I'm 14 and I like a 17 year old, what do I do?

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I've had a crush on him for over a year:(

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1 mo

Never mind he rejected me

Answer 1

funtime_01

Xper 3

You wait until you are 16, at the age of consent to do anything about it. You are under the age of consent and a minor. This lad is at the cusp of being a legal adult and over the age of consent. I know you like this boy, but at the end of the day if anything happened between you two, he would be committing a serious crime as you are under 16, and that will stay with him for the rest of his life. You should also think about yourself being potentially manipulated by someone 3 years older than you, being 14. Keep yourself safe and wait until you reach the age of consent.

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Asker

1 mo
Okay thank you!
funtime_01

1 mo
I was sort of in your predicament when I was in 14, liked a girl who was 16. Honestly wait until you are 16 at least. You'll have mentally matured massively by then too, not saying you are immature, but you're young and quite vulnerable because of that. Best of luck, know it's painful liking someone that much, but keep safe!
Asker

1 mo
Thank you, but it's ok he rejected me. Either way I might like someone older in the future again so this advice is helpful. Thank you!
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funtime_01

1 mo
Don't worry about the rejection. You'll grow up and in another few years will meet someone who will really like you. No problem, wish you all the best things in the world my friend!

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Asker

Okay thank you!

Answer 3

funtime_01

I was sort of in your predicament when I was in 14, liked a girl who was 16. Honestly wait until you are 16 at least. You'll have mentally matured massively by then too, not saying you are immature, but you're young and quite vulnerable because of that. Best of luck, know it's painful liking someone that much, but keep safe!

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Asker

Thank you, but it's ok he rejected me. Either way I might like someone older in the future again so this advice is helpful. Thank you!

Answer 5

funtime_01

Don't worry about the rejection. You'll grow up and in another few years will meet someone who will really like you. No problem, wish you all the best things in the world my friend!

Answer 6

Kaneki05 | 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

In reality the gap is not a issue like in a couple years it would be a 19 with 16.
But the major problem with it is more the way grades work. Like over here a 14 and 17 would be year 9 with someone who is in collage which yeah not good.
Now someone in year 11 is not something anyone blinks at. That would indeed be seen normal by anyone here.
So yeah really have to wait until your in last year of school really to be with this guy.

It's a long time though and if he does leave school or already has then he will find someone most likely of his age at work, collage or wherever he is. So this crush won't really work out realistically

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Asker

1 mo
You're right, and he rejected me so it's all good now. I'm actually happy he did!
Kaneki05

1 mo
Good :) I am sure you will find someone
Asker

1 mo
I hope so, thank you!

Answer 7

Asker

You're right, and he rejected me so it's all good now. I'm actually happy he did!

Answer 8

Kaneki05

Good :) I am sure you will find someone

Answer 9

Asker

I hope so, thank you!

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Aerissa_Jade | 233 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

Be friends, but wait until your older. Also don't invest solely into him, it will break your heart if/when he gets with someone else older.

Keep your options open for now, someone closer to your age. Learn, grow and get experience. When your 16 or 18 if your still friends that would be the time to make a move.

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Asker

1 mo
Thank you!

Answer 11

Asker

Thank you!

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Starla1234 | 86 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Talk to him and see where it goes... if he’s nice and you get along and hang out a bit and decide you want to date him, then do it ! 3 years age difference is no big deal at all. But make sure it is safe to hang around him.. don’t want him to end up being a weirdo

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Asker

1 mo
Thank you! Actually he's not, he's a very nice guy even my mom likes him.

Answer 13

Asker

Thank you! Actually he's not, he's a very nice guy even my mom likes him.

Answer 14

Deathly_Pheonix

Xper 5

Honestly. That is okay, it happens. We can't help you we like. But do understand that at a young age, the gap is too much and woth him being 17, he likely is looking for sex more, and I'm not saying you aren't ready, but age of consent in most places is 16 or 18, and if you aren't ready, he may try to push you to do things you dont want to do unfortunately.
Maybe this time, it's better to window shop than actually going for it. Look but dont touch, kinda deal

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Asker

1 mo
Yeah you're right, it's ok though he doesn't like me so I guess God has better plans.

Answer 15

Asker

Yeah you're right, it's ok though he doesn't like me so I guess God has better plans.

Answer 16

doopayo

Yoda

They’re way too old, just keep it as a crush. Trust me Any guy that age that goes for girls your age is bad news and will just try to use you

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Asker

1 mo
Thank you, I will try my best. ❤️

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Asker

Thank you, I will try my best. ❤️

Answer 18

Apulu_3 | 53 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Be friends for now and wait till you at least turn 16. This age gap is close yet not very safe.

