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Yea a lot of people told me the same. It took me a while to realize who the type of people that told me that, really were. Be careful who you talk to. It appears that those who made mistakes are the ones that want you to Also mess up. They want you to Also suffer their crimes.
Just listen to your heart, listen to your intuition. You know better.
Because trust me. The only thing you can get from being promiscuous or sleeping with many.. is STDs.. HEARTBREAK.. and DISRESPECT.
(Talking from experience here)
Just because “you’re young” don’t mean you need to loosen up that KITTY, or mess up your body in any way. You being young.. means treat your body like it’s the best thing in the universe. And I’m just gonna be real w/ you. Some of those STDS can literally give you cancer, can literally change your anatomy down there (which Is absolutely terrifying). Can literally be fatal.
Again; you should know better. Steer far away from any drug no matter how simple they appear. Steer far away from promiscuity. Steer far away from the demons that give you that type of advice. Don’t shave years off your life.
~GOOD LUCK <3
The pros, you don't have any responsibilities, have to answer to anyone, can just call whomever to kick it and fuck and goodbye! I did this in my early 20's. The bad part, you develop a wall, lack of expression of feelings b/c you know the guys don't give a shit, and become very self conscious b/c every guy has a different preference in their type of women. Yes it's fun I guess, but there's consequences. I've been married 9 years, but I am still very numb to showing my feelings b/c I was so used to being used.
a lot of people told me since I'm young I shouldn't settle down with one person that I should date multiple people
Yea sure, date around, but some girls are more serious and truly believe these young guys want something more than a quick fuck. Young guys don't see girls anything more than an easy lay. The ones who do take the time to get to know you have potential, but that's far and few. Men don't mature until they get to about 30. Right now, a young guy is just concentrating on what he wants to do w/his life and his future. Not dealing w/a significant other. I talk to one guy still I used to fuck w/in my late teens/early 20's. He's married and has kids now, but he'll still text/message me on FB sometimes. All we did back in the day was party, get high, and then fuck. We still always kept in touch over the years. When u find The One, you'll know. Right now, just be very careful. It can hurt you emotionally. And many people carry STD's.
Cons:
•Morally deficient
•Increased STD risk
•Possible lowered quality/vetting
Pros:
•None, in my opinion.
Morally deficient, let’s explain what I mean by this as perhaps this may cause undue confusion.
So, there is a thing within the scientific community, specifically involved with intimacy, called “pair bonding.” From what I understand, it’s one’s ability to develop long-term and meaningful relationships with other human beings. Now, this can be damaged if a person is with too many people, with can overload their faculties preventing them from developing the future relationships because their brain is “burnt out” so to say.
Also, do you really want to treat people as mere numbers and/or objects? It’s what will naturally happen if you’re with too many people as you cannot help it.
Focusing on multiple people will take away from each one of them.
I can say more, but I won’t.
My opinion, forget about this.
There are pros to dating multiple people if and only if you're honest with everyone. Then you can see how each individual meets your needs and treats you or if it each one meets what need or has something unique to value. Maybe you're actually polyamorous and some combination of parters brings you balance and betters your quality of life. The only real downside is jealously and insecurity but honestly don't put up with that shit. No matter how good the sex may be. If you're inexperienced and you're still learning your likes and kinks and exploring boundaries there is only one way to find out. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
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I don't know... Maybe STDs, you confusing some guy's name with other guy's name. 😐 Or maybe hurting someone if one of them was only dating you and wanted to make it official with you while you were dating multiple people.
I don't see anything wrong with that if you tell the people you are dating that's what you are doing. Zig Ziglar coined the phrase, "You have to be a meaningful specific and not a wandering generality. You can't make it as a wandering generality. You'll fall flat on your face." You don't want some guy falling in love with you, or you falling in love with some guy, if that's not what you are looking for.
if you are out there casually dating and having casual sex with men you will fall flat on your face. You will cause great suffering for yourself and others. Disease, STD's, pregnancy, stalkers, creeps, etc.
People say that I'm too young to fall in love. Love isn't a such thing at the age 20.
That I shouldn't be thinking about love, marriage or kids at 20. I should think about have multiple guys.
They don't know about each other. People always say why i want to settle down at the age 20 when I can date around
Pros: it's fun, meeting new people, exploring, developing your sexuality and confidence
Cons: it's easy to neglect your friendships if there's always 'someone new', your friends will forget their names, if you don't get smarter (learn from it) you will make the same mistakes with different people.
bad advice. I would date around to understand people, what you like, your needs, who you can tolerate. the other stuff may seem like fun and games... but can have greater consequences.
so you are willing to listen to other people... in fact do what they say
why not listen to the wisest people you can find, in books, and such.
