What are the pros and cons of dating you?

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Leapfrog00 · Accepted Answer

Pros: I listen. Often care more than I should (Which I guess could sometimes be a con for me), I put other people before me, I write poetry to show how much I love the girl, I'm a bit old fashion (Opening car doors, pulling out chairs, lighting the girl's cigarette), I enjoy picnics under the moon and walks holding hands, I love to cook, and don't need a recipe to do it, I make sure to take sex slow and make sure she orgasms, including foreplay, being spontaneous, leaving little notes around the house with sweet nothings, and putting notes in her pocket when she's not looking, so she'll find them later on incase she misses me, also, I give the girl space and don't get too clingy, and reminding her how important she is. (Yeah, girl's probably don't like any of this. It probably drives them up the wall, lol)

Cons: I have self-esteem issues, I have trust issues, I'm a writer (And people say writers are too emotional), I'm a freak in bed, I have a high sex drive, I have social anxiety, I' afraid to make the first move, and I'm shy. I'm hard on myself and have to frequently be encouraged, I'm probably not the best kisser anymore since it's been while, I hide my feelings, I don't express how I feel, I never ask for help, I'm a good support system but I'm horrible at excepting support, I spend too much time by myself, and I find myself sweating a lot more these days (Anxiety probably).

ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

Pro: I'll go to great lengths to stop the roof from caving in.

Cons: The roof is always about to cave in, and I don't know when to quit.

Pro: I'm your greatest ally...

Con: Until you doublecross me.

Pro: I'll try not to be in your way.

Con: But I'm not good at asking for help effectively.

Pro: You'll get a colorful, intricate story behind things.

Con: Even if you don't care.

Pro: Your dedicated Mr. Fixit...

Con: Until I have to fix too many things at once, and can't juggle my concentration with that much division. And then I blue screen.

Pro: Smooth...

Con: But not rich.

Pro: Gals compare dating me to dating Batman or Spider-Man...

Cons: The strong morals, constant body aches, constant anxiety, endless maniacal enemies everywhere; but not the money nor the cool toys. Also, a high chance that something terrible will happen to her, and I won't get there in time to save her, and I'll beat myself up over it for months. Or, she'll be a bad apple or a psycho, and I'll find out only in the nick of time, and wonder why I didn't see right through her sooner.

Pro: Nurturing to a fault.

Con: More PTSD than Rambo.

Ms_Facesitter · Accepted Answer

I'm not the "what does he mean when he says..." or the girl who drops subtle hints hoping you'll get them. I'm straight forward and tell you exactly what I'm wondering or what I want. I'm calm, supportive. I'm honest. I'm not big on gifts so don't worry about buying me something. I love making you food so if you like home cooked meals after a long day at work? Sit back, put the tv on, I'll take care of the rest. Don't be afraid to tell me how you feel. Men aren't made of stone, if something's wrong just talk to me, I'll listen. If you like waking up to sex, falling asleep with sex, or sex during the day, and love having a butt on your face, we'll probably get along just fine :)

But I'm an introvert. I don't go out often. Not really a partygoer. I don't often go out in groups, it's usually just a a couple of friends, usually just one. My social battery just drains quickly. One of my hobbies is gaming so again, more staying inside. I don't always ask for help when I need it. Sometimes it's because I'm stubborn, sometimes because I don't know that I should probably ask for help. Please beat that habit out of me. I don't wear skirts or dresses so if you're into that, I'm sorry.

MissTinaP · Accepted Answer

I like looking into new things even if I don't understand them that well. For instance, in regards to sports, I like baseball and volleyball, cause I played them, but I'm interested in learning more about soccer, football and kabbadi.

I like to flirt, even if it'll take a friend to tell me that I'm being an idiot. I may be a little too blunt for my own good. I'm definitely a cat person, not a dog person, as I still subconsciously have a trauma from my youth from a friendly dog, who turned vicious in an instant. (I can still see the scar on my hand, even if you can't.)

I can get emotional easy when watching tv or movies. I like anime, but dislike musicals. I like various styles of dance, but I am too white, when it comes to freestyle. I prefer block heeled boots over high heels. I prefer driving over being driven. I'd love having longer nails, but can't because of my job/career. Knowing how to cook and clean is a must for both in a relationship, no exceptions. If you can give a good massage, you'll get one in return. Lastly, if you trick me into dressing up, when I didn't have to, you'll wish you hadn't.

Pinay_ako · Answer

You gotta know me more for you to find out.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

The Pro is I'm a supportive and well rounded person The Con is I have very little experience

MarkHrdman · Answer

Pros:

Receiving - Blowjob, hand job, fucking.

Someone who listens and corresponds with what im saying who understands, appreciates or admires what I've done or what im doing.

