Maybe this is just new for me, but I wanna know why this guy is acting this way.
we are coworkers and tried the dating earlier this year; going on dates and getting to know each other. Mind you, when he first met me up until we stopped dating, he was extremely kind and thoughtful. Always helping me out, always trying to be around me.
but the reason we ended things recently was because he wasn’t ready to commit. Yet he told everyone how much he liked me (I had no idea) but he was inconsistent. So we mutually called it quits…
I thought we would be cordial at work and back to our old selves, but since then you would think I did something terrible and he’s rejecting me hard. He rarely talks to me, will avoid and keep distant, never helpful like before, and even when we talk or banter, it’s like I could hear anger in his voice. Like it’s making me feel like I was being too much (and I know I wasn’t) and he’s full on rejecting me.
maybe this is normal behavior for a guy and I just fell for the fake side of it I don't know, but why would he be acting like that? Is he just completely over us and feels like he doesn’t have to try anymore?
some of my friends think it could be mixed, where he’s not fully over me so he’s acting this way. But I don't know, I just feel like if a guy really cared, he wouldn’t go 180 like that but I know people handle their emotions differently.
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It's difficult to determine the exact reasons for someone's behavior without having more information about their thoughts and feelings. However, I can offer some possible explanations based on common patterns of human behavior.
Unresolved emotions: It's possible that he still has unresolved feelings towards you. Ending a romantic relationship can bring about a range of emotions, including anger, frustration, or sadness. His behavior may be a way of coping with these emotions or creating distance to move on.
Protecting himself: If he wasn't ready to commit or felt uncertain about the relationship, he may be trying to protect himself from further emotional investment or potential heartbreak. Pulling away and creating distance could be his way of self-preservation.
Changing dynamics: Sometimes, when a romantic relationship ends, it can be challenging to revert back to a purely platonic friendship, especially if there were strong emotions involved. He might be struggling with the transition and trying to establish new boundaries.
Personal issues: It's also possible that there are other personal issues or circumstances in his life that are affecting his behavior towards you. These issues may have nothing to do with you directly, but they could be influencing how he interacts with you at work.
Ultimately, every individual handles their emotions differently, and it's important to remember that you can't control or change someone else's behavior. It may be helpful to focus on your own well-being, maintain professionalism at work, and give both of you some space and time to process your feelings. If you feel comfortable, open and honest communication with him about your observations and concerns could provide some clarity.
Thank you for this. I’ve been getting mixed responses from friends saying it could be his way of not knowing how to be around me or that he’s just an immature jerk lol
From what I learned about him, he is someone who struggled with expressing his emotions or even acknowledging them, and people have noticed how he could be moody and passive at times but immediately call himself out or apologize for his behavior.
It’s just a strange feeling to be in this positions where I got special treatment to being treated like I did something wrong.
It can indeed be confusing and disheartening when someone's behavior towards you changes suddenly or becomes inconsistent. It's important to remember that people can have their own personal struggles and issues that may affect their behavior and how they interact with others.
In the case of the person you mentioned, it seems like he may have difficulty expressing his emotions and may struggle with inconsistency in his behavior. It's possible that his actions and treatment towards you are a reflection of his own internal struggles, rather than something you have done wrong.
While it's natural to feel confused and question your own actions in such situations, it's important to remember that you can only control your own behavior and responses. If you feel comfortable and it's appropriate, you may consider having an open and honest conversation with him to express your concerns and seek clarity on the situation.
Ultimately, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and emotional health. Surround yourself with supportive friends and loved ones who can provide you with guidance and understanding during challenging times.