Is it a red flag if your s/o doesn’t post you on social media?

[Biancam13]

Would you see it as a red flag? Like they don’t wanna show you off or are keeping you a secret?

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Is it bad if he posted his ex girlfriend but hasn’t posted me? To be fair we’ve only been exclusive for 6 months

[GlassTop]

If they don’t like social media or just never use their real life information, it’s probably because they are smart about not putting themselves online and know the repercussions of getting in trouble in their career for posting things online. However, if they do frequent social media and frequently post online and they haven’t shown you yet, then it could mean they don’t consider you as a serious relationship. Have they introduced you to friends and family yet? If not, then give it more time. If yes, and they still haven’t posted you, then be careful.

[ohshee]

Oh hell no I would reward her for doing that LOL no the kids if I can't trust somebody that I'm not going to be with them that's the bottom line and I don't have to be right in the middle of everything in all of her pictures and all that kind of crap like I said I like to be invisible anyway if she wants me to take pictures with her I will but otherwise I'd rather opt out not unless we're doing something hella fun

[TransAm85]

I guess it depends on ur age range. I only use FB and my husband only uses YouTube. I know he doesn't have the patience for social media and I really don't either. I just go on FB to be nosy about people from high school/college/exes. He looks on YouTube about cars and Bon Jovi/Whitesnake/Santana! lol

[Biancam13]

Thanks. I think it’s different if they don’t have sm and have never posted their relationships. However my boyfriend hasn’t posted me but posted his ex loads

[TransAm85]

Well are you guys kinda new? Some are slow at expressing feelings. Maybe he's still a little uncertain about where things stand between u 2?

[Biancam13]

We’ve been talking for about 8 months and been exclusive for 6 months so not that new? Thank u ☺️💕

[TransAm85]

Oh ur just in the beginning! He'll come around soon enough

[Biancam13]

Thank u ❤️❤️💕

[Anonymous]

Yes in my experience. Guys who were really into me and loved me posted me without me having to ask them or prompt them. If a guy doesn’t post you, it could be that he doesn’t wanna turn off potential other girls or you’re a placeholder until he finds a girl he actually wants

[UniquelyBasic]

What if he doesn't have social media or doesn't use those apps?

[Opinion Owner]

@UniquelyBasic then that’s different. But usually guys who are in happy relationships are keen to post their girlfriend because they wanna show her off

[UniquelyBasic]

Do you believe they post it because they are happy and want to show their partner off or they do it because they feel the need to conform to what is expected of them? Or a little of both?

[Biancam13]

@UniquelyBasic both probably, depending on the individual.

[Opinion Owner]

Seen your update. Seems a been weird that he posted his ex and not you tbh. Maybe give it more time. If it’s been a year and he hasn’t posted you, maybe he’s not that serious about your relationship

[TheMVPofGaG]

Hmm. First 6 months? Not really. And especially from someone who isn't too active on social media.
Now, you see, if it's been a year dating and I've been the only one who has posted a photo of us together, I would see it as a red flag.

[Biancam13]

Thanks girl 💕💕💕

[TheMVPofGaG]

ik its embarrassing TT but maybe talk to him about it? I know you probably think you're overthinking and it would be seen as pessimistic but you and every girl would be thinking the same thing in that situation <3

[Biancam13]

Thank u so much 💕 I will have a chat with him

[TheMVPofGaG]

ofc girl (:

[bowenw]

Some people don't post much. If he posted about previous girlfriends on social media but not you, I'd be worried. If he doesn't post about anyone, there's probably nothing to worry about.

[Biancam13]

He did post about his ex when they were together.. but then again, we’ve only been exclusive for 6 months

[bowenw]

I would hope he would post your photo soon. If not it could be a red flag.

[Biancam13]

Oh dear… I hope so too

[bowenw]

Can you tell how long after he was together with his ex that he posted a photo of her on IG?

[Biancam13]

No not really, I don’t know what year they started dating I try not to ask too much about her 😂

[Biancam13]

Ok I’ve just looked at it was 6 months after they got together :/

[bowenw]

That's a good sign. 👍👍

[Biancam13]

Really? So he posted her after 6 months but hasn’t posted me?

[bowenw]

I mean he didn't post her photo as soon as he met her, he waited for 6 months. I'd be more worried if he posted photos of her right from the start of their relationship. I hope he posts yours soon.

[Biancam13]

Oh yeah I get what you’re saying. Thank you!

[bowenw]

Best of luck to you! 🤗🤗

[UniquelyBasic]

If he's keeping you secret then there's something going on but they dont have to post you on social media to validate your self worth.

[UniquelyBasic]

Did he post her pictures when he was with you? If so then major red flag, the sirens should be going off in your head

[Biancam13]

No they were together before we started dating, way before. Their pictures are still up though but I don’t see that as an issue.

[notwoke]

I'm glad this wasn't around when i was dating. Sounds like another pain in the ass I'm glad I missed out on. I'd gladly pay money to avoid wasting my time on this. Conversely, I'm connected to several folks on linked in that are actually dead. Some of them for years

[Anonymous]

its a red flag depending on the person. Be careful.

[Biancam13]

What does it mean if he posted his ex but hasn’t posted me? She was even his profile picture for a bit.

[Opinion Owner]

That is actually what I mean by depends. Some people just aren't into social media as much but then there are people that posted their ex but not their current. That is a red flag. Happen to me. Didn't end well.

[Biancam13]

What happened to you if u don’t mind me asking?

[jasco]

I mean eh. I rather post my girl when we have been dating for more than a few months. I think a solid year maybe is enough time so that when we do post it. We know were a good match ya know

[Gingerguy33]

Definitely a red flag one of my ex’s was like this I found out she was cheating on me

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'm not the type to post my life events or experiences online. I just don't see the facination with showng off like some weirdo insecure celeb.

[mark000h]

I hope not. I don't use social media so I'd be red flagged.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Social media is a red flag immediately! If this site counts, than fuck.

[exitseven]

I do not know a lot about social media but I guess these days it would be a big deal.

[noohair]

Do you want to be paraded around like a piece of meat?

[Cowboy6666]

Not a big issue to me
also I am single currently :)

[007kingifrit]

it's a red flag to even HAVE social media