What are your standards for dating? And what do you think about people who say you should lower them?

I am heterosexual and I like tall and handsome white men the most. Personality is also important. I like confident and calm guys who can be really sexual (absolutely don't like prudish men).
I am constantly told by white men to avoid them because I am an Indian. I think these people are unnecessarily rude and crazy. I can't change who I'm attracted to. In real life, white men have been nice to me. I don't understand why they're so biased online. I have come across a lot of racism just because I want to date a white man.
For me, it's not really about standards but more about passion and desire. I can't ever be with a man I don't feel intensely attracted to. Why would I hurt an Indian man if I'm really interested in marrying a white man? Wouldn't he find out sooner or later my real fantasies? Why should I only like Indian men? It's a free world. It's my prerogative. I believe these people are racists. Anyone offended by interracial dating is one.
I find myself dreaming of really attractive white men. It is not because I'm shallow. It is because I'm a sensual person. I don't want to be just friends with my future husband (more likely to happen if I don't find him physically attractive). I want more than that.
In the past, I have been able to attract the kind of guys I considered way above me ( for instance, Daniel Sobieray 👆🏻 liked some of my pictures and I never expected that considering he knows I'm an Indian) So those who tell me I can't ever be with a hot white guy can't pull me down. I am going to let my type of guys decide whether I'm worth their time or not. I am unfazed by anonymous keyboard warriors who could very well be just bitter and obese people I'll never find even remotely attractive. I'll continue admiring my kind of guys until I actually find one to give my heart, body and soul to ❤
Fuck those people who judge you. You will find your hot white man lol. There are sooo many men who are super into Indian women y’all are so beautiful. I even have a friend who’s a white man and has been with his Indian girlfriend for 4 years now.
Thanks for calling us beautiful! I'm sure you're beautiful yourself 🌸
Stick to your standards. Never lower them.
You know what you want. What type of relationship isn't right for you. So lowering your standards would mean you'd settle for the wrong person and the wrong type of relationship.
Everyone has standards, so don't lower them because someone else thinks you should.
Best answer :) I agree
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If you lowered your standards because someone else thinks your standards are high, that would mean you'd be your choices and decisions would be based on their standards, not yours. It's your life. You deserve what you believe you deserve. 🌹
go away 😂😭😭
I agree with this nice person ❤️❤️
Thank you for the MHO ❤
I lowered my standards once and I only ended up deeply hurt. I'll never do it again
Np 💕 And wow I hope you find someone who meets your standards+ treats you right
What I'm looking for in a girl is a heterosexual, biologically female, monogamous good woman who's kind, has a sense of humor, loyal, classy/ladylike, respectful, hard working, at least cute by my own standards, and most of all, compatible and attracted to me. Sounds like a lot, but besides those last two things, I don't think is very hard to find.
I think when people say to "lower your standards," it means to find someone who is 70-75% your ideal partner, instead of thinking you're going to meet someone who's 98-99% your ideal partner. Mainly though, to just find someone who f*ckin' makes you happy. I wish women would just do that, instead of trying to look for male perfection, then blaming all men when the Chads they select dump them and misuse them, as if that wasn't your own damn fault for choosing him.
And I think everyone should lower their standards once they become too high on their own supply of ego.
You're gay, so it's going to be hard to find a woman who wants to split the bill with you, let alone a monogamous queer person. Hell, I'd find my perfect soulmate before I found that last thing. Also, everything you described just sounds like a basic Liberal female, besides the hygiene, drug-free, and sense of humor parts. If you're willing to drop those three, you'd find your perfect girlfriend/gay wife pretty fast anywhere on the West Coast.
You won't be finding a man anytime soon.
Yeah there aren't as many men who fit them as there are women who do. I have more but these are my important ones, overall women tend to have the qualities I'm looking for in a partner.
What if you let go of progressivism? Most men don't take any of that party politics or those women seriously.
What do you mean? If there actually were no men who fit what I'm looking for then I'd just never be in a relationship with one and be with a woman. I don't see any of the things I listed as being negotiable for a relationship that I'd be satisfied being in.
