How can I accept that I’m unfuckable and not relationship material to the guys that I want?

[Anonymous]

[DaveJord]

Start looking for better men. I mean you have to be realistic and you might be putting too much importance on the wrong things. You might be over looking and not appreciating a lot if other qualities a man can offer.

I am not talking about settling, but I talking about stop looking for what you want, and start appreciating the things you really need from a man, and then provide to him.

[Realbanger87]

I find this hard to believe, since you say you are athletically built. I suggest going out this Friday night to a club in heels and a short dress and try to debunk this theory, before settling into this mindset

[Asker]

I do go out and do look good in anything I wear, still no guys approach me or seem interested.

[Realbanger87]

Why do you think that is? here's my opinion...
You're probably come off as an approachable person
You probably look as having an attitude
You're playing on your phone when going out
You are not showing interest in the guys you're interested in

[Asker]

No I don’t do any of the above. I’m just not good enough. It’s okay.

[Realbanger87]

I think guys are very interested in you, but you seem disinterested. When was the last time you actually greeted or smiled first at a guy you like?
Also, if you are too hot or too beautiful most guys would shy away from approaching you

[Asker]

Maybe. The only guys who really talk to me or pay me any mind tend to be players. But I’ll still take it personally anyway.

[Realbanger87]

What do you mean by take it personally?

[Asker]

I’ll still think if a guy isn’t interested that it’s because I’m not what he wants.

[Realbanger87]

Not true... send me a DM and let's get to the bottom of this

[Asker]

I don’t think I can send DMs on here.

[Realbanger87]

Hey... thank you for the MHO... let's chat further, I think we share similar issues... what's your username?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Well, why do you think that?

[Asker]

I don't know. I mean I model and am thin and young but no guys ever express sexual interest in me and usually choose someone else over me.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

How’s your personality?

[Asker]

I’m shy, nice, really athletic, have a job as a computer scientist. Outside of that I’m probably really boring. For a long time I thought I was interesting but I’m not.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Everyone is considered fuckable to someone. Relationship material is subjective, some people don’t like boring people, but some do… I don’t think you’ve just put yourself out there to really try and find someone.

[Skyros]

Everyone is fuckable, as you say, and you can work on being relationship material. I’m working on it myself. When it comes to women I am not the best to say the least. Do like me and check out some YouTube videos or watch some romance movies. Best of luck

[Asker]

I should be relationship material with how much I work on myself but I am not “high caliber” enough to be considered as anything more than a placeholder.

[Crucis84]

You want her to accept the "advice" offered in romance films?

[Ironic_Method]

I'm willing to bet anything you're fuckable because men. As far as relationship material... you just have to find the right person. A good start would be finding someone that has a few of the same interests you do.

[Asker]

I’m just planning to be single for the remainder of my life. I keep failing at relationships.

[Ironic_Method]

No way! It just takes a bit to find someone compatible. Use each relationship as a learning opportunity to discover what you need and what you can't deal with. It's worth it if you can find your person.

[Anonymous]

Then just be happy being single. Being with someone shouldn't be the sole source of your happiness. Be happy with your life in general and with yourself. I'm in my 40's and still in the same boat. But there's advantages to being single also.

[Asker]

I’m going to be single for the remainder of my life. It never really happened for me to be in a relationship. By now I’m so set in my own ways from being single that I can’t adjust.

[20yearsolder]

I have to know, what makes you unfuckable? We don't know your personality or your characteristics to judge you on why you can't keep a relationship

[serious]

Simple. Keep yourself occupied in developing your career and become a workaholic.

[Asker]

Already do that all the time.

[serious]

You are already doing the right thing then.

[jahaims]

Definitely guys out there that will fuck you. Not being relationship material is on you and you can change that.

[Asker]

Nope, I’m not fuckable to really successful and rich guys that I’m always around. I’m not relationship material no matter how much I work on myself. So I’m just going to forget it.

[jahaims]

I didn't say successful rich guys want to fuck you. Lower your standards or stop complaining.

[Asker]

Nope I cannot lower my standards.

[jahaims]

Have fun being alone then

[Asker]

Exactly the point of the post. And it’s ok. I’m a nothing.

[bamesjond0069]

Workout. Wear a dress. Learn how to cook. Keep your mouth closed except to suck his dick. You will have a boyfriend in no time.

[Crucis84]

Why don't you learn how to cook? Cook your own damn meals!

[bamesjond0069]

@Crucis84 im an excellent cook first off. Secondly thats a womans job. Women dont want a man who cooks or cleans.

