■} We used to talk for like over a month and all of a sudden it kinda stopped... she use she to like my pictures and stuff and sometimes talk to me first - Now she doesn't bother - But I haven't engaged either I guess... but I engaged like 60-70% of the time.
■} it's been like 7 days now and she's stopped liking my pictures on purpose for some reason and she hasn't talked since and I haven't talked either cause I'm not looking desperate.
■I don't know what to do, she cancelled on our date and then after that I kinda talked to her less - I guess she doesn't care or like me or maybe never even did.
1. If this is a girl you know in real life: My first instinct is to say she isn't interested anymore - but. I had a similar thing happen to me. There was a guy I was seeing, but he hardly responded to me, so I backtracked and responded less myself. It was kind of disappointing, but I'm a "let live" kind of person. There was one more hookup then, out of the blue. Followed by nothing and silence on social media. At that point I just figured, alright, he's a booty call and decided to move on. Months later I had was seeing someone else and hadn't heard from the previous guy until suddenly he shows up on social media again. I greeted him (since I did not have anything against him), but when he then found out I had a boyfriend, he starts complaining that I hadn't given him a chance? I told him, dude. You never replied to me. You were gone for weeks. I thought you were casual sex and gave you your space. He didn't understand at all and whined that I hadn't tried to contact him. I was like, ummm, and you, didn't contact me either? So I hesitate to say she never liked you - maybe she did and she thought you responded too infrequently for the plateau she considers "interested". You say 60-70%, but maybe she perceived it as less or more like a friend would reply. This is a possibility. In any case, at the moment it seems like she's not interested anymore, which is sad. 2. You only met her online. Many people, girls and boys, do not take online relationships seriously. Until you have actually met an online love interest, anything goes. If people are fickle in love in real life, amplify that by 100 if you meet online. Also, if people meet a person in real life they are attracted to, online romances are quickly tossed aside. In this case, I would ask her to meet IRL one more time and if she doesn't, drop her. Or just drop her right now and find someone else.
Yeah I’m really sorry I don’t have higher hopes. I also thought my time with this guy was great and apparently he did too, but our signals just weren’t crossing properly. Also I’m kind of thankful now because when I imagine what kind of a disastrous relationship that would have been.
Thanks for your advice much appreciated, let's say she does contact me should I be distant or reply quick enough - that's if she does but probably won't
Oh I would definitely reply quickly and if she did keep up that contact, I would match it at her level. If communication was causing the failing interest, this is the only way to fix it. Like if that guy had been more responsive, I would have considered him boyfriend material. If he had lol. Good luck I hope she does contact you!
No one knows more better than her. I mean what if she is waiting for you instead. You are instead making guesses. You should understand her also. What if she cancelled the date as she was really busy that time? There is always reasons behind which couldn't be analyzed by guesses. You should have a talk with her.
Hard to say , with tinder , swipe left swipe right apps, etc. you can meet someone new in minutes. she may have met someone that really sparked an interest. Then again she may think your not all that into her. Maybe she is more old fashioned thinks you should pursue her. Then there is the holidays and that makes everyone little out of their norm. So only thing you could do is either move on or take chance and talk to her and see where it goes. Just know that odds are she may have not felt the chemistry so she is hesitant. It can also be unrelated. People have life moments that take precedence. Often life gets in the way of life. Your taking a chance either way, don't do nothing and chance that you lose out on someone that was waiting on you to ask her and try to get her attention. If you do try your still taking a chance. Follow your heart and remove all the rest from the equation just always be ready for the response or lack of one , as in no response is a response as well. good luck !
She lost interest. Plus, you haven't known her long so I wouldn't worry about her any more. I suggest you relax and not do most of the engaging next time. Life changes for everyone and you never know what could be going on with her. We don't know how you normally interact with her or how your conversations go, given that you initiate most of them. Then again, based on what you said, she's lost interest completely or for now. Don't get your hopes up. You're single and can talk to and see whomever you want.
From September - November I was talking to a girl She as well liked all my comments or replied to what I would say There has been days that we talked about the best time that we could talk on discord. 1 day we finally did. Although we never did again I loved that her and I got to talk The things that we have common (same age, same race, we both want the same things) Both sent each other a poem That’s not even all of things that she said to me 1 day for whatever reason she decided that she was no longer interested in me. I really do not think she was ever interested in me
I think you waited too long and acted too aloof and that drove her away. She lost interest and/or found someone else. You should show more interest and make her feel wanted instead of acting afraid. She wants a man that knows what he wants not someone who's afraid to show what he wants. No offense of course.
Nothing I could of done I asked her out twice, and said let her know a time that suits you and I understand she has a kid that's why I couldn't tell her a time and date cause it would need to suit a babysitter
Sadly, yes. You did your best and you held out for at least a week waiting to see if she would write back. Canceling is definitely a flag for losing interest, I'd move on and hopefully you meet someone nice. :)
Well, this is really up for you to decide. You can stay or leave but don't stay because of "hope", stay because you want to be with her. But if your gut is telling you otherwise, leave.
OR you could try to talk to her about how this made you feel, communication is key. :)
That truly sucks.. I would personally see it as she is not interested anymore.. one can never know if she actually ever was interested, but just assume from actions. No contact after cancelling a date is a cowards way of saying they don't want anything more to do with you. I'd give up on her.
Did you try setting up another date? Did you try talking to her to see if she interested in you? I mean tbh, we can all give you guesses, but the best way is to get it from her. IFKYK
That's not what i said. Speak to her and stop guessing. Communication is huge in a relationship and your mental health. The unneeded stress you are putting on yourself mentally rn ain't doing you any good. Speak to her so you can take out the guessing games. Relationships only work with communication. Best start early
She could of lost interest or found someone else. try getting a hold of her and talk. If that doesn't work try moving on. You shouldn't let this stress you out.
Social media sucks and is not very social. It allows antisocial behavior that would not be tolerated in a face to face world. I would apologize. I know you did not do anything wrong but she thinks you did. Or she found someone else.
You are waiting much to long to meet in real life It’s sooooo borring texting You could be a computer ! Hope you get what I mean A woman needs precense, looks , smells touch and real smiles In real life ❤️
I asked her out on a date and she cancelled the day before so it pizzed me off, and then I hear (she doesn't know) she was eating dinner with one of her girl-friends - But told me she hurt her arm
