What is the proper age to start a relationship?

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NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

it isn't about age... it is about maturity and also about affinity...

if the two people in the relationship are right for each other and also willing to make it work TOGETHER, then it will work alright...

and if they are not ready for this, then it just won't' work... and this can happen at any age... you will see people on their 20's, 30's, 40's and even 50 and 60's ending relationships... why do they end? because they could not make it work, one or the other or both sides were mature and tuned enough to make it work as simple as that

but the moment you have what it takes, and both are willing to adjust... relationships do work and can work at any age

another very important thing are expectations, not all relationships are alike and none of them work the same... the one and most important aspect and goal of a relationship is to be happy with someone else... and happiness does mean different things for different people

few people have told me before that a relationship and love at age 16 is not real because "high school kids know nothing about life yet" well... at age 16, I was not looking to get every answer to what life is... at age 16, I just was trying to hold onto life and into happiness, and so did she... and that is exactly what we did... three to four years of sheer happiness, every single day, despite all the challenges and problems and issues that we faced together and against other things... our relationship and love was very simple, it was fucking joy and happiness... we didn't want to get married, we didn't want to have babies, we did not want to end up together forever...

we just wanted to feel genuinely happy, have genuine love and joy for each other... and we wanted to grow up and go through things, together... we wanted to survive high-school and teenage years and we sure did that

and we're still best friends to this day... because yes, our bond is still very much real, is just a different one, it's friendship

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Anytime after puberty. Boyfriend/girlfriend stuff. But even getting sexual is fine as long as you are mature enough to be safe.
I believe in exploring life and gaining experience.

I had a couple of hold hands and kiss type of girlfriends before I had my first sexual relationship at age 16. She was 14 and had been in one previous relationship, so she wasn't a virgin. She was also on the pill.

I had quite a few relationships before I got married and I don't regret a thing. I'm glad I lived life to the fullest.

Chlo3_2001 · Accepted Answer

No method it it as long as they're consenting and able to manage and communicate effectively and navigate a healthy relationship. Some general rules that no one over 18 should be dating anyone under 18-Years-Old. I also find it weird when guys in their late 20's or early 30's go for 18/19 or 20-Year-Old girls. While it's legal it is weird. 23 and 30 Is a bit better as a minimum. But that's just a personal take from my perspective. I know a couple who got together when they were both 16 and now they're 23 and together 7 years and got engaged this month and getting married later next year. I know people who had some long-term relationships but didn't settle until their 30's. I know one lady who had one relationship in her 20's last for 5 years that didn't work out and dated a few people and never felt like settling. When she was 31 she met a guy that she really connected with and he was the same. They found the right person they needed in each other and they got married just under 3 years later. Now they're in their mid 40's coming to their 10th wedding anniversary and together nearly 13 years with two children aged 8yo and a 5yo and have a healthy marriage. There's no method to it just work with each other and be a team. I don't have much experience. My longest relationship was 3 years. Everyone has their own pace.

Secure12 · Accepted Answer

One can never be old enough to be mature enough to handle a relationship. You can be 30 and still know nothing about handling a relationship

Cjbruser · Answer

I don't know. It could be any age really, depending on the person.
But from what I have seen and have observed, the best time to try and attempt to have a nice, fulfilling relationship with someone is at the age of 22-30.
These are the years where many people begin to find their footing, the possibilities to become financially well off provided nothing too restrictive or economically destabilizing happens to you, it is the optimal time to try and find someone.
Of course not everyone is as lucky.

But between the ages of 22-30, you are still young and your frontal lobes, congnition, and mental acuity is finally coming to a completion. For men is is a bit later around the age of 25, men's brains mature later, neurological links and judgement skills don't fully develop until that age for males, for the majority of women it is around 20-21 years old.