Pros: You have a safety net, in case a prospect proves to be trouble. You're not adrift and lonely, just because you have to cut someone loose.
Cons: Your motives with each will be highly suspect by everyone. Rumors will fly. Depending on who is accusing you of what, your net may be sabotaged, along with your reputation. Leaving you not only with no net, but unable to attract anyone at all.
Pro more choice.
Con more choice.
More choice can make it very hard if you have decide. There was a point in my life I was dating 3 different gorgeous women who were seriously into me. I ended up choosing one of them who is now my ex I thought was everything I wanted in a partner but looking back regretted. One is in a happy marriage with kids. The other got with a real bad dude and is divorced with a kid.
The biggest con would be if you were potentially hoping for something serious and the guys know you are with other guys or don't know.
If this makes guys uncomfortable: When women have more sex, men do too. I mean homosexuality notwithstanding. But there are more gay men than lesbians anyway.
I'd mention the risk of STD's but I think it's been covered.
The next would be to find people who are more openly polyamorous. It's never cool to lie to people or assume you aren't exclusive. Especially when relationships like this are hard to come by.
Stds is the big one. But you should understand what polygamy would bring. Imagine no sex for as few as half of all men. The younger men would riot. Sex crimes would become a daily occurrence for most cities. Men wouldn’t even get jobs because they don’t have to. Imagine most women having to share a small group of men… a few 100 millionaires taking almost all women… imagine you being an option rather then a choice.
In those guys heads they are just having sex and not dating you
Pros you can get laid more and more boys to spend money on you so if you get pregnant you can tell all of them it's theirs for money. Another pro is if you hate relationships this is a good player lifestyle
Cons you can get pregnant and spread aids without knowing who it was, people assume you are dirty cheater, promiscuous women have harder time securing man, can't get into relationship unless you hide your two timing past
Date around and have fun, if you want to have sex with all three, go for it. Everyone brings different perspectives and interests in your life. It is possible to be happy with that kind of lifestyle too, multiple partners. Whether they involve love or not.
Pros. it's fun on the beginning until it becomes boring
Cons. you give something that is limited to people who don't really value it.
At some point, still if you have the magic is an investment in someone who is worth it probably the best option.
Yes, just do what you're doing. It lends experience and knowledge in order to actually be able to discern whether they're worthy or not, whether it's a match or not.
And no, you don't have to have sex with them all, in fact it's not recommended. If they're a keeper, then the relationship will develop, and the sex will come naturally. Don't fall for the pump-and-dumpers. That's just a waste.
There are no pros to it, because it all goes back to sexual deviance, not to love. One partner at a time is enough. No less, these relationships can even divulge into jealousy, envy, and even covetousness over one getting more affection than the other. It's a hotbed of potiental issues.
My bad, didn't read the question correctly, disregard this post. Sorry about that. Can't delete it.
Pros:
You aren't waiting around/ eggs are in 1 basket.
You have more fun.
You have a higher chance of knowing what you want.
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Cons:
Flexibilty.
They can get jealous.
Since I like exclusive dating I am not going to have sex with anyone I am dating Std and STI free
Well the cons are you will be sleeping with multiple men and that reputation will follow you forever..
The pros are " variety is the spice of live " and really monogamy is bs , so variety is to be enjoyed , and is far more exciting.
Pros: you get to know personal lives of more number of people at once , increases your people management skills and increases multiple one night stands. Best for people who only wants to get physical in their dating life.
Cons: Cannot enjoy romance and quality time because your focus is on multiple people and at some point you have to let all others go even though how much you like them.
Can get messy. Can be unsafe if you’re not careful. But at the end of the day as long as you’re clear with who you’re seeing about things I don’t see the harm
Lack of empathy and hard to connect to someone special on a deeper level.
So it's not good to play the field even tho I'm young and still want to have fun?
I mean if you want to do it you will do it. It also depends if you want to me polygamous for the rest of your life or not. There are consequences.
To the asker, I get where you’re coming from. Overtime you will want some form of stability, even in a polyamorous relationship, there are points in time where you only have set partners and you’re not exploring other people outside the circle. Find what you’re comfortable with. It’s cool to ask to get some form identification with other people but other opinions truly don’t count. Your gut feeling will lead the way. Do you.
If you doing intimate stuff with them then it's slutty.
