Do guys think single moms hot?

Question

I am ready to start dating again and very excited for it but also have doubts that most guys my age will think that I’m not hot or datable woman because I have kids.

PhenomenalQueen · Accepted Answer

I’ll just say what I’ve experienced, I honestly feel like most men if not all (the ones who are honest) are not wanting to date single mothers.. it seems more as we get the people who are what other men consider to be “weak” nowadays. I know of someone who purposely dated single mothers just to have sex with them, he would literally manipulate women into having sex with him and later say they’re easy.. He’s a man who is very well known, has a very respectable job title, and his name carriers weight so it came by surprise to me that he had such horrible things to say.. But I will say that I’m not surprised that that’s what they will say. Single mothers are viewed as what I would call bad investments, they don’t see value in us, they think we’re easy to use and manipulate, they don’t really care for our feelings.. (but of course I’m speaking for those types of men not all men) On the flip side, there’s men who are willing to date single mothers because they’re single parents themselves or they were raised by one sometimes. (I feel like those guys are rare because none of my friends who are in the dating scene have met any of them) You’re a beautiful woman, you’re going to find someone with a beautiful heart and pure intentions for you.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Just be careful... There's some men out there that will still respect you and want to date you, and not have an issue with you having kids. There's other men that will say you're not someone to date/marry but they'd be down to fuck you.. you know the guys that assume that all single moms must be easy or desperate... My advice would be to go slow in starting a relationship/getting sexual till you know they want more than just someone to pump and dump, unless that's all you're looking for as well..

Oigit · Accepted Answer

I'm not sure. But, keep your guard up when dating though. Some guys do look at single mothers as desperate and easy to manipulate. So there is chance you might attract the worst of the worst. Also best way to think about it in general is that you and your kid are dating again. Because they do need to be in your mind all the time.

I was raised by a single mother. When she started dating it created some serious issues for my younger brother and I. Not because she was dating. Because of the men she was dating. My brother and I ended up dealing with the fallout of her dating men she shouldn't have. So in general dating can be just about you and in a lot of ways your kid still need to be your priority. Because I can say from personal experience my brother and I ended up dealing with a lot of the fallout from her bad choices in men.

whosnumber1 · Accepted Answer

good for you! I hope you find someone great. don't worry about it too much. I guarantee there's gonna be someone interested... I know I would be

Avicenna · Answer

It's quite possible to be attractive and be a single mom; however, as you know most men don't want to take care of other men's kids. That said, if you've taken care of yourself, you will be able to get a boyfriend, but don't expect it to be your dream man.

Guy13 · Answer

It’s about the age of the children for most but not all men or women. Some Dads leave because of it and some singles don’t want to share you.-So, 9th grade and higher required….

Crafteroon · Answer

I think the best thing you can do when dating as a single mom is separating your motherhood and dating life. Only introduce someone to your child or children once you are certain it's going somewhere serious. Spend the night at his place instead of yours, focus on your child when with them and focus on him when with your date.

As a parent things will always be messy, emergencies will happen. Being open about having a child while showing yourself as an individual lets them know that you have responsibilities as a parent but are still a woman. If they show signs of not understanding your parenthood or disliking having children, no matter how much you want it, that relationship will not have a future.

MCheetah · Answer

Hell no. Twice as much effort, twice as much (or more) people to please, and half as much time in her life, and a quarter as much priority. There's literally no benefits to dating a single mother and ALL negatives. Widows aside, there's a reason single parents (but especially single mothers) aren't considered attractive. If I wanted to deal with endless baggage, I'd work for the TSA.

Anonymous · Answer

It will likely be harder for you, but not impossible. It will limit your "options". But it's not necessarily about looks either. It's about the child (ren) and what that means for the potential relationship. Just like if you were single, dating a single dad, any and all concerns you would have about that, we do also. Only difference is women I think are more willing to take the risks that way, were guys just don't want to even take the chance. Some guys. Some guys won't mind at all that you're a mother.

Anonymous · Answer

You will find plenty of man who want to screw you. You will have a hard to trying to find a GOOD man who wants to marry you though. Think about it, that child of yours will always be more important than he ever will to you. You always won’t be able to have time for him. He is essentially gonna have to be stepdad, and it will bother him that it’s not his baby. That’s just the reality. But I know men who LOVE milfs. And they have no issues with kids. They are out there. The best thing you can do is let the guy know from the beginning you have a child. Not something that you surprise him with after the second or third date.

zagor · Answer

Depends on the mom.

And also on her kids. If they have emotional problems and are difficult to live with it doesn't matter how attractive and nice mom is.

On the other hand I had a friend who married a woman with 2 kids and he gets along great with the kids and their dad.

England4eva · Answer

The right guy will see you as a package deal. The maternal instinct in you to the put your babies first, should be beautiful to him. If it’s not, then maybe he ain’t as genuine as he makes out.

