are anxious and depressed?

Do you think if you had a child and you told them they were stupid a thousand times every day that they would believe it?

Stop doing that to yourself.

You must become aware of the things you are thinking and saying to / about yourself, be mindful, you must catch yourself in the act and correct this behaviour, replacing it with more kind, loving and encouraging language.

You wouldn't speak to a friend like that so dont speak like that to yourself.

Your poisonous mind will probably want to throw up this idea that if you really are stupid then avoiding saying that is some how a lie and therefore you should continue your campaign of toxic self destruction forever, but even if it were true that you are stupid and I dont think you are, that isn't what this is about; this is about framing reality in a positive way, in a way which allows you to engage with and live your life, it is about trying even when you fear you will fail.

Regardless of whatever your situation is or what abilities you may or may not have your chances of succeeding and being happy etc will always be better when you are supporting and encouraging yourself.

[TommyMountainFigure]

A lot of people act before they think and they screw up. You're doing the reverse. You think too hard before you act.
Try and get the balance right. Get use to thinking for a second or two THEN act.. see if that helps

[Asker]

I will try that. Thank you.

[TommyMountainFigure]

You're welcome.. Would you let me know how you get on?

[Asker]

I will! Thanks for your helpful advice.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It's not something I have ever suggested before so it's just a theory that came to me, but it seems logical, and if you get anywhere with it it might be something we can help other people with in future.

[Asker]

I'm just very cautious and overthink everything. But yes it sure would.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Out of curiosity. If I asked you why you were so cautious.. what would your answer be?

[Asker]

Just to protect myself

[TommyMountainFigure]

I think I have a way of helping you.. When you say protecting yourself.. you're scared if you say something wrong. people will jump all over you and make you feel insignificant? IF that is the case (solution coming up in a sec)

[TommyMountainFigure]

Go here.. https://onelinefun. com/insults/

Write down and learn the best ones from all 31 pages

Once these are in your repertoire, you can go around being yourself in the knowledge you have these put downs to fall back on should you need them. ONCE you've built up your confidence I doubt you'll need them
What ya think?

[SnakeBoop]

@TommyMountainFigure she's a troll on an alt so probably dont bother

[TommyMountainFigure]

@SnakeBoop Maybe, maybe not. That won't stop me trying to see the best in people, and if there is even a remote chance I can help someone, then I am going try.

[SnakeBoop]

No maybe not. It literally is. 🤦‍♀️🤣

[KoolKidKv93]

cos u was born like it, im stupid too, jus look at the comment i wrote

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Stupid you are NOT!

[In_Trance]

Live and learn