How come he treats me like I'm so worthless?

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He seem to be embrassed with me and made out every other girl was such more valuable. He would easily dump me if dome girl gave him attention.

I have a lot to offer I have my own apartment in the city and I'm building my career in marketing. I'm really easy going and don't judge people. I love to take off on adventures and go hiking. I'm no longer speaking to this one particular guy but it completely made me question myself.

HighValue · Accepted Answer

Building a career means nothing to most guys as far as their interest in you goes. You having an acceptable past, compatible morals, compatible long term life goals, and some things in common that you both enjoy doing matters a lot more if you are looking for someone for something serious and long term.

Those are usually the reasons why I disqualify most people is because they aren't compatible in one or more of those areas I just listed. If a girl has a good career making $50k plus per year, that means no more to me than if she was working part time somewhere making less than $10k per year. I look for a good compatible long term partner to create and raise a family with.

If he was concerned with popularity on social media, etc. then his priorities in life are messed up. He is too immature to have a good relationship. Don't waste your time on someone like that.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Not only does it sound like you have a nice personality and a lot to offer, but your face is really pretty, you have nice skin, and I LOVE the color and texture of you hair. NEVER dye your hair! I can't see how fit you are, but obviously you aren't obese or anything. If you ARE reasonably fit, I'd say were were a rare catch with beauty, brains, ambition, and personality.

You know what? Fuck that guy. He's a dick. You demonstrated brains by dumping him. Some people are ass holes.

Walk tall like a boss and don't let this get to you.

dorksided1 · Accepted Answer

No matter guys or girls a lot of us have been in this position, but don't ever question yourself. The right man will find their way to you, while this little boy will be twiddling his thumbs somewhere by himself

desidoll · Accepted Answer

Your guy is mentally abusive and you are letting him to control your mind. He is manipulating you to make you think that you are less and can’t do any better. You better leave.

SamIam96 · Answer

It sounds like you have your act together. You're cute. Work is good. So is your living situation. You had a bad relationship. You're smart enough to have fixed that. Don't look back. You've learned something that will help you if you find yourself in a similar situation. It sounds like he was a jerk. Most men are better than he was.

Oh, to answer your question. He's projecting. He feels worthless.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I wouldn’t worry about what or why he thinks the way he does. He is obviously a narcissist and a douche-canoe. If someone isn’t going to treat you with basic respect remove them from your life, as you did.

RealMarek · Answer

Not all men, or women for that matter, are kind. Some are jerks. Some love manipulating people. I was with someone who made me feel badly about myself for no reason. Don’t listen to this guy. You’re a good looking woman for sure and it sounds as if you have your act together. Try to discard his nonsense and, when you’re ready, find a better man.

exitseven · Answer

Some guys are just jerks. I have known plenty of guys that have told me the most disgusting things about their girlfriends. It really pisses me off.
You are probably a very nice girl and there are a lot of reasons that I guy would be lucky to be with you. Just dump this guy.

Iftikar · Answer

Seems like u love the person but if does not understand it there's no point of loving the person. I know loving or hating someone can't be decided but it's better to understand that he might treat u as silver but for someone u will be nothing less than diamond. So keep calm and realise u r special and one of a being

Sam_The_Savage · Answer

You're beautiful. You're gorgeous. You're independent. You're successful. You're gold babe. Don't take stress just bkoz few assholes doesn't see your value. Move on & smile.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Probably just because he's a self-centered asshole that doesn't deserve a pretty girl like you! Sadly, that DOES seem to be what girls go after!

maverick2022 · Answer

Having money and your own place isn't necessarily valuable if you don't have a nice personality. You may be doing something wrong or it may be the case that he just doesn't value you. I wouldn't take the opinion of a bunch of random simps online that know nothing about you as fact.

jshm2 · Answer

Because you're not.  He probably wants you to be a meek wifey, but you're better than that.

Makeushiver · Answer

Well i THINK YOU ARE AS HOT AS HLL. LOVE YOUR HAIR COLOR AND I'D BE THRILLED IF THE CARPET MATCHED THE DRAPES. gUYS DO THAT KIND OF SHIT WHEN THEY ARE INSECURE. iF YOU LIVED NEAR ME i'D LOVE TO COMFORT YOU

Creampiekarl420 · Answer

Men don’t care about your job or money you’re an adult you should have your own place it’s not a flex

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

Don't question yourself. You should be questioning his behavior. Because a decent human does not do what he does! You dealt with a textbook sack of shite! <3

Imsmurter1 · Answer

Hello Scottish girl I think you are nice and mature. Can you rate my appearance please?   and please don't be mean just for the sake of being mean. Thanks :)

Chthou95 · Answer

The dude has options and he's exercising those options. That's life. You're not gonna always get what you want. Stop complaining

qwert1234 · Answer

You may not like the answer.. but it's because you let him.
You confront him, ask him why he treats you this way, tell him you don't like being treated this way. If he still does it, leave.

You don't need this kind of person in your life.

ImNoOne111 · Answer

I can't think of anything good he could be up to. If thats you in the picture, you look fine and your description of yourself sounds fine to me too so I can't understand why you question yourself

malek123 · Answer

Some men do that if they take you for granted... Have other exercises to do without him... Enjoy your life...
You look pretty and since you have a lot to offer then this is really the only thing i can think of...
It could be all him though

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Stop chasing Chad Thundercock and you life will quickly improve... crazy, I know.

OnyxianGhostsLove · Answer

He sounds pathetic why waste your time with him?

megabamse · Answer

Know your worth. Never accept anything less. Dump him and live your life to the fullest til you one day stumble over someone that add something to your life.

oh_k789 · Answer

"He seem to be embrassed with me and made out every other girl was such more valuable" Can you write that right? As it is, I can't grasp the meaning.

VikingWarLord · Answer

Get on the naughty section of Reddit or OnlyFans, you'll have a thousand times a thousand dudes all clamoring to worship your feet.

ChiTownLov · Answer

Don't let others actions or words steer you from who you are or who you are trying to build yourself as.

SnakeBoop · Answer

So why you dating him?

Anonymous · Answer

The better question would be "why did you choose him"? I'm always amused by the women that come on G@G and complain about the horrible treatment they receive from a guy that SHE CHOSE.

OddBeMe · Answer

Sorry to say this is on you for picking the guy. Choose better.

Cowboy6666 · Answer

I think you are pretty lady and deserve a better guy. !!

clemdenim · Answer

j bet he felt you are more successful than him, tried to bring you down, very shallow of him

Baylist1000 · Answer

He's a jerk. You deserve way better than him

Xtendable · Answer

Who is he to you?

UpdateGloomyNights_ · Answer

He is stupid

How come he treats me like I'm so worthless?

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