Your whole premise that there are a bunch of sexist/transphoboic/homophobic/ religious people to avoid. Let's face it you mean conservatives. And it's patently untrue, but you believe it is becuase you are apart of the identity politics of the left. Which I why I would consider ditching progressivism before it finishes deteriorating your soul. You're only making things harder for yourself :)
What are you talking about 😂😂 I don't even believe that conservatives are inherently racist sexist or phobic or all that. I live in Texas I know conservatives who aren't those things. You seem like you're in an echo chamber online or something cause what. And I have no issue dating someone religious as long as they DONT HAVE AN ISSUE with me not being religious as I stated. Why are you telling me what I believe as if it's fact get your head out of your ass you don't even know me. I have no issue finding people to date either 😂 I have options so no I'm not "muh making things harder for myself".
You just repeat all the bullshit that comes out of leftists mouths. My mistake. Lmao
Do you keep your clown nose on during sex libtard?
"libtard" 😂😂😂 how are you real I'm just gonna point and laugh. you're a retard
Consent, doesn't want kids not racist/homophobic/transphobic, doesn’t have a problem with my lack of religion.
how can you sit there with a straight face and think you're any different? You're fully indoctrinated but you live in Texas.. okay dumb btch keep running your mouth.
Yeah I don't want a rapist as a partner, I don't want kids, I don't want a racist/transphobe/homophobe and I don't want a freak that's gonna have a problem with me not being religious. Are you mad cause you don't fit that or something? 😂 I'm so confused. We're never going to cross paths, I'm never going to fuck you, you're never going to fuck me. What in the literal hell do my preferences have to do with you?
Broo notice how it's only been "men" over 25 who have a problem with my standards that have nothing to do with them. Maybe I should stick with my preference which has always been women 😂
Like I said originally you have to let go of progressivism. You're butthurt and a vile disgusting person for acting the way you do just to deny facts. You're sick in the head officially and you're mad I'm calling you out. Thanks for proving me correct lmao. The worst part. This truth is the only thing that can fix you and you fight it with such a childish selfish attitude it's no wonder you'll end up dieing alone. Girls like you honestly make me sick. Obviously nobody your age is going to disagree with you, you're all gen z brainshed retards that kill yourselves in record setting numbers becuase you're depressed. Yeah keep listening to your peers over your elders dipshit. They're doing great brooo
You're mad over my preferences that have nothing to do with you
Please do and never ever reproduce with your braindead genes.
I won't even though you seemed bothered by that trying to convince me out of it. Proven again that women are so much better 😭 you old men are so repulsive goddamn. there's multiple of you below being retards and crying over something that has nothing to do with you
It's like you're all mad that you don't fit my personal standards for some reason even though you wouldn't even want me as a partner I'm so confused
Old man yells at cloud
When did I say that I was mad at your preference. How stupid can one person be? I told you your preference are misguided and you lost control of yourself. You're so pathetic lol You wish so badly people cared about you. You could die reading this message and I wouldn't lose a wink. The world would honestly be better off. The only thing you've proven is that women like you are just fat lonely disgusting pigs that not even men will have sex with, you have to go dyke. Devoid of any brainpower or character and wiling to do and say anything to keep your status quo
Just say you hate Trump and you're a dumb bitch that shouldn't ever vote and take your ugly face and small brain to bed already.
Posting anon with no pic like a coward lowlife trash woman would. Stay single you cunt.
Old men are so bratty😂😭 You’re literally pulling things out of your ass that don’t apply to me. I’m not fat or lonely or all that 💀💀 what are you on about. Old man yells at cloud is all I see. Men throw themselves at me 😭 they’re too easy and it’s disgusting. I have to actually try with women and they are real and not meatheads who only think with their dicks. Plus women are much more attractive and emotionally nurturing. Anyways, I voted for Trump 😂 so that’s pretty hilarious.
Nobody throws themselves at you. If you were even remotely attractive you'd be posting like the girls who are do all the time here. Don't make me laugh little girl. I love how you think old man is offensive to a 33 yr old. How impossibly naive. You voted for trump but you regurgitate left wing propaganda and it comes naturally. You are all kinds of fucked up lmao.
