Would you date someone who was in the military?

[Truth35]

Yes

No

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I am currently dating someone in the military. To me, he’s just a civilian, he’s just a regular guy… But of course he’s a service member, and my hat goes off to him and I thank him.


Not my first choice of men though, I’m just not really attracted to those who work government authoritarian jobs, and the stereotypes and issues of them happen to be pretty true in my experience. I never really was attracted to those working authoritarian jobs. I’ve seen my uncles and cousins in the military; I saw the divorces, I saw the alcoholism, I saw the hookups, I saw the toxicity, I saw the PTSD, I saw the abuse, I saw the health issues… I saw it all, and it just didn’t want to be a part of it.


I started dating my boyfriend knowing he’s in the military, but he was an oddball of the bunch. He hasn’t drank a sip of alcohol, he doesn’t do hookups, he doesn’t plan to marry in the military (just to get out of the barracks + money), he doesn’t abuse his friends and people he loves. He was different and I gave him a chance, and probably the best decision I’ve made in my life. His buddies in the military on the other hand, they fit the stereotype and are exactly the same as my cousins and uncles who were in the military.

[Truth35]

Wow wow wow... I see why you are heck bent on the question...

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Excuse me? You asked a question, I answered honestly.

[Truth35]

Lol 😆 🤣 I hope you didn't take any offense with that

[BCA6010]

As a veteran, I would urge people looking to date someone in the active military to consider some realities carefully, namely the fact that no matter how "family friendly" any given branch claims to be, they aren't by a longshot. Your spouse/date will likely be working longer hours under greater stress and frustration than most jobs, and in the event of a deployment or even field exercises, will be gone for extended periods. It won't be the picture perfect relationship you want no matter how hard both of you try, and it takes a very committed couple to make it work, which is also why the divorce rate in active duty is significantly higher than the national average.

So that being said, I would be willing to do it, but also knowing the women I did in the military, it's not likely I would be attracted to them in the first place, and most if not all close to my current age are already married.

[Dchrls78104]

No, I would not. A woman with a gun is an unnatural thing in my opinion. Besides, people like that (police, soldiers, or the like) all that much, in my country have the reputation of becoming entitled and disrespectful of others and of abusing their authority.

[Truth35]

Well, I wouldn't want to agree to that because we've got good women out serving the county and people... plus, I wasn't specific about gender because I believe in gender equality 😉

[TwoToTooTutu2]

I am in the Army myself. It would take a phenomenal woman to make me want to date a military chick. If she even is into men that is...

[lofii]

Any girl saying yes is definitely taking dick while you stationed in a land far far away

[Truth35]

Give reasons

[lofii]

Girls need dick. There's plenty of stories of men in the military and their wives fucking civilians back home

[Blackcupcake]

WAS? yes…
IS? not sure…

[Truth35]

"IS? Not sure"

Why?

[Blackcupcake]

because it’s dangerous and I don’t want to have to worry about his life and safety every time he goes to work

[Truth35]

😆 🤣 😂 😹 😆 🤣

[SaoirseS]

Yes.

[Truth35]

Tell me more why you would

[SaoirseS]

Because there’s no reason not to, especially since I’m in the Army National Guard myself, at least for two more months.

[Truth35]

Oh we've got a honest and good woman serving right here 👏 I really like that