Does this sound good?

[Anonymous]

If you’re ever single contact me because I like you and I want to date you.

[WonderBell99]

This sounds desperate and kind of needy. I suggest you wait until after he gets out of his relationship. It just makes it seem like you're willing to be the “other woman”. Sending him this text won’t get him out of that relationship. How would you feel if your boyfriend got a text like this from another woman? Think about that.

If he is ever single again, then maybe send something along the lines of:

“Hey, I know that you got out of a relationship a while ago. I’ve liked you for a while now, I didn’t want to jeopardize your precious relationship by revealing my feelings for you, but now that you’re single. . . would you maybe want to go out with me sometime? I apologize if I came off too strong”

[Asker]

Desperate and needy? Just because I’m telling him i would be interested in dating him if he’s single? That makes no sense. That’s not saying I’m willing to be the other woman.

I talk to other men.

[WonderBell99]

He’s not single now. That’s the point.

[WonderBell99]

Maybe try to rephrase it. You just come off too strong

[Asker]

It’s direct and to the point.

[Asker]

Yeah obviously I know he’s not single now. Hence the reason why I said if you’re ever single.

[WonderBell99]

Just say:

“Hey, I know that you’re in a relationship right now, but I just wanted to let you know that I like you and if you are ever single again, maybe give me a call sometime”

[WonderBell99]

Alright, well, send it if you want :)

[Asker]

I’ll say I know you’re in a relationship right now. But if you’re ever single contact me because I like you.

[WonderBell99]

Well, it sounds like you don’t respect the fact that he’s in a relationship with another woman.

[Asker]

We’ve already slept together while he’s been in the relationship. And he tried to see me again but I didn’t meet him the second time. This is why I don’t see why saying this would be a problem.

[WonderBell99]

I would not pursue him if I were you. If he is cheating on his girlfriend with you, then what is the guarantee that he will not cheat on you with another woman? *Most* cheaters rarely ever change.

[JosyJosy]

Sounds a bit desperate to me, also a one liner... I don't think that'll succeed in general. And I honestly wouldn't say anything to a person who is taken. Respect his relationship. If you want to make a move... make a move while HE is still single.

[Asker]

He and I have actually slept together while he’s been in a relationship. Telling a person how you feel doesn’t mean you’re desperate. I don’t understand that and it makes no sense.

I’ll say if you’re ever single contact me and see how it works out between us.

[JosyJosy]

Oh waw, that makes him a cheater which means that he could also cheat on you in the future, I would avoid that man

[Anonymous]

I mean you’re getting older now. You don’t have anytime to sit around waiting for a guy like you do in your 20s or teens. Those years are over & need to work on your self-esteem & find a guy. I know this is not what you want to hear me say & I know you really like him. But you got to think about yourself. Do you really think you can wait till you’re 40 just to find out he’s not leaving? And I didn’t mean to offend you in anyway. Sorry if I did.

[Asker]

I never said I’d wait for him I’m simply saying that I’d like to date him if he’s ever single.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, then you on the right track my bad.

[Asker]

I’ve already slept with him.

[harvest]

Not really. Sounds a bit desperate. Just wait until he gets out of his relationship.
Sending this text won't get him out of current relationship. The best you can hope for is being his side chick.

[Asker]

How does telling him to contact me when he’s single make me sound desperate? I’m letting him know that I’m interested in dating him.

[harvest]

Because you're letting him know about it WHILE he already has a girlfriend...
What are you aiming to accomplish here?

[Asker]

Ok just because he’s in a relationship that doesn’t mean other people don’t like him. I’m not asking him to cheat. I want him to know that I like him that’s not being desperate that’s being real.

[harvest]

Ok, but WHY do you want to let him know that NOW? Why not wait until he's out of this relationship?
I'll tell you why. You're counting that this will speed up his break up / he will "choose" you over her / he will cheat on current girlfriend with you.

[Wise4myage]

Love it and I like how direct and too the point it sounds.

[Asker]

People are saying it sounds desperate but I don’t understand why.

[Wise4myage]

Nah, I don't think so. I wish more girls took that approach.

[Anonymous]

No, but I don't believe in trying to get with taken people. I respect boundaries.

[Asker]

I’m not trying to get him while he’s taken hence the reason why I said when you’re single.

[Opinion Owner]

Same difference. It implies that you hope his relationship doesn't last, which is disrespectful towards his current partner. If he was your boyfriend, how would you feel if someone texted him that?

[Asker]

We’ve already slept together while he’s been in the relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, so you're that kind of person. I guess you have no morals, so do whatever you want to do.

[noohair]

Social media has ruined dating and courtship.