This bitch is fucking CUCKOO
""Cockoo liberal bitch- "hahaha and I’m so serious about that. I’d also have sex with a clone of me if I could. I was born in the wrong generation I belong in a future one where cloning yourself is possible""
They quite literally do 😂😂 go take that up with your gender cause they’re rabid animals. Which is why I am anon because anytime as a woman you post non anonymously you have men with no self respect throwing dick pics at you. I’m not a whore so I’m not gonna post myself like they do 😂😂 and I don’t find it flattering to have nasty ass men jerk off over me together. And I’m not trying to be offensive your just actually an old man.. yeah I lean left but anything is better than Biden and Trump was actually different from other conservative presidents I like him. I don’t even believe the results were real cause I know way more trump supporters than Biden ones. Dude you seem so unhinged it is not that serious
That was a joke 😭😭 You are such a freak
You’re too old to even get the way I used emojis in that that implied I was joking
The “I was born in the wrong generation” is referencing those 13 year olds that say that in YouTube comments over old songs I was mocking them and not being serious. This app has too many weird old heads on here 😂😂
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I unironically would If I could clone me I would date myself
Whay did you mean by unironically 🤔
we do a little trolling it’s called we do a little trolling.. jk but i was not being serious I would kill my clone if there was one cause they’d probably try to replace me 🗿
You can't say unironically and have people believe it was just a troll lmfao. You can't walk this back kiddo.
Enjoy your shit life though self admitted troll🤣
Well I did so oh well you can believe it
Bye daddy 😫
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Mine are he has to treat me with respect, protect me, care about my feelings, and be loyal, and capable of solving problems such as bug infestations or broken computers and sinks or furniture etc…
Has goals; do more than play video games/watch movies/sports/TV. Reliable. Has a job, doesn't have to be $80,000+. Has some degree of education. Has a standard sense of hyigene and self-worth. Monogamous. Potentially wants children. Isn't a drug user, drinker or smoker - occasional drink sure but drunk/routine multi-beer drinker I'd kick their ass out faster they can say shiiitttt. Has a sense of humor.
Really my standards are not high - no more than they are for many decent/respectable women with self-respect/esteem.
As for people who say lower them. ... I'll be blunt. I don't want a douchebag.
But there are plenty of cheap women with little to no self-respect that'll be happy to screw joe schmuck at the bar for the price of a pint of beer & a cheesy compliment. Go bother them. Or go phone the local prostitution services you'll have better luck.
Amenn lol I like this answer
Can't be way shorter than I am, as I'm short myself and she'd basically be kid-like.
Decent looking without makeup.
Doesn't have or want to have kids.
Financially responsible.
Good hygiene, just the basics at least.
Has to find me attractive enough for their dating standards.
Honest, but nice about it.
Isn't a psycho when angry and manages it well.
Loves me and is willing to be with me.
Nice person in general.
None-religious.
Not a bigot.
Not a smoker, drinker or drug user, unless extremely responsible with the drinker part.
Not overly fat, muscular or lean for her height.
Polite.
I don't think anyone has ever told me to lower my standards, as I don't think I'm unrealistic with what I want, but it may mean I'd have to date outside my race, as most people of my race are religious, whilst I'm not and also probably want to have kids, which I don't.
I'm still figuring that out.
I'm bi/pan, and so far: have to be gainfully employed and have a strong working history (entrepreneurship or different industries is no worries, but I can't date someone who can't hold a job), have to have good hygiene and health, be a decent human (e. g. not racist, homophobic, etc), has strong communication skills, and is courageous enough to be honest and truthful.
I'm probably gonna raise my standards as time goes on, tbh.
At this point, I'm not looking for just anyone and the one I am waiting for is worth the wait.
I think honestly your standards are mostly basic and normal requests for a civil cohabitation, so I don’t find anything abnormal or absurd.
Those who ask you to lower your standards probably doesn’t fit some of these basic requests so probably THEY are the ones in fault that should change their way to be.
I sincerely agree with most of your basic standards, I’ll add some:
- respect and politeness is the way, always;
- no cheating, better speaking directly than play low or tricking;
- no relationship is meant to last forever, if there’s no sentiment let’s say goodbye, better end without fighting than dragging uselessly a dying relationship;
- my group of friends is mine, you have yours and we are not meant to mix them or to insert each other in the other’s group forcefully.
Reasonably high I would say although not too high so I can’t actually get it if that makes sense. For casual stuff standards a lot higher physically for obvious reasons than dating
Casual dating: six pack, big, tall, and muscular no exceptions (I’m a gym freak myself) face reasonably hot. Personality just as long as he’s respectful I don’t care if we click or not
Serious dating: doesn’t have to have a six pack but should be taller than me or the same and muscular again, just body fat doesn’t have to be that low, face again reasonably hot but body more important to me. And personally: being able to ‘click’ is very important to me so a little higher than others standard wise I would say but nothing not achievable
Only exception is with women as a bisexual female they tend to be a little lower as they’re always harder to find it date long term I find so it’s more like meh if you’re reasonably cute and have nice personality that will do
They needed to be entertaining meaning someone I can hold a conversation with otherwise I don't really see a point in a relationship.