For women this is around the age where women are mature enough and sexually developed enough to at least try and get married and have children. After the age or 30+ women's sexual market values drop off dramatically. Their ovaries and reproductive organs begin to wane in fertility, women only have a limited about of eggs for reproduction. And the chances of having a child with a disability, cognitive or physical increase after the age of 30+. Men do not have quite the same age limitations. A man can still produce sperm well into their 70's, however, the health and quality of a man's sperm begins to decrease after the age of 40+ so a man increases his chances to have a child that has defects gentically after this point, unless he marries or gets to together with a women who is much younger than he is, around her 20's.

Also having a limited number of sexual partners in your life and not engaging in hyper-promiscuity means that the couples can truly form a bond together and compromise much easier with each other. If you have great intimacy and sex with just 1 or at most 2 partners that you have a true bond and genuine care for, then the intimacy and love-making is that much more personal and powerful! Their have been many reputable studies on relationships that have shown time and time again that a lower number of partners especially for women that they have had, means to relationship will be that much more long-lasting and successful.

That is my impromptu essay on this subject.

ohshee · Answer

Well when I was young I started it 15 and a half 16 years old and it was a whole different type of relationship LOL is with a much older older woman and I was good with that nobody else knew about it except for her and me maybe one of my friends maybe one or two of her friends
Everybody matures at a different speed. I have two children that are now adults and I always said. To myself as long as they are responsible they're using their head because I know I put a good foundation underneath them it's really kind up to them even though it's not LOL but I always left that door open just to see how responsible they are. We all have done crazy things and if we learn from them we learn from them weather it is good or bad. I just learned something about my son. I have a lot of friends that are girls sometimes they would just come over to see me sometimes I would with there car if something was wrong with it and if I had time to fix it but I guess with s few of my friends my son was going over to there houses lol and now few years later 2 girls just told me . about it snd how cute he was lmao it's kinda funny but I know he has a good head on his shoulders and he's responsible but like I said we all grow the different speed and we all mature at different times I think that's what it's all about

Anonymous · Answer

When you're mature enough to handle the demands of one.

Now you know why most people are single, separated and divorced.

They get into relationships without the proper knowledge or tools of how to live in one, and wonder why it fails.

They can't/don't communicate properly, (makes mountains of molehills), don't understand the difference between intimacy and sex, one is spiritual the other physical), don't know how to say thank you and be appreciative of the things their mate does do, (taking them for granted), give up too easily instead of compromising to keep things together, (stubbornness... my whatever (opinions, feelings) are more important than your whatever (viewpoint, side of the story)), and make/have unreasonable/unreachable demands, (people have limits).

It's NOT all about YOU in a relationship. There's TWO people, trying to act as one. Two brains, trying to be one. Two hearts, trying to be one. Two dreams, trying to be one. You both SHARE everything! Accommodations have to be made by both, FOR both, or I guarantee it'll NEVER work.

Wraith_Cemetery · Answer

Teen relationships are disastrous most of the time. As well, many of the relationships started at that age end badly due to personality changes or due to moving away for college/uni. The people involved rarely stay together after high school ends. Furthermore, the relationships are based on physical attraction and not anything deeper or on a spiritual level.

The most substantial relationships can only begin once everyone involved has reached a certain maturity level. My first serious relationship was in my early twenties. I don't even count the one in high school because it was ridiculous and didn't last a month. It's silly to date that young I think. It's best to wait till at least 19 or 20. I became way more mature and responsible by 25 and it really made a difference in my relationships/friendships.

VinnyMac · Answer

I think there is many ways of answering this question. It really depends on the individual. It could be on the basis of family beliefs, society, certain expectations, maturity among many other factors. If we're talking about a relationship involving sex, or simply a relationship that changes things too.

Based on religion and upbringing I didn't have my first relationship or lose my virginity until I was 23. Had things been different I think I would have preferred to lose it somewhere between the ages of 15 to 18. I love the idea of young love. I think everyone deserves for their high school years to be a time of growing up, finding love, expimenting and discovering who they are. I just had a thought "that if you're old enough to drive then you're old enough to. . . .😳"

DenizLikesTennis · Answer

I Believe that you can start a relationship at any age and whenever you feel ready to. A lot of people, or some of them, go into relationships where they realize very much later that they were in a wrong company.

