Why he's doing like that? How to deal with this inconsistent boy?

[Anonymous]

He have a big crush on me. He gives me immense attention, love and care when I show interest in him but when I don't show any interest and act distant to him, he completely cuts me off. When I show him love and care again, he takes me back happily and shows even 10x love on me. When I feel suffocated with his attention, I slightly push him away but he then gets angry on me and completely cuts off with me again. Why he does like this? And what he is expecting from me? How to deal with him?

[Anonymous]

In my opinion, the question here is: what do you want from him?

You are the one who is being inconsistent. You said that he "gives me immense attention, love and care" but when you don't show any interested, he becomes distant. It's a normal attitude from him because he thinks you are not interested. He has a big crush on you, so obviously, if you show him love, he will reciprocate. Are you expecting him to be lovely and caring to you if you don't show anything and pushing him away? Really? You must show that you are interested if you want him. You're playing hot and cold with this poor guy so he gets confuse and angry. This guy is expecting you to be consistent. In this situation, you can deal with him by being clear with him and yourself. If you want a relationship with this guy, tell him, also talk with him that you sometimes need space and feel suffocated. If you are not into this guy, tell him that you are not interested, stop giving hopes to this guy by showing him love and care

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your valuable advice

[Opinion Owner]

Oh thank you! Just think if you want him as a boyfriend or friend, you can demostrate care in different ways. And good luck!

[Asker]

He clearly said me he don't want me as a friend. When I call him friend, he gets angry on me. Yes, I want him too, if he wants me. His behaviour is what confusing me because he never proposed me but acting very possessive and raising demands on me as if he owns me. He doesn't let me speak with other guys. If I do, he gets utmost angry on me and scolds me so much. But I'm unsure of what he wants because he didn't propose me yet but acting as I owe him something

[Opinion Owner]

Oh dear, I don't know how long you guys know each other but he seems very toxic. Do you really want a man who is possessive, controlling, very jealous and not even propose to you? It's not healthy, you deserve better

[Asker]

He was about to propose me last time, but something came up between us both so he delayed proposing. I don't know what happens next. I'm okay with a possessive, controlling boy as long as he honestly expresses himself without hiding anything or expecting me to understand him without he letting me know anything clearly.

[Opinion Owner]

Hmmm interesting. As long he's honest, respectful, loyal, caring, etc... and you are Okey with it I guess it's fine. With this information I'll ask a question here on GAG lol

[Rainbow30]

I agree to the 1st one who replied. Hehehe. I thing you need to figure out first what you want, because he's already clear to what he wants. He wants you. You're the one who's confuse and you're confusing him. After figuring out, explain to him your feelings and your boundaries.

[Itsmeeeee77]

He thinks you are playing.