Why does Finding someone feel so hard/Impossible?

[Anonymous]

Like you see people have someone they love and go through everything together, so unconditionally and real but you can’t even find anyone yourself and it makes you question whether you’re good enough or worth it. It feels impossible to find love or someone while everyone else makes it look easy. Why

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe that for the average person, all good things require sacrifice and hard work to gain and receive, I know girls who cried themselves to sleep during their graduate school preparation work at the hospital before getting PhDs and I know girls who work like dogs in the gym for 15 years to look thin and fit. I also know guys who had to ask out 300 girls before one said yes. My friend had a professor who took ten years to do his bachelors degree but later got a PhD. The life of all man kind is, if you want something, you have to work for it and if you don’t work for it, it will make you miserable after you get it.

[Guy13]

I think you are too young to be worried about this. You should be focused on getting yourself professionally and personally ready to handle a relationship. Girls can smell those kinds of guys and they will find you.

They know if you don't have your crap together too after about 15 minutes of talking. So if you are not relationship material... don't have crap together then you will continue to have difficult time.

[Asker]

Too young? It says you’re 29, you’re only 5 years older. And what? What is relationship material?

[Avicenna]

Because it’s hard to find someone who’s compatible who doesn’t have dealbreakers