This is completely normal when you are inexperienced and happens almost to all of us. Thanks to the experience, our preferences in a relationship changes aka what's good for us and what isn't. In due time, we know what we want in a partner and in relationships.

I'd say that maturity plays a major role when it comes to this.

You might heard of the saying that we should start a relationship as soon as we are finished with our careers. Mainly because it's much easier (because you would focus on your partner/relationship only). However, this doesn't mean that it applies to everyone.

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ArrowheadSW · Answer

I think it depends on the level of seriousness. If someone wants to be in a relationship that will eventually lead to marriage and possibly children, probably wait until you have some sort of career established or at least a stable job. Or maybe two seniors in college who have career plans. If it isn't that serious, much younger. Just my thoughts.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

When you feel ready for it more than anything, I was 13/14 for my first serious one, you learn a lot and it’s sort of safer as you can learn and fail as a teen easier than failing as an adult.

OddBeMe · Answer

Not a parent, but it depends on context. Obvi “dating” in teeny bopper years means going to a movie and maybe making out til you get bored. Doesn’t seem that bad.

Sounds like the issue really is when and how should parents teach kids about sex?

20yearsolder · Answer

Puppy love is awesome, Jr high school, getting your feet wet in a relationship. Holding hands, getting your first kiss, being known as a couple to others

Anonymous · Answer

When you feel you have a good understanding of yourself, so that you still remain a strong and complete person when going into a relationship and therefore can build healthy connections through communication and remain your own person even when being with another

Apulu_3 · Answer

I guess when the person is mature, responsible, understanding and ready for a relationship. Sometimes young teenagers are ready for it while people in 20's aren't ready. It depends from person to person.

Anonymous · Answer

At 7 I met my high school sweetheart pool at 17 I was able to consummate the relationship at fifteen I gave it up for German blonde with a rubber and 16 without most of my relations have been a joke know what I have fun for I was able to my longest relationship so far 7 years my shortest one was a one-night stand with my best friend sister so I don't have an answer for you likewise you don't have an answer for me

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

if people don't have their first boyfriend/girlfriend, or heterosexual relationship in their teenage years, then its at least expected to happen by their early 20s, beginning of their 20s, 25 seems to be the magic age number in which people really start to feel behind in terms of social progression

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

When you have your life in a order. Eg you have your own home, a job, and /or you degree (whatever education mile stone.). Then I think its okay to focis on dating.

DizzyDesii · Answer

17+. I started at 14 and regret that. But i’ll allow my kid to have their first date when they attend prom whenever that is. But they will be chaperoned and chauffeured. No ones gonna be sexing my kid that night

lrina · Answer

to have a long-lasting relationship that may lead into a healthy marriage, i think that both people should just be compatible for each other, and each should be mature enough to do their part in the relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

"Fifteen and no husband! You must put those birthing hips to good use at once! Lest thy womb shall shrivel up and die!!!"

Seriously, though, it truly depends on the nature of the relationship. I don't think that there is a FIXED age at which to permit any relationship, so long as both kids have a proper understanding of 1. Consent 2. What is age appropriate and 3. (once they are at "that age") have a thorough sex talk.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Relationship building starts at birth, and takes many forms and faces. Your first relationship is with your parents, and dating can start in adolescence, or much later in life. It all depends on the individual and chemistry between two people.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

When you are mature enough to understand how to love and care for yourself and hold yourself to a standard.

es20490446e · Answer

I think teenagers should have notions of how to have a good relationship.

Bel88 · Answer

That would depend entirely upon how rapidly a person matures, and that will vary from person to person. However, it's usually the early teens, around the age of 14.

Guardian45 · Answer

When you're physically and mentally and legally ready.

Adam1978 · Answer

I don't think kids are mature enough to actually have a relationship until they are like 15. Before that they are just friends who try to imitate adult things.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Whenever you’re mature enough to handle one. For some that comes later in life

AviatorTom · Answer

There is no proper age. I've known married couples who met in first grade (age 6) and became friends, and others who didn't meet until they were in their 40s.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Love begins at young age , no idea about relationship because we learn while we grow into the roles for some of might be instantly right.

