Are tall women or short women more accepting of short men?

[Anonymous]

Asking out of curiosity as a short guy. I'm not insecure about it, but a lot of tall girls swear us off because they think we have that dreaded "Napoleon Complex."

Plus, a lot of short men think no taller girl would date them. But on Reddit, I see comments and posts from couples where the man is shorter!

So who do you think is more willing to date short men?

[MCheetah]

Tall women are more accepting of men under six feet tall, because short women are considered the "most desirable" by men (cause most girls are short). And short and tall women tend to refuse to date short men guys under six feet tall. However, super-tall men tend to like short girls even more, because "tallness equates masculinity, shortness equates femininity" and mainly just tall guys and short girls think like this. Tall girls don't tend to think of themselves as "masculine," and by proxy, don't (always) think of shortness as "feminine."

In other words, tall girls tend to be more open-minded about this sort of thing because tall girls are slightly less desirable by men. However, tall girls still want men over six feet tall just like short girls do. Tall girls are just more willing to lower their standards to guys 5'11" and under.

[HenryEvans]

Short women likely are more open to dating short guys as long as he's taller than her.
I have met a few tall women who empathize with shorter men because some tall women get passed over too. They can be open to dating shorter.
I think there's some short guys who have anger issues because of their height, but then there's 5'7 guys like me who aren't angry, but just very competitive and tough because I always had to be playing basketball and working with guys that were taller.
I always had to be quicker, smarter and have more confidence.

[Asker]

Are any of those tall women who empathize with us concerned about being dainty?

[HenryEvans]

Who being dainty?
I've just seen the odd profile on Plenty of Fish with taller women around my height who say that they don't care about height.
Still, most of them seem to want a guy who's taller. My ex wife was 5'1, so me being 5,7 was kinda perfect. She still had the experience of me being taller and I'm very strong, mechanically inclined and athletic so she always felt I could handle anything and protect her, or swim to save her if she was drowning etc.

[Asker]

Ironically, I'm more attracted to strength.

[Asker]

And are a lot of the taller ones insecure?

[HenryEvans]

I think some tall girls are a bit insecure.
There's probably always been a few cute guys they wanted, but maybe they were taller than him and he just didn't give her attention? Thinking back I was always nice to the tall girls in my highschool days, but I definitely wasn't pursuing them. I guess there's always been a stigma that we don't go together, better as friends. Too bad it can't be more accepted.

[jusumgirllookin]

tbh as a tall women id want a guy at least 3-4 inches taller than me since im tired of always feeling so tall and when i see men taller than me i like the feeling of feeling short and i feel feminine it feels nice to finally have someone taller than you and not feel like a giant (sorry if this made u insecure im sure theyre many girls who disagree with me so dont worry too much)

[Asker]

Well, for me personally, I hate it when tall girls are insecure about their size.

And can I be honest about something else? It may seem weird to you.

[jusumgirllookin]

sure go ahead i won't judge lol. and well mostly its the constant bullying and comments that make tall girls insecure about their size

[Asker]

I'm kind of different from other guys. I find physical strength and athleticism/capability (That includes being skilled in fighting or with weapons) attractive.

And like most people, I do think being tall helps with being strong, even if a tall person doesn't work out much. I don't see the appeal of a woman being delicate and dainty. To me, strength is EVERYTHING.

Be honest with me here. What do you think about what I'm saying?

[jusumgirllookin]

oh my godd ur that guy, i jus read one more post said their into taller women and u like muscles and youd wanna be with someone who u could make them feel as badass (there was also a mentioning of a best friends sister?) tbh i get what ur saying and ur type isn't weird but tall women aren't mostly strong, you could take me for an example im kind of weak delicate-ish or whatever u guys call it. and i get what ur saying and its normal preference

[Asker]

I know, but think about it. Let's say there is a girl who is equal to you--physique/body type included--in every way except one: She's much shorter than you. Who do you think would be stronger, despite both of you being weak? You or her?

[Asker]

And plus, I honestly wish tall girls took more pride in their size and felt powerful because of it.

[jusumgirllookin]

hmm i get what ur trying to say and obviously id be stronger bcz of my height unless she works out and is strong

[Asker]

That's why I said "equal to you in every way--physique/body type included."

[Asker]

And honestly, how damn common is it for tall girls like you to be insecure?

[jusumgirllookin]

you can't blame us for being insecure well at least for me maybe try being insulted ever since u were a child and im a shy person i hate standing hide i jus would wanna hide but u can't do that when ur tall

[Asker]

I'm sorry to hear about your bullying.

[Asker]

And you don't know how common it is?

[JHAYES317]

Why do you equate femininity with height? I’d be a lot more intimidated by a short strong man than a tall weak man…

[CarolinaJones]

Most likely short girls, as long as he's one or two inches taller than her.

[Asker]

You seen this yourself?

[Asker]

Also, for me personally, I'm a little iffy on being with someone shorter (unless they're stocky or athletic). I really don't want a partner who's delicate.

[CarolinaJones]

I mean I have seen several people dating each other who are just a few inches taller than each other, so I guess that applies to short men too

[JHAYES317]

But relatively speaking they are tall compared to her, even compared to other men they aren’t. What the prompt is more asking is, who would sooner date a man shorter than them, a tall woman or a short woman?

[In_Trance]

neither

[Asker]

So equally as likely? And yes, I know short men get the short end of the stick dating-wise.