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Asker

1 mo
Thank you, but he is a really nice guy. Even my mom likes him a lot.
Apulu_3

1 mo
If your parents know about the relationship then there is no problem at all because even if he would want to hurt you then also he couldn't as your parents will be at your back. I think if your parents like him then he must be really a good person not pretending to be good. If you wish you can have a relationship then no one will stop you go ahead but inform your parents about everything. Do everything under their eyes only. Don't hide anything. If he isn't comfortable with your parents knowing about the relationship that means it is a red flag. But the way you describe him on top of that your mom also likes him it means he is safe. All left is to confess! But concentrate on your studies too. Don't forget everything for a relationship because relationships can happen later but there is no second chance for study. So if you want to stay in a relationship with him then ensure these things:
•Tell your parents about the relationship and if they aren't happy then don't do a relationship know because they think of your good only. But in the end when you are at least 16 you can always have it.
•Concentrate on your studies too as relationship can be happened later but studies can't.

If you ensure these things then yes you can have a safe relationship.
Asker

1 mo
Okay thank you so much!
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Apulu_3

1 mo
Your welcome. I hope it was helpful
Apulu_3

1 mo
Well life goes on. You always have someone better next time 😊

Answer 19

Asker

Thank you, but he is a really nice guy. Even my mom likes him a lot.

Answer 20

Apulu_3

If your parents know about the relationship then there is no problem at all because even if he would want to hurt you then also he couldn't as your parents will be at your back. I think if your parents like him then he must be really a good person not pretending to be good. If you wish you can have a relationship then no one will stop you go ahead but inform your parents about everything. Do everything under their eyes only. Don't hide anything. If he isn't comfortable with your parents knowing about the relationship that means it is a red flag. But the way you describe him on top of that your mom also likes him it means he is safe. All left is to confess! But concentrate on your studies too. Don't forget everything for a relationship because relationships can happen later but there is no second chance for study. So if you want to stay in a relationship with him then ensure these things:
•Tell your parents about the relationship and if they aren't happy then don't do a relationship know because they think of your good only. But in the end when you are at least 16 you can always have it.
•Concentrate on your studies too as relationship can be happened later but studies can't.

If you ensure these things then yes you can have a safe relationship.

Answer 21

Asker

Okay thank you so much!

Answer 22

Apulu_3

Your welcome. I hope it was helpful

Answer 23

Apulu_3

Well life goes on. You always have someone better next time 😊

Answer 24

Cubus | 251 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

Be careful. Guys at this age are immature and care mostly about sex.

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Asker

1 mo
I will, thanks!

Answer 25

Asker

I will, thanks!

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VikingWarLord | 413 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

You're too young to have a crush on anything other than your stuffed animals and your doggy or kitty kat. And do your homework !

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Asker

1 mo
Alright.
Dinosaursandanime65

1 mo
That’s fucking disgusting. Imagine having sex with your pet. This is terrible advice
Asker

1 mo
@Dinosaursandanime65 i don't think that was what he meant but I get what you mean.
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Deathly_Pheonix

1 mo
This is hella dumb. You treat 14 years old like 5 years old. Like I get Asker is young, but they are in the midst of puberty and their emotions are valid. Just because it may not be a good situation doesn't mean you should invalidate them, when you were 14, you were prolly tryna get with every girl you saw
Dinosaursandanime65

1 mo
Having a crush on animals as a human is like everyone simped over Jojo characters
Asker

1 mo
@Deathly_Pheonix THANK YOU SO MUCH! You're literally the first adult who's ACTUALLY understanding.
Dinosaursandanime65

1 mo
BAAAHHH

Answer 27

Asker

Alright.

Answer 28

Dinosaursandanime65

That’s fucking disgusting. Imagine having sex with your pet. This is terrible advice

Answer 29

Asker

@Dinosaursandanime65 i don't think that was what he meant but I get what you mean.

Answer 30

Deathly_Pheonix

This is hella dumb. You treat 14 years old like 5 years old. Like I get Asker is young, but they are in the midst of puberty and their emotions are valid. Just because it may not be a good situation doesn't mean you should invalidate them, when you were 14, you were prolly tryna get with every girl you saw

Answer 31

Dinosaursandanime65

Having a crush on animals as a human is like everyone simped over Jojo characters

Answer 32

Asker

@Deathly_Pheonix THANK YOU SO MUCH! You're literally the first adult who's ACTUALLY understanding.

Answer 33

Dinosaursandanime65

BAAAHHH

Answer 34

Anonymous

When i was 12 i dated a 16yo guy. Best to do is just talk but never do the deed

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Asker

1 mo
I would never do the deed outside marriage

Answer 35

Asker

I would never do the deed outside marriage

Answer 36

BillyBalls | 72 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

17 year old guys might be wanting a sexual relationship also.

At 14 you are way to young for that.

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Asker

1 mo
Right. I personally don't want anything sexual but he probably does so I'll stay away from him.

Answer 37

Asker

Right. I personally don't want anything sexual but he probably does so I'll stay away from him.

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Iron_Man | 13.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

That’s completely natural but you can’t do anything about it you’re not even 18 years old

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Asker

1 mo
And what do I do if he likes me back?
Iron_Man

1 mo
You do Nothing you’re not 18

Answer 39

Asker

And what do I do if he likes me back?

Answer 40

Iron_Man

You do Nothing you’re not 18

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Dinosaursandanime65 | 1.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

So close and yet so far. It’s only value is to your foe.