Fir some they might have 2 or failed realtuonships but the learning part from everything still remains

RoseJ123 · Answer

There is no "proper" age to start, it is whenever you are ready.

Dontabesillybe · Answer

Going by my own experience. 6. Because that's when I did. It opens up experiences like a apatizer before a meal. Jus gets you ready so you know what to expect for the future. So you're prepared and hav some jokeish unserious experience , cos why not?

skyeee_ · Answer

18 or when you're actually aware of the decisions you're making

IveGotNoName · Answer

My current (and first) relationship started when I was 17, and it's been almost 3 years now. I think it depends on the two people for the most part. Some are ready to start at 14 some are at 20.

petitedollbabee · Answer

I started dating when I was 13 but relationships didn’t truly mean something to me and I didn’t feel truly in love with someone until I was 17.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Probably as soon as they find a match, for sex though i'd say age 20 at the earliest. If they find them any time before that, they can just promise to save themselves for eachother.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I think teens dating is fine but that can end in pregnancy so the thing is to tell them to wait to at least age 16

AdithyaR · Answer

Beyond 18 I guess the exact date doesn't matter. For me, it'd be once I finish all my studies and begin to have a stable career. However long that takes.

GlassTop · Answer

17-18. Kids shouldn’t be having sex or jumping into relationships so long. It’s puppy love and most don’t understand the consequences or responsibility of raising children or working a good job.

imfreeze95 · Answer

Their is no proper age one of my friends great grandparents got married when the woman was 14 and the man was 16 they had a long happy marriage and provided a warm loving stable household and raised good functioning adult members of society

Srij23 · Answer

I slept with my girl - friend when I was 16 and we were together for 3 years. So I think your harmones will tell you when to start a relationship. There is no right age. But take in account for the legal right age if you don't want to go to jail...

Shayedd · Answer

Don't relationships start the day you are born? (Judge a guy by how he treats his mother?) This topic is Pandora's box for me.

ANDYB88 · Answer

I was 20 when I started my first proper relationship. I thought it was a bit too late then and still feel like that now.

ManHater · Answer

Depends on your religion. In Islam it's good for the girl to be 9 and the man to be 40-60 years old. Is Jew land it's okay for boys to be abused by there priests.

Alyssa_11 · Answer

For me I had my first relationship at 18 and looking back I was so childish back then too lol.

Godsvengeance · Answer

Impossible to answer because it has more to do with the maturity of the two people and the extent of the relationship than their ages in my opinion

Djaay · Answer

All 7 of my duaghters started about fifteen or so... and interestingly enough they' all still with the same guy married with children.

Bluemax · Answer

I started my first at 14.

Nazgol · Answer

In my opinion 25 & up the best. Just so there is enough time to mature

CapreceIsSaved · Answer

38... or never. Too many people today are dumb or foolish.

Cubus · Answer

You mean serious relationship? I would say when you are adult (mature enough).

Waldoe · Answer

Birth... start with your Mother, then brothers and sisters... if you do well at that... try starting with classmates

nawtee_me · Answer

I would say wait until your twenties and get past the teen years where you have a little more experience with life itself.

Billblass · Answer

18 because you really don't know yourself before this or even at this age, so how could you deal with someone else emotions and you can't deal with your own!

Anonymous · Answer

When you both can handle relationships and are mature already. For me it's over 20s

Anonymous · Answer

When you're ready. Stop generalizing... You cannot generalize people. You can't! It is impossible. Just stop it.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

When your old enough to use birth control responsibly

TheAfrikan · Answer

I am to go with the age of 20  years when the brains can actually do make better decisions. @desconhecida

EnglishEuropean · Answer

Um, do you mean a sexual relationship? Or just talking to people?

Swordnen · Answer

If age is greater than 16 and if maturity is present  Start dating  Else  Prohibit

Twalli · Answer

There's no correct age. Yet if you want to know about sexual components, then we can consider ages.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

After graduating high school.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

If you're old enough to bleed you're old enough to breed.

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