Is emotional gratification a more valid "need" than sexual gratification?

[Anonymous]

In a relationship, is emotional gratification a more valid "need" than sexual gratification?

[Berethor]

For men a sexual gratification tend to be more important than emotional gratification.

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[Asker]

Agreed, but I would argue that for men sexual gratification is an important part of their emotional needs and health.

[Chloesuzume]

Depends on who you are dealing with
If that person didn't have any supportive figures in their life the emotional gratification means a lot of them.
Otherwise maybe not

[jennifer_bloom]

The bible says you wait until marriage for sexual gratification, it does not say you cannot have sex, it says loving and non abusive sex is possible after marriage.

[Asker]

The bible is a work of fiction and has no relevance in this question.

[HighValue]

@Asker You show your ignorance and hatred by your response.

[Asker]

@HighValue My response came from a position of facts, not ignorance. There was no hatred behind it at all. It's rather telling that you as a Christian would even go there.

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s a balance, one doesn’t take the priority over the other. If both partners give to the other then all their needs are met.

[Asker]

You completely miss the point of the question, but thanks for trying.

[BarryLiverstone]

Please let me know the point. You are asking a question so you don’t know the answer right?

[Asker]

Like most people who ask questions on GAG, I know my opinions and I'm looking for the opinions of others.

The point is that women say men "use" them to meet their sexual needs, bit women also "use" men to meet their own emotional needs. I believe both are equally valid needs, but men tend to be judged much more harshly for their needs than women are.

[BarryLiverstone]

There are bad actors on both sides, can’t eliminate the world of selfish people. If you see more examples of men being judged for their bad behavior it’s a numbers thing. The reality is people should be more mature and not let others use them

[Asker]

Still doesn't acknowledge or address the underlying issue, but thanks for trying again.

[BarryLiverstone]

What’s the underlying issue? Are you blaming women for something

[Asker]

I'm not blaming you for anything other than being a woman who is pretending to be a man on the internet.

[BarryLiverstone]

Bad decision to blame me for that

[Asker]

You consistently do a poor job of hiding the fact that you were born with a vagina.

[BarryLiverstone]

Do you expect me to feel offended or in some way debate you? I’m curious what you would like other than attention

[Asker]

I don't care what you feel and I couldn't care less about your attention. But I will always call out a liar when I see one, and you lie every time you post on GAG with a blue account..

[BarryLiverstone]

I do? How can you be sure? I mean if you have seen all my answers I’m curious why you believe I’m a woman. You can see that I’m using my gag account while you are hiding as an anon

[Asker]

The anon thing is something users always bring up when they are fresh out of facts, and it's ironic someone who is lying about her identity would criticize someone who isn't. But whatever, "bro".

I have read hundreds of your posts and you consistently view things from a female perspective and show an utter lack of understanding of any male experience in life. Your questions and responses clearly come from a very gynocentric angle. It's painfully obvious to anyone paying attention that you are a woman.

[BarryLiverstone]

Wow, you seem to be obsessed with me. Hundreds of my posts? I mean that’s a lot. I wonder what I did to draw such attention. That must mean we have interacted on here before. It’s interesting that you seem to see it as men vs women when that’s not reality. But it may give a clue into your relationship with your mom and I’m sorry that’s not someone you love

[Asker]

My mom and I get along great, always have. Same with my dad. They both taught me about the importance of being genuine and honest, lessons your parents clearly failed at instilling in their daughter.

I don't pay any more attention to you than anyone else. I've been a member on GAG for a lot of years and have read a lot of posts, and with some users it's very clear they are not the gender they pretend to be. There are a lot of males here with pink accounts, and they are always easy to spot. There are also a lot of females with blue accounts, and they are equally easy to identify. There are several regular users here who fall into that category and you are one of them. If you think there are no clear distinctions between male and female perspectives on certain topics then you are a fool, and a dishonest one at that.

And no, you and I have never interacted before now.

[BarryLiverstone]

Of course men and women are dif:

We have more testosterone while they have more estrogen

We are more into sports while they are more into shopping

We often default to logic and facts while they are more into emotions and feelings

We are often more right politically and they are often more left

We are more visual while they rely on other senses more

They often feel fear and guilt while we are able to better at approaching someone

We usually try to fix things when we sense something is wrong while they prefer to vent and want to be validated.

Should I go on?

[BarryLiverstone]

We both have great parents then.. many people here don’t sadly

[Asker]

Nice list, "dude". Did you copy/paste it from your Cosmopolitan magazine? Lol

As I've said, I've read hundreds of your posts so your lists won't change anything. You can parrot all the talking points you want but it will not change the fact that you've shown yourself to be a woman here time after time.

Have a nice weekend.

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope was from the top of my head. I actually don’t believe you when you say this is the first time we have interacted. That means for a year you have been reading my hundreds of posts and have never bothered to reply. If that’s actually the truth that’s hella creepy. Do you also creep on others?

[Asker]

How exactly is reading questions and responses on GAG without wasting time replying to people pretending to be someone they're not "creepy"? This is the first time you've responded to one of my questions and the first time I felt compelled to call out your dishonesty. Nothing creepy about that. All you've done here is confirm what has always been apparent anyway. I won't waste time with you again. But I will leave this exchange here for others to see so they can pay attention to your posts going forward and recognize you for who you are.

[BarryLiverstone]

Because it’s not a waste of time to reply and answer questions on this community. People are here to get help and if you don’t answer them and only ask questions you are not being an active member.

I understand you feel the need to gaslight me and also understand anyone can read my answers. I don’t go anon. I am not perfect. You were able to read my hundreds of answers because I am not anon and because I am open with how I feel.

[HighValue]

It depends on the person. Some people need emotional gratification more and others need sexual gratification more. I personally need the emotional part more.

[In_Trance]

sometimes, but not always

[Asker]

Can you elaborate?

[In_Trance]

Sure, what do you need elaborated?

[Asker]

Never mind