Well people said since I'm young I shouldn't settle down I should have fun so I didn't see the problem
Once you have a bad past, it is unchangeable. You will be undesirable for many good guys later on based on your behavior now.
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"date around and have fun" possibly the worst dating advice anyone can give short of "be a hooker"
Avoid casual sex if you don;t want your life ruined.
If you are having sex with them all then that would make you a slut and you will have a hard time finding a serious relationship down the line. Definitely don't do that.
What about if I just go out on dates with them? Would that also makes me a slut?
No it won't.
Multiple men can’t be compatible for you, so you’d be wasting yourctine with guys who aren’t, instead of being 100% with the right guy.
STDs, players, shallow Hals and Janes,---
You can decide for yourself if these are pros or cons.😉
If one gives you a headache, you can just spend time with another. Unfortunately, when it rains, it pours; so your problems could multiply
You will always look for perfect thing.
Focus on one at a time, and really get to know a person.
This "fun" lifestyle will most likely bite you in your ass in the future.
If you do it right, you'll be able to pick the right person for you.
Cons - STDs and being seen as the bad guy.
Well people said since I'm young I shouldn't settle down I should have fun so I didn't see the problem
Pros- You can find the person who is most compatible with me
Cons- You might meet the wrong person or find out when it's way too late
Pros: temporary fun
Cons: there’s no real intimacy.
Experience, fun, lots of fun. Variety is key.
No love, being used, higher std potential, pregnancy potential (assuming you don’t use proper protection), less dignity, selfish.
you will discover... that all dicks are the same in the dark... personality matter more than anything
Well people said since I'm young I shouldn't settle down I should have fun so I didn't see the problem.
Well the way people say I'm too young to fall in love or even think about love
Just for you people know they can cure most ST d's today with a few pills including HIV for the D so the old moral of what I'm gonna have sex with this person and catch something and it's gonna affect me for life it's all bullshit now
Pros: You get a bunch of attention
Cons: It'll turn into a huge mess, probably
At your stated age, you've probably had 100 cocks inside you. You'll likely have another 100 before you decide that you've had your fun and want to settle down. That will happen around age 30.
Well people said since I'm young I shouldn't settle down I should have fun so I didn't see the problem
There's no problem. You're a typical modern female
Keeping everyone straight, who am I with today.
Scheduling everyone.
One of the only ways you'll understand the other gender is to engage in as many meaningful relationships w/ them as you can
Pros -- variety
Cons -- multiplied stress. Especially if they don't know you double dating or something
STI's and heart breaks can be a big con , for the pros you happen to enjoy different multiple sex patterns with different people.
Well people said since I'm young I shouldn't settle down I should have fun so I didn't see the problem
Since u are young then I would say that you need to settle down dear and move on with with your life under your own pase. No need to rush u things up and live wild like others, just be you and do you. Dating various guys won't bring g no good moments mostly are bad ones to come to you.
It's just fine so long as you are above board about it.
Too complicated and too much bullshit to keep track of
Perfectly normal. Gotta discover what you like. Don't let these douche bags on here make you feel ashamed for being human.
Nothing wrong with playing the field, especially since theoretically you can match up with multiple people.
Way too expensive the woman never pays for herself. Pros there is no pros
If you're not careful you may leave the one you should be with.
Multiple options but the worst part is that you must only leave that status with just one partner.
cons too much bullshit and drama pros there are none
You're having fun but you're losing your ability to pair bond so you will be like this your whole life, a nice guy won't marry a whore.
No pros, only cons. And it will damage you in the long run
You lose the ability to feel special. It becomes normal.
AIDS is the prize and people doing that deserve to get it
Pro... Lots of random sex... cons? Running out of condoms.
Pros: variety
Cons: diseases
I forgot another two each: pros: can be as picky as one wants and move on
Con: pregnancy, expenses.
Personally I don't see any pros. I only see cons.
Could be a bad idea and a bad habit could form.
From my experience, this never ends well.
Well people said since I'm young I shouldn't settle down I should have fun so I didn't see the problem
Quit acting like a whore ffs
But I'm 20 shouldn't I enjoy myself and have fun until the right one come along.
If the only way you know how to have fun is with risky sexual behavior, then you may need counseling.
What @ObscuredBeyond said. Expand your horizons. There are a lot of fun things to do in this world. Sex is only one of them. And at some point, sex stops being fun if you don't do it right.
Do not get stuck in a routine
Pros : A gazillion STIs to count.
STDs.
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