Why is it really hard to find someone nowadays?

[Anonymous]

I never found someone I dated for a long time. Longest was 2 months and it wasn’t really serious anyway. I met sometime recently and figured he’s not worth my time as well. He Texted saying he wanted to make plans but that he has covid. It has been 2 weeks and he hasn’t texted again. I do not know if it is just me but I found it Hard to find somebody that shows real interest. Any thoughts on this?

[mikaelis]

Well i guess it's important to ask how well you both clicked? Cuz sometimes byou can't click with everyone and usually good people are usually busy doing their own thing and their past people. I tend to live in a big city 25 million and there's always something to do, new people to meet but sometimes it would be nice to meet the same good people or partner to spend a weekend with or etc. But some people prioritize and have past engagements or etc. Ya know? Sorry I think I might have merged two thoughts in to one lol

[Anonymous]

Because people nowadays are looking at dating as an inconvenience and treating sex like buying a soda, as nothing. People who genuinely are looking for relationships are either on the sidelines or getting shot down while everyone else is fucking around like nothing means anything. People jump from partner to partner like changing underwear. A lot of people have given up.

[Asker]

But I also have a lot of friends who get really boyfriends they go to holidays with. They are not even that attractive tbh. So I’m not sure why it’s not working for me.

[Anonymous]

Most women have made dating almost impossible and men have started realizing it’s better to be alone than risk being falsely accused of some crime for showing interest, or ending up with a spoiled narcissistic entitled child with insane expectations and high body count that do not bring anything to the table besides vagina, while constantly looking for greener grass and posting themselves online for cheap male attention.

[Anonymous]

If you were a man this dating experience is considered very lucky. Dating someone 2 months then 2 weeks ago will make man say it's really easy to find someone nowadays. Go to events like school or clubs like softball maybe there will be a lot of people

[Honesttguy]

Well others in relationship compromise to have relationship if u dont compromise then u dont have relationship

[jshm2]

You are probably boring to be around. Have you spoke to your friends for their input?

[Asker]

A lot of people are boring to be around and yet have relationships. I have mentioned this to my friends and they were just surprise I didn’t have a relationship as long as one year. So it seems like nobody knows..

[GlassTop]

It’s either your looks or personality. Something about you makes them not want to commit. It’s you. Probably not them.

[Asker]

Haha RUDE af

[Asker]

You look like you have a shitty personality

[GlassTop]

I was just being honest. There is no reason a guy would only date you for only 2 months. It could also be other things like hygiene, or do you have sex with them too fast? Are you promiscuous? Are you talking to a bunch of other guys at the same time? Are you too political? Do you have mood swings? Are you extremely negative? It could be a thousand things. These are MEN we are talking about. Just for the fact of keeping a good fuck friend is reason enough for a guy to stay around longer than two months.

[Anonymous]

Well I can't speak for everyone. But the more I learn about women's the less I find them worth it. Basically I consider women a losing proposition. You put more effort into them then you ever get out of them.

[Anonymous]

Most women are promiscuous and and the consequence for all of that 'fun' is always quality men walking away.

[Anonymous]

People seem to play a lot of games these days when it comes to dating.

[Anonymous]

To many options so people don't want to commit and are always looking for someone better.

[TrillXHippy]

It’s hard for me because of the way that I look

[bamesjond0069]

Are you ugly?

[Asker]

Not at all. I know exactly what you mean in fact I’m surprised to see that many of my friends who are well a bit unattractive have easier time finding bfs than I do. I’m not easy either just to clarify in case that’s ur second question,

[bamesjond0069]

Are you one of those girls who just sits home all day and is anti social?

[Asker]

Nope. I have multiple friends, travelled to Canada, Asia and now Europe for school. I also work part-time. The guys that have previously shown interest in me backed out because they only wanted sex, were too shy or just weird. There’s no solid reason I can pinpoint for this.

[bamesjond0069]

I would think in china you would have a million men lined up since they have an epic shortage of women.

[Asker]

I didn’t live in China but I don’t find Asian men attractive. Nothing personal.

[bamesjond0069]

You might have what i call "busy girl syndrome" too busy and men aren't really attracted to someone who seems too busy for them. For example i was talking to a girl who would travel for both school and to go on mission trips. I waited for her to come to town we would date and then she would leave again. Eventually i met another girl i liked just as much but she wasn't so busy and was calm and content to stay in one place. Much more attractive for a serious relationship. Men need to get established and generally that means focusing on a career and buying a house, two things that generally dont fit well with moving around and such. Why enter a serious relationship when you say you're moving continents in a year for school? Seems like a waste of time. You also deny men looking for casual relationships... so what do you have left? Singlehood?

[Asker]

Causal relationships never turn serious. It only means they don’t like you enough to date.

[bamesjond0069]

Well i got that. And something about you has men feeling the same about you. The moving around id find a big turn off for serious relationship and id think other men would too. Most girls i know who do that are single.