Being sexually aroused from interaction with the woman im dating

Cons:

Having to spend money.

Disagreements

Awkward pauses

Not connecting psychologically

Awkward initial encounters

Awkward parting ways.

Its fair to say that meeting someone for the first time, is not going to go as planed and getting to know someone by text messages isn't the same as confrontation.

Everyones different but dont assume that gender determines the interaction of the other persons role.

you're both there for a reason, so to state your case up front means that you'll both initially know what to expect but in general, woman dont understand dynamics of partnering for there own interest, as much as men tend to lead in 1 direction rather then over complicating things with complexity of multiple variations of engagement however non of this is important because as a woman you can love a male and still cheat on him by being subdued by another male due to physical urges of domination.

Where as a male can simply be missleading as to there intent. No different to your fake smiles for the camera or fake laughing because of influence.

Make no mistake, there's nothing you can do or say thats going to make a relationship a success the way you want it, without compromise and relationships are one of the hardest interactions to work on for genuine mutual interest but this doesn't mean to give up but to confront the challenge to fight for something to work on, which is why woman generally are all interested in the 1 guy, rather then being interested in whats available but everyones different and levels of interest for perspective partners are different, just like different areas yeild different prospects but these rules of generally principle apply everywhere. Its the scale of partner bounding which changes.

So enjoy it while it lasts. One day you're going to grow old and potentually undesirable but we can all compete at all stages of life.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Pros—————  I’m hardworking, friendly, goofy, nurturing, bubbly, quirky, logical, humble, ethical, creative, encouraging, freaky, tactful, respectful, well organized, and decisive. I love to entertain. I have a sense of humor as long as its light hearted or dirty joking. I don’t smoke/drink/party. I can carry a conversation and hardly curse. I buy my own stuff and will never ask for any of your financials. Once we have sex, we ain't stopping until one of us passes out. If we ever marry, a prenup is a must.  Cons—————  Once I start sucking, I don’t know how to stop. I’m like a human leech when it comes to the d! ck. You gotta pull me off. Haha lemme hush... Okay, so I talk A LOT. Yet i suck at listening. I hate texting, so if you really wanna get at me, you gotta call. I like my space so no I’m not tryna see you daily unless we’re married. I’ll see you at least twice weekly. I’m clumsy af. I can be bossy. I’m stubborn and set in my ways, so if we’re not on the same page about something, don’t waste your time trying change/convince me otherwise. I don’t hook up nor have sex too early on. I dislike sarcasm and dark humor. I don’t want to travel the world but will travel nationwide. I’m only spontaneous when it comes to Vegas or sex. I’m not all that outdoorsy. (I’d rather rockclimb inside and camp from a cabin). You must watch at least half of my film collection when you come over. I don’t party, unless we’re talking concerts/raves. I don’t put much effort into my dress/hairstyles and love wearing sweatpants and buns. I gamble often, but with my own money and a certain budget. I can be sensitive so feel free to be straightforward but practice your delivery.  Welp thats all!!

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Pros:

I know how to have a really good time and my energy levels are off the charts, I've only met two girls who could outlast me in bed.

I can cook well enough to open a restaurant.

I'm handy

I've had a pretty trying life and am a survivor, there's nothing that can stop me.

Im an Adonis, and hilarious

I stick to my principals and love family unconditionally

I'm well spoken and knowledgeable about a lot of stuff, I can hold an intelligent conversation with just about anyone. Which in certain settings makes my woman look really good.

Cons:

I'm really stubborn (working on it)

My hearing is terrible

My dgaf attitude can probably get annoying.

My work takes up a lot of my time and it has created problems in my relationships before.

Sometimes I get carried away proving my point, which mostly goes back to my sense of humor.