Not saying every guy wants to be a step dad, but don’t get entangled with someone who says one thing, but then acts another.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Are your kids adult aged, because you should see if you can date close to your age group if you are currently robing the cradle. If your date is younger than your youngest son or daughter, try someone closer too your age. If guys older than you are calling you too old, than they are blowing smoke out of their ass, as all hypocrites do.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Nothing wrong with having kids.
And "soccer " moms can be hot.
I didn't mind if a women I was dating had kids, as long as she and their father were getting along OK.
I would not have enjoyed being in the middle, and I understand that sometimes stuff happens.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Well there's a difference between being hot and being dateable, in my opinion. Personally, I would not date someone with kids because I don't want kids and I don't want any of the drama that goes with kids and/or an ex or baby daddy. But that's just me.

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Well I'm a full-time single father, so a full-time single mother would be perfect for me, because we would both understand that we're busy and have priorities, and we would value our limited free time together.

boggboss · Answer

I won't think she is specifically hot because she is a single mum its not a turn off but would have to know more about her before dating where as I wouldn't need that same level of knowing to date

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Really it’s about the woman and not whether she has kids or not. she hot because of who she is not because of what she is.

Kaneki05 · Answer

If your hot your hot It don't matter if a parent or not. However if a parent you would of course need to find a guy who is okay with kids and by extension kids who are not his own.
Which there will be guys like that.

Andres77 · Answer

You're datable... but is he planning on being the healthy masculine figure your kid needs to grow up with a safe and well adjusted perspective on life?

princeofromance · Answer

You need to think positive. Take it from a man who wants to have his own family someday. I would love to date a woman like you.

Cuminginside · Answer

I only have one request my profile picture make that point very clear, don't worry you hot the thing is when you have kids you have to make yourself hot as opposed to just walking around hot.

Flower7 · Answer

Most guys are not a fan of single moms, especially if they don’t have any kids of their own.

chulo1992 · Answer

I have dated MANY women with kids, some were hot, others were just okay. As long as the attraction, chemistry and connection was there, kids or no kids... it did not matter.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I check girls out with thick legs, big ass, big tits, and single mom's hot as f***k Hahahhaha !!! Jk jk jk jk jk !!!

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Any guy who shuns you because of your kids is not worth a light anyway!

Redeye2020 · Answer

I think single mom's are hot. Any woman who can raise a kid on their own has some strength and that can be hot. Of course if you are simply talking looks then it depends on what you look like.

Guardian45 · Answer

I can't speak for guys your age, but older guys have no trouble dating Moms. I am.

DARKCLOUD1945X · Answer

They do not know what they are missing. yeah, some time management problems. But I think they are worth the investment you might be surprised the same with guys with kids.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Hot like to fuck? Sure. Dateable? Sorry but hell no.

Anonymous · Answer

A single mom to a guy is about as attractive as a homeless guy is to a woman.

jahaims · Answer

Nah, I assume they make bad choices unless they are widowed

Hulk30 · Answer

are you shittin me as fine as ya are ya can definitely get it with most men

CubaPirate · Answer

Well the hell yeah. It's evidence that they like sex

Twalli · Answer

As a rule I don't find that a deal breaker beyond the fact that I can't financially help provide for the child.

Yellovv · Answer

Yes they are hot, because they know how to handle guys...

Anonymous · Answer

Damn i dunno this when it's happened? Lol guys would go on knees for women like you. ❤️

Cowboy6666 · Answer

Some girls are very hot, having kids doesn't make them less sexy :P

Anonymous · Answer

There are all sorts guys out there so you will get nice guy just be yourself 🙂

Berethor · Answer

Nope, most guys prefer a girl without a baggage.

varan69 · Answer

Yes they are so feel good and confident that someone will like you for who u are and what you have

Joshua0213 · Answer

Maybe hot but not worth dating unless I also had kids tbh

Rohaan2020 · Answer

don't know about others but u definitely look hot n gorgeous

Zygum · Answer

Not like this, women with kids are hot and need physical intimacy

serious · Answer

I think some men do. Yes.

Anonymous · Answer

I know there are guys who don't mind it, but i do for some reason. I can't really describe why.

ashish804 · Answer

single moms r fucking hot amd sexyy

larry69 · Answer

I love younger single moms very hot..24 to 35

bananathunder · Answer

I think you will be fine...

krin_m · Answer

Having kids should not matter.

michael1469 · Answer

Why wouldn't i like a milf?

EaterPeter · Answer

Absolutely

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Maybe hot but not marriage material.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Yes! Well until they drop the news..

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Hell yeah some are very hot

Zlantur2 · Answer

They can. I used to date one but as fwbs.

Titlover01 · Answer

Yes I do. And I would have no problem dating one

Anonymous · Answer

Wtf bro I can't pm you... why?

Mr1derful · Answer

Absolutely!

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I am 27 and she is 45.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Can be, yes

Nerdvana · Answer

Yes, very hot.

Fuentes · Answer

Not my thing

Tstrbrainer · Answer

You look sexy

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