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Asker

1 mo
It's so frustrating AHHHHG
Dinosaursandanime65

1 mo
Forget it
Asker

1 mo
Easier said than done
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Dinosaursandanime65

1 mo
Just Ash part of yourself
Dinosaursandanime65

1 mo
Learn not to care about some things in certain times.
Asker

1 mo
I will try, thank you.
Dinosaursandanime65

1 mo
It’s not too hard. Just feel it. This will require your face to stay in a blank expression though. Not permanently, just for when you need or want

Answer 42

Asker

It's so frustrating AHHHHG

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Dinosaursandanime65

Forget it

Answer 44

Asker

Easier said than done

Answer 45

Dinosaursandanime65

Just Ash part of yourself

Answer 46

Dinosaursandanime65

Learn not to care about some things in certain times.

Answer 47

Asker

I will try, thank you.

Answer 48

Dinosaursandanime65

It’s not too hard. Just feel it. This will require your face to stay in a blank expression though. Not permanently, just for when you need or want

Answer 49

OddBeMe | 2.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Be scientific about it. What are the traits you like? Is it because he’s your brothers friend?

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Asker

1 mo
No, it's because he's smart, he's kind, he's respectful towards others, me and him have a log in common, similar backgrounds and plans for the future, same opinions about a lot of things, my mom likes him, he's not dry and he's handsome.
OddBeMe

1 mo
great! just don't get over your head and preggers
Asker

1 mo
Ok thank you!
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OddBeMe

1 mo
Don’t get hung up on crushes. I’ve been there. We placed them on pedestals like celebs and they will alway let you down. Honestly he probably did you a favor.
Asker

1 mo
Yes you're right. I also think he did me a favor! I'm actually happy that he rejected me.
OddBeMe

1 mo
He would only disappoint even worse than you are now.

Answer 50

Asker

No, it's because he's smart, he's kind, he's respectful towards others, me and him have a log in common, similar backgrounds and plans for the future, same opinions about a lot of things, my mom likes him, he's not dry and he's handsome.

Answer 51

OddBeMe

great! just don't get over your head and preggers

Answer 52

Asker

Ok thank you!

Answer 53

OddBeMe

Don’t get hung up on crushes. I’ve been there. We placed them on pedestals like celebs and they will alway let you down. Honestly he probably did you a favor.

Answer 54

Asker

Yes you're right. I also think he did me a favor! I'm actually happy that he rejected me.

Answer 55

OddBeMe

He would only disappoint even worse than you are now.

Answer 56

Anonymous

Follow him on instagram but don't have sex with him until u are 18

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Asker

1 mo
I already follow him and I don't want him because of sex.

Answer 57

Asker

I already follow him and I don't want him because of sex.

Answer 58

AviatorTom | 375 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Wait until you're older.

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Asker

1 mo
Okay.

Answer 59

Asker

Okay.

Answer 60

Anonymous

Just go for it you’re both kids. Don’t have sex tho

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Asker

1 mo
I won't but he doesn't like me so it's all good haha.

Answer 61

Asker

I won't but he doesn't like me so it's all good haha.

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Static_In_The_Attic | 469 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

If you like someone tell them, take a chance.

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Asker

1 mo
I'm too shy and I did before, I told him that I liked him before but not anymore. It's a lie though 🥲😭
Static_In_The_Attic

1 mo
Life is all about taking chances & if you want something go for it & if it doesn’t work out move forward.

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Asker

I'm too shy and I did before, I told him that I liked him before but not anymore. It's a lie though 🥲😭

Answer 64

Static_In_The_Attic

Life is all about taking chances & if you want something go for it & if it doesn’t work out move forward.

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jahaims | 1.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Get used for sex. That's all it would be

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Asker

1 mo
Okay I will be careful.

Answer 66

Asker

Okay I will be careful.

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Wise4myage | 4.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Date somebody your own age or a year older.

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Asker

1 mo
But they are so immature and rude
Wise4myage

1 mo
Yeah, I hear you. Well just be careful dating older guys, because they might be out to abuse you sexually.

Answer 68

Asker

But they are so immature and rude

Answer 69

Wise4myage

Yeah, I hear you. Well just be careful dating older guys, because they might be out to abuse you sexually.

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Neko_Nya | 107 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Tell him

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Asker

1 mo
He already knows, I told him I liked him before but that I don't anymore. He's very smart though, I think he knows I still like him.

Answer 71

Asker

He already knows, I told him I liked him before but that I don't anymore. He's very smart though, I think he knows I still like him.

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misternick

Xper 1

Be careful is the best answer I can give

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Asker

1 mo
Thank you I will <3

Answer 73

Asker

Thank you I will <3

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bean2k21 | 228 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

get over it

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Asker

1 mo
It's easier said than done

Answer 75

Asker

It's easier said than done

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Anonymous

Wait 4 years.

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Asker

1 mo
That's a long time though.
Opinion Owner

1 mo
Not really. It just seems like a long time because you are young.

Answer 77

Asker

That's a long time though.

Answer 78

Opinion Owner

Not really. It just seems like a long time because you are young.

I'm 14 and I like a 17 year old, what do I do?

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