I might have autism... Maybe

There's other good and bad but I guess you'd have to meet me

Citizenkirk · Answer

Pro's are-- I am honest, reasonably good looking, upbeat, except when I'm not, which is rare, and a sports enthusiast.
Con's-- You have never met me before, therefore, you know only what I tell you about myself, and only the way I see myself at that. You are therefore, limited in your evaluation of my character and personality traits, by my perspective view of my own character and the things I bring to the table as a potential relationship partner in an engagement between the two of us, with a relationship dynamic being uncertain and undescribable in terms of my ability to fulfill your needs, and your ability to do the same for me.
In short, life is what happens when you and I are making other plans, and I can never know myself the way that you can know me. Therefore,--
Why not spend some time together, and see where life takes us. That way, we can be happy with each other, or with someone who is better suited for you and for me if we really are not the best possible fit for each other. Either way -- life is what happens when you and I are making other plans, so let's plan tentatively for now, and see where life takes us.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Pros: I'm a very nice guy, great sense of humour, usually a lot of fun to be with, music for just about every mood, I'm intelligent, quite loyal and trustworthy, not fat but, at the moment, trying to lose some excess weight I've gained over the past 10 years, if I have money, I don't mind spending it but, I'm not interested in paying a couple hundred dollars for something I can elsewhere for $20! I don't hit and I know how to make a girl cum, I don't fall asleep as soon as I'M done, I like to snuggle and hold you, I'm not the jealous type so, I don't mind you ave male friends and except the same from you (as far as me having female friends), I will quite often profess my love for you at any given moment. (I don't mean loudly and constantly, I just mean, if I feel like telling you, "I love you.", I will! Expect it at least 3 to 6 times a day.) And, I'm quite the sweetheart. I don't lie, cheat, steal, drink, smoke or do drugs. I'm paper-trained and house-broken.
Cons: I don't drive (yet). I'm working on it. At the moment, I'm a bit skint but that's because of the situation my aunt and my ex-sisters forced upon me.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Great sense of humor, easy to get along with, a pretty good listener, not too hard on the eyes, strong, great with mechanical things/bugs/goo stuff like that, helps others, will drop everything to help a stranger out, kind of smart, hard worker, kind of rich, like to travel, great friends, plays well with others, cool hat at work.
Cons, odd work schedules, can be out of town often during the spring, summer, fall for a few days during the week, missed dates, dinners, date nights due to responding to calls, goes into burning buildings, doesn't come in out of the rain, will get quite and sullen for a few days after a bad shift/call, I won't tell you much about my day because once I tell you I cannot untell you, probably works too hard/much, more of a cat person vs dogs, I'm ok with kids, but they are usually all sticky, and most of your stuff disappears, but to a kid in trouble I am there in a heartbeat, can't stand idiots, have a high body count, spends too much on my old cars/motorcycles, my cylinder count is pretty high...

Anonymous · Answer

✅PROS

1. I will make you immortal.

🤷Not a vampire, just and artist and writer.

2. I will be faithful

🤯Even if things go downhill, I would rather breakup before be unfaithful.

3. I am pet friendly

♥️I like pets, beside the natural world

4. I have a really high sex drive

⚠️But I will not pressure you for sex; although I will start question many things if I notice sexual unsatisfaction on both sides; or if I don't notice any sexual interest.

5. Despite not been physically active, I like to eat healthy.

💭I hate greasy food

❌CONS

1. I am not a natural athlete.

⚠️If you like going to the park for a run, I am sorry, not my thing.

⚠️If you like doing yoga: not my thing

2. When talking about science, politics and religion, I am to passionate

🤷It's just me, but I understand that it can easily leads to an argument.

3. I am not the flirty type of guy

⚠️I may tell you look good or great, or that like your dress, but other than that: nothing

4. To open up is a problem for me

⚠️Is not easy for me to show my emotions. The environment I grew up in, never did help me to be emotive.

5. I am sexually inexperienced

⚠️I only had sex once, so I may not have any clue of the mating process.

mandyfire98 · Answer

Pros:
It'll never be boring lol.
I'm normally always upbeat and happy.
I'm affectionate, loving and caring and empathetic.
I love to cook.
I'm a dancer (yes I'm very flexible) 😉
I'm a bit goofy and love to laugh and joke around.
I have a high sex drive. I'm very passionate.

Cons: (I personally view some of these as pros but I understand some don't.)

I do have a hell of a temper. It takes a lot to get me there but when I'm there it's explosive.

I can be viewed as bubbly and flirtatious, it's just my personality. If somebody is insecure then that'll be a con for them.

I'm very open and adventurous in personality so if you are more introverted or close minded then that'll be an issue.

I am a bit scatter brained. I procrastinate.
I have no filter at all. I always say what I'm thinking.

Sour-rose · Answer

Pros-  I have mcdonalds and starbucks app on my phone so free meals and coffees. I also will protect you with my pepper gun and will let you fondle my boobs when they grow in. Cons-  i'm sour af, and will probably be not what you thought of. I'm asexual, so i ain't gonna fk you or get fked. I'm lactose intolerant and do not care if you want me to stop having dairy. We will stop anytime I know a good bathroom, and we will not meet my parents. Ever. I mean... EVER.  Also i'll give you free snacks but I'm not telling you how I make my money. And as soon as you want to know and won't shut up about it, we're done.

hsshannah96 · Answer

Pros: I work and I am a HARD WORKER.
cons: I work a lot.

pros: I am funny.
cons: I sometimes use sarcastic humor when I’m ANGRY.

pros: I love to cuddle.
cons: you have to earn my ability to want to be Handsy with you. I wait at a BARE MINIMUM of 3 months for any sex.

pros: I love to find fun out and about.
cons: I like to not sit at home all day every single day. I like to find adventure. I am an extrovert.

pros: there’s always something to talk about when you’re with me.
cons: I’ll talk your ear off and sometimes you have to ask me if I was listening.

pros: I love chocolate

cons: I’m curvy because I love chocolate.

pros: I do care about myself and others

cons: I care what others may think about me

DenizLikesTennis · Answer

I am fun and adventurous, that we'd visit 3 new places in a day, go on a massive trip

I have a sense of style and humour

I take care of myself very well. Physically and mentally fit, a good hygiene. I have a schedule where I join a spa/wellness club and relax, additionally reading books about Psychology.

