Why my crush's family is not letting my crush and me talk with each other? Why did they blocked me from his phone and took his phone away from him?

[Anonymous]

[awkward_author]

They probably don't like you.

[Asker]

Why?

[awkward_author]

I don’t know. There’s a lot of reasons why someone’s family wouldn’t like the person their family member is dating. If he cares about what his family thinks, though, your relationship is doomed.

[Asker]

We are from different religions. This is the only difference that we have. And although he likes me, he's afraid of his family more

[awkward_author]

That could be the reason. I would suggest moving on.

[Asker]

What's wrong in being from a different religion? My crush likes me right?

[awkward_author]

There’s nothing wrong with dating within different religions, and I don’t know if he likes you. However, it seems that his family comes first. He cares about what they think regarding his relationships. They don’t like you. Respect him enough to move on. Speaking for myself, I would never seriously date someone my family wouldn’t approve of. I’d sleep with them, but that’s it.

[Asker]

Isn't that very wrong?
Even if my family disapproves a boy, I will not leave him in the dark. If I gave him any false hopes, I will respect him enough not to leave him for my family.
Why can't this boy respect me the same way?

[awkward_author]

It’s not wrong. Just because you don’t prioritize your family, doesn’t mean it’s wrong for others to do so. Move on. It’s pretty obvious you two aren’t compatible if this is how you’re reacting.

[Asker]

I respect my family. But I don't disrespect the person who wants to be with me. For the sake of my family, if I disrespect him, I will be considered as the most selfish girl and a girl with no humanity. And yeah, I feel the same if he does that to me. But here it's pretty obvious that he shown me interest, he had a crush on me too. We both had crushes on each other so his family identified that we will get into relationship pretty soon, so they taken away his mobile and not letting him use it. On last call, he was taking the topic of relationship and his family took away his phone. So, he understands me too, but his family doesn't want us to be together. What possibly can I do in this situation? I don't want to lose him

[awkward_author]

Stop talking to him. Sneaking around behind their back will only make things worse. It's possible he chose his family. If not, let him reach out to you.

[Asker]

He didn't tell me that he choosen his family over me. He said that he was expecting more than being friends with me and his family heard that and took away his mobile and blocked me everywhere and deleted my contact from his mobile. So how can he reach me out?

[Asker]

*chosen

[awkward_author]

Let him figure it out. If you keep trying to contact him, his family might file a restraining order against you.

[Asker]

But do they have any right to do that? If my crush accepts me talking with him what right do they have in not allowing him to talk with me? He can talk with a girl of his choice. Who are they to stop him?

[awkward_author]

They can claim you're bothering him. Just let him reach out to you. That's my opinion. Take it or leave it. I think you've obviously made up your mind, and I'm not going to bother with this anymore.

[Subarugirl]

How old is your crush? 12?

[Asker]

He's in 20s but his family is very strict

[Subarugirl]

….. you have a crush on a 20 year old man who still gets grounded by his parents?

[Asker]

I had*

[Asker]

I didn't expect that things would go this way