Do you judge people who are hypocrites when it comes to setting high standards for dating?

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For example when a fat woman wants a fit guy. Or when a promiscuous man wants to date a woman with a low body count.

I have had this conversation with some feminists. Of course they didn't judge women who set high standards. They are women. Women should date whoever they want. No one is allowed to judge them lol. But those feminists bash guys who care about the past of the women they date.
So how is it okay for an average or lower than average woman prefer a hot guy for dating but not okay for a promiscuous guy to prefer to date a virgin or a woman with a low body count?
Because his choice makes you insecure? Lol

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

I was about to say what you already said.

"They are women. Women should date whoever they want. No one is allowed to judge them. But those same women bash guys who care about the past of the women they date. How is it okay for a lower-than-average woman to prefer a ten out of ten guy, but call it 'misogynistic' when attractive men want attractive women?"

These people are complete pieces of sh*t and I'd rather not give feminists the time of day or basic respect I'd give to non-bigots. I do think it's hypocritical, but it doesn't surprise me in the least. Women are like that in general, and hell, so are many men.

People in general are f*cking hypocrites and I can't stand hypocrites. Pro-life men who f*ck every woman in sight but then claim to "care about life and the sanctity of marriage." Progressives who are pro-choice but want to force potentially deadly vaccines on people against their will or take away their livelihood. 400 pound ugly, shaved-head feminists who no sane, self-respecting man would want doing the "female gaze" on guys like Chris Hemsworth. Ugly guys demanding a woman not be over 130 lbs and must look attractive at all times, and so on.

Out of everything I want in a woman, the only thing I couldn't match her or provide a male equivalent of, is height. I want a tall girl ideally, even though I'm far from tall. It's not a requirement for me to have a tall partner though, unlike most women.

But yeah; most human beings are hypocritical and hypocritical on the daily, as well. I'll always admit I'm flawed and can be a f*ck-up at times, so I'm definitely not hypocritical. The only thing I expect from people is shame and to try to learn from their mistakes. Apparently, effort is considered "racist and misogynistic" nowadays, though... Hence OnlyFans and hookup culture.

HighValue · Accepted Answer

I generally dislike and don't respect hypocrites.
People need to think about what they bring to a relationship before deciding on what kind of partner they want, because many people want a lot from someone for a relationship, but they don't bring much themselves at all.

Good, NON-promiscuous people should be with other good people, and the kind of people that have had casual sex should stick with other people that have done the same. Once someone has done that they can't realistically expect a good person to be interested in them.

Same goes for kids. If someone has kids from a past relationship, they can't realistically expect a single person that doesn't have kids to be interested in them.

desidoll · Accepted Answer

Hypocritical isn’t it? When it comes to them, suddenly the exception is applied. This is for both genders. I have noticed it ever since. I mean they can set whatever standards they want for the opposite gender, but they need to understand that they may or may not get what they want. It is two different things. To answer your question, yes I do judge. I have been approached by some bigger men who insulted me when I said no. See? They don’t want to date biggger women but expect slimmer women to date them and got mad when they were rejected. How is it fair for me to eat healthy, hit the gym 4 times a week to look good when they just enjoy their big mac on the couch while watching tv?

Gwenhwyfar · Accepted Answer

An ugly woman who prefers to date hot guys is going to be disappointed most of the time. Fortunately most people aren’t ugly.

To answer your question, no. I rarely judge anyone. Which is ironic cause I once wanted to be a judge lol.

GlassTop · Answer

I want a woman with a low body count because i have a low body count. I don’t want a fat girl because im not fat. I don’t want an ugly girl because im not ugly, although if she has a nice body i’ll trade off. The world is full if hypocrites. It’s not just in dating but in politics and living. People want net zero emissions because of climate change yet drive and use planes. People want healthcare for all and free student debt but don’t don't make much money and understand being taxed 30-50% of your income. People hate capitalism but have the newest phones and drink starbucks everyday. People hate cheaters and liars but lie and cheat all the time without getting caught. People hate racism and sexism yet are so racist and sexist towards white men. It’s really silly.

Anonymous · Answer

I find that most of the women, particularly promiscuous ones, think that men don't have the right to put lack of promiscuity on their preferences list. I've seen women say that it's ok to not want a short guy or a poor guy turn around and call a man an incel or insecure for preferring a woman who doesn't casually slut around with many men.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Having different criteria on how you judge men and women is normal. Men and women are not the same! Do you judge a woman bad for having a small "dick" or a man for being flat chested? Lmfao ridiculous and this goes for everything else too. Double standards is what makes heterosexual relationships work. People are not attracted to androgynous robot ken dolls. Women want a masculine man and men want a feminine woman and that is how they are judged.

The fat thing is different because nobody wants a big fattie so yeah that could be hypocritical lol

Anonymous · Answer

I do judge feminists for being hypocrites (I mean, come on, they are prolific).

But the high standards thing all washes out in the end. We all should have the highest standards we can while still being able to get a partner. If a fat, ugly feminist is able to get a good man to date her, good for her.

Feminists complaining about men with high standards regarding sexual past are just pissing into the wind.

ohshee · Answer

My mind doesn't even go there because I don't care about it it's none of my business and you're right I probably have done it myself so I could care less what people think or what they say when people have something negative to say that usually because they're unhappy anyway and why would you take advice from that person or even care what they say

HighlyVolatile · Answer

People can go as high with their standards as they want as I see it. I just tend to doubt their odds of success at some point.

UdontNeedtoknow · Answer

Yes. You should know what you can keep, not what you want. Many women never learn this till it's way to late.

Phoenix98 · Answer

The way I see it is you gotta be able to match the standards you set for others.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Yeah, I do because it is selfish. A person should seek people of their own level. It’s ok to aim a little higher, but only if you’re working towards that as well.

krin_m · Answer

I agree with your take. There should not be a double standard. What is good for the goose is good for the gander. Ot in this case the other way round. :-)

slatyb · Answer

People can want whatever they want. They may or may not get it.

Berethor · Answer

Feminists think that men should submit to their wishes.

Smartman5 · Answer

This is a very long and detailed topic. I think everyone should go out as they want.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

I don't, it's upto them to find someone willing to date them

fireforeffect · Answer

NO, I do not judge them as Hypocrits. each person knows what they find to be attractive.

anylolone · Answer

Yes.

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