[Asker]

@bamesjond0069 I work out every day for an hour or more. I wear dresses a lot too. I know how to cook.
You’re right though that I shouldn’t talk. Maybe that’s my problem.

[bamesjond0069]

Honestly many girls say very stupid things that are off putting. The chances you're doing that vs saying something great are not good. So you can't go wrong being quiet.

[Asker]

@bamesjond0069 well I don’t say many stupid things at all. I am actually smart, but guys don’t care about that so.

[bamesjond0069]

Uhh womens opinion on stupid and mens is totally different. So instead of trying to figure it out, just be seen and not heard. a lot easier.

[Asker]

I’m a computer scientist and speak really eloquently. In fact I was always advised that men like dumb women.

[bamesjond0069]

Men say they like smart women but when you personally put a dumb bimbo and an intelligent woman next to each other say at like a bar or social interaction the dumb bimbo gets like 10x more attention. you're smart so you must realize most people both men and women are completely unaware of their own behavior. So yes men do like dumb women. I said on another post who gets in a relationship for intellectual conversation? Its for romance and sex and having a family. The people who set themselves up to fulfill these things appear as ultra attractive to the opposite sex. Intelligence isn't going to make sex better for men nor romance better for men nor having kids better for men... so why would they care about that. However needing a man being submissive or just reliant on a man for masculine things is going to make sex romance and family life better for men. And thus why men often go for a bimbo

[Asker]

So I should make myself a bimbo?

[bamesjond0069]

Ill just say lots of very intelligent women do exactly that. One of my exgfs was very smart but you would never know it. She would refuse to act anything other than a bimbo 24/7/365 but once a year or so id catch her doing some very intelligent stuff and id ask her about it and she would be like "oh i just guessed even a bimbo is right once in awhile" but i could tell she wasn't a moron. Or she would say some comical ass stuff that you had to know what was going on to say the wrong thing and have it be hilarious. Everyone thought she was dumb as a brick though. She always had tons of guys chasing her and fawning over her. So you certainly wouldn't be the first girl to do such a thing. Id not say you have to do it to date but you will attract a whole new set of men than you currently do surely and maybe they are more your type? Give it a try and see how you feel about it and if you get results.

[Anonymous]

Oh, boo hoo you poor thing. Guys go through this every day. Sorry princess that your prince isn't waiting for you.

[michael1469]

Buy a vibrator then. A guy doesn't owe you a relationship just because you met and slept with him anyway. Something you should have thought of anyway.

[Asker]

I never have sex with a guy before commitment. In fact haven’t even had sex since my last relationship 3 years ago.

[michael1469]

Yikes!!!

[Asker]

What?

[michael1469]

You haven't had sex in 3 years... no wonder why they run

[Asker]

? Why would they run?

[Asker]

I’m not someone who needs sex consistently. That’s all.

[Asker]

Haha you guys never make sense. So you want someone who’s been sexually active recently? You guys hate “whores” but also hate women who aren’t sexually active regularly.

[Anonymous]

Let me put it this way. What is your other option? But it's OK! You know why? Because of every woman who feels this way there's probably a 100 guys that deal with this problem. You'll live!

[Guanfei]

You can't ask that and not show why. Maybe you are, maybe you aren't, and depending on which one you are, the answer is different.

[Fuentes]

By getting smashed by dudes that are in your league

[Asker]

I don’t know what my league even is.

[Fuentes]

You saying no dudes wanna smash you?

[Asker]

I can’t really tell. No one says things like “hey wanna come over tonight?” They ask me on dates and disappear, flirt or it goes nowhere, just drop off the face of the earth so easily.

[Fuentes]

Ru using Tinder?

[Asker]

I use bumble and sometimes get hit on at my gym and other places I go. It’s common for a guy to comment on my hair or something but not follow up with anything else.

[Fuentes]

Usee tinder m tons 0f dudes will wanna smash u

[Anonymous]

Welcome to the typical dating life of most men. How do you act to the guys you want? Are you on the same level as them?

[spartan55]

That's quite a defeatist mindset.

[Asker]

Unfortunately it’s my situation. I literally model and am thin and young but no guy even wants to have sex with me or anything.

[JustiReno]

dang really thought there be tons of dudes tryna creep on you

[Asker]

@JustiReno yes but they give up really fast

[Iron_Man]

It’s your imagination

[Asker]

No it’s really happening

[Iron_Man]

Post a picture on your next question tag me and I will tell you what I think

[Wise4myage]

Never accept that thought.

[Hanrej]

Don't! Do something about it instead. 😊

[Berethor]

Just accept it.

[jimmy2]

Oh baby you can be in a reationship with you man

[genericname85]

By aiming lower.