I am caring and insightful

I know how to be financially responsible, know every dollar's worth and save enough money each month.

And last but not least, I am well-organized

Anemone978 · Answer

Pros: I have a big sense of humor, I like to do fun stuff, I like to make others smile, I am good at the "wifely duties", I am supportive, like to see others thrive, I don't need a lot to be happy, not greedy, Intelligent, protective, honest, forgiving.

Cons: I have BPD, I have a huge fear of abandonment so if I don't feel secure I will abandon you first, I always cut deep with words in an argument, I like to always be with the person I love, I tend to just go along with things, I talk a lot, not good under pressure, I can be blunt and stubborn, fat.

Lionman95 · Answer

Pros:
- I can cook
- I prefer giving massages over getting them
- I´m generally curious
- I don´t use social media
- I know what I want and what not
- Not a gamer, I spend much time reading or listening to podcasts though but I can´t live a day without at least once leaving the house for some time
Cons:
- I´ve never been in a long-term relationship
- no good communication skills, I tend to forget answering messages or mails because I´m focused on something else
- no handy man, I´m trying to solve but I often can´t
- I´m infertile since birth due to a genetical dysfunction, so I can´t give you kids

Agape93 · Answer

Pros

I don't get jealousy and I'm very accommodating

I don't give a shit about your race, religion, politics etc.

I'm happy to go shooting, camping, hiking or hunting with you

I have dogs

I'm very passionate

Etc.

Cons

I am always tired

My mental health is shit

I'm not stable

I have a severe temper, and in some circumstances I will get violent. Though I never lay a hand on my partner, unless they do it to me first or they harm a loved one.

Etc.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Pros: I am honest, I don't ask for much except I really like and want cuddles, I can talk a lot.

What I wouldn't call negative but can be to others: Clingy, have strong opinions, I am highly lazy, I don't like dogs but love kats, very left I don't have many if any conservative ideals. I like dark humor and am certainly insane but I am harmless unless that person is a bad person.

Negative: I am selfish however while this always remains true I am very selfless to certain people and partners would be included in that so I don't know if this one counts, I lack of self care but I am motivated for that if I had a partner, I don't like cooking, Again Highly lazy. Not one to clean up really.

Personally I like who I am, but other's have different tastes.

ARWINGx1 · Answer

I could've given some posibilities... (none that I can confirm though, as I haven't dated a single girl in my whole life)

But with what I do know, it all boils down to whatever pros and cons one would see in dating someone who's autistic (more specifically, Asperger's)

Though one flaw that I have heard of, is that I've been said to be selfish (However, there is a possibility that said autism had something to do with it. But I can't confirm that now.)

Anyway, tl:dr: Being Autistic, plus 1 (potential) flaw of being selfish.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Hmm I'll name a few

Pro's

I'm very laid back and down to earth guy I can asked quite a bit if I'm drugs because of how chill I am ( and no I don't take drugs )

Goofy and quite funny at times

Patient

Kind

Passionate

Very fitness oriented

When I'm comfortable with a partner and like em a lot I'm very flirty.

Both a pro and con

I like to tease a lot so it can be a pro or con depending on who you are.

Con's

Stubborn

I can be an asshole sometimes

I smoke pipe tobacco and cigars

I occasionally drink

I work a pretty tiring labor job and am usually pretty tired after I get off so I don't have much motivation to do anything like going out so it can take some effort to get me out of the house to do stuff.

TooHot2Care · Answer

cons:

-I'm evil.

-My affection and attention is conditional until you pass my vibe checks

-If you're "THAT GIRL" I'll cheat on you without hesitation.

-I'll probably bounce without a word if you are THAT GIRL but in a less offensive degree.

-Sometimes I'll ignore you.

Pros:

-Do you know what a "service top" is?

-I'll write poetry about you

-Sometimes my conditional love mask slips off and I just mindlessly throw it at you due to this annoying affectionate side of me that won't fucking die.

-I'll basically pick you up by the waist and do stuff to you.

-I look good so you will be able to show me off to your friends and family.

-Despite my dark tendencies, I actually treat my lovers rather well.

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