Obviously they can't be crazy or super obsessive or something like that.
I can almost guarantee you I will not date someone who is 20 years old or younger despite the fact that I myself am 20 years old.
I wouldn't date someone who's against alcohol I'm not an alcoholic or anything like that I just can't tolerate people who are very strict against alcohol.
Oh yeah and for now I would prefer not to be with someone who has kids and again that is just a for now thing later on down the line that'll be fine but right now it's not good time for that
Those aren’t unreasonable standards. I have even higher standards and yet I found my SO. We’ve been together since 2018 and we’re very happy together.
I think people who tell other people to lower their standards are people who are bitter for not being able to find someone for themselves. I’m sure that the majority of people telling other people to lower their standards are people who are single and looking.
It’s not wrong to be single and looking by the way, but another person’s standards is their own business and they shouldn’t lower them to accommodate bitter people. If someone wants to adjust their standards, let that be their own decision.
Yess I agree
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My standards are as follows:
-virgin
-strong moral values
-healthy lifestyle
-no addictive substances
-good personality
-frugal with money
-attractive to me
If someone says I should lower my standards, I think those people are generally well-meaning, but they lack an understanding of the big picture. Some people will push you to "find someone" just because they don't want you to be single anymore. But I believe that being in the right relationship with the right person is much more important than just being in any relationship. It isn't just some game.
Considerate
Reliable
Shares political and religious values with me
Wants kids
Wants to homeschool
Fits in with my family
Drama free
Hasn't slept around
Wants to wait for marriage
Wants me to be a stay at home mom
No mental illnesses
People with reasonable standards are fine. It's when you have a 30 year old saying he wants to date a women who is a virgin and has little to no previous relationship experience... Aka... a child.
Your standards or rather expectations of a SO are perfectly acceptable
-She needs to be in at least decent health (and not obese)
-She needs to have some interests in common with me
-She needs to handle money well
-She needs to have a good personality and communicate well
-She can't have any minor children (No children at all is preferable)
- No mental illness or substance abuse issues
Agree with yours plus -
- Doesn't drink outside of appropriate occasions (ie social and Sundays and not always).
- is actually into me (ie if he's with me because I'm unproblematic he can piss off)- reasonably attractive- doesn't need an explanation as to why I don't like or don't want to do something- has a grown up food palate - leads a semi active lifestyle.
My standards for a girl are
Respectful, Nice, Honest, direct, Funny, cute, loving, gentle, caring, shorter than i am, or close to same height, good hygiene, someone who's always there for me.
Thank you for actually answering my question and having standards 🙂
Mine is kind, serious, good hygiene, good sense of humour, dates to marry, monogamous, good habits, same religion as me, and is loyal. My standards (and yours) are certainly not high because you should always want to be with a good person.
Those aren’t very high standards that’s pretty much me except I want a son
Exactly 😭 I had some bird brains give opinions insinuating that these standards are high like huhhhh they are not.
When someone is claiming my standards are too high, I simply tell them that theirs are just too low.
You definitely should be more flexible on the political correctness.
Why? That's such an odd thing to say.. it isn't "political correctness". It's what I find important. Trust me it's not hard to find people my age who align with me politically 😂
Yeah but how attracted do you find yourself to beta faggits that parrot the party line to get in your pants, right? Anti orthodoxy is an indicator of high status. You shouldn't be fishing in toxic waters.
But what do I care right? Go ahead and be a fag and waste your youth being in homosexual relationship and find yourself too old to get married and die with no kids.
Yes because heterosexual relationships are soooo much better 😂😂😂😂 Why are you so bothered by my preferences don't cry. They literally have nothing to do with you. What a freak
Also I don't want kids 😂
You keep saying people care about your preference when they clearly don't. You are so pathetic we are all pittying you.. so self destructive and arrogant. Just sprint towards that cliff edge why don't you dumb ass
Those people should mind their own business, I wouldn't settle for what I don't like and I provide what I ask for
Like a 7 or better looks and not fat
Body count of 3 or less
Age 22 or under
Submissive
Cooks and cleans
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