Have you ever done the hotel thing?

[lilyanony1]

Meet a guy, go on a few dates together...
You both decide you like each other and then you decide to go to a hotel.

Is that good or weird for a first time encounter?

[ohshee]

No I've never done that. I would rather just go to my house or hers

But i have been in relationships and some week e ds I just want to get away from my house be cause friends my brother any one I might know some how think they live there lol and always wa t to be there and I can say hey dont plan on coming over because I won't
answer the door it's my me time my quiet time so my girlfriend and I we would go to a motel or a hotel casino hotel or a hot sexy Motel it had corn and all that crap and just have quiet time LOL

[Ray1980]

Many times. I never bring a date back home, always a friends house or hotel. I have my reasons. I take care of my mom & I haven't met a girl I liked enough to marry yet; if I brought one back home she would go nuts thinking of marriage & grand kids.

There's also that "lives at home with mommy" perception even though it's actually the reverse. I will say that the one I do eventually bring back home will be the one I marry. That's not something I would consider lightly AT ALL.

[DizzyDesii]

Sounds like a one night stand... nah. I personally dont think i’d even be comfortable having sex in a hotel bed. Now against a hotel window, maybe... just not a one night stand

[lilyanony1]

What if you were dating someone you really liked?
Wouldn't you be a little shy about bringing them back to your home?
Like you'd want things to be just right, but in somewhere neutral, there's no real judgement since its neither person's place?

[DizzyDesii]

Nah i invite people over easily. I used to throw video game tournaments in HS and college so my house stayed packed. I keep people in the main living room, not throughout private portions of the house. I wouldn't sleep with someone until almost a year or so in, so they’d be well used to the livingroom as a guest long before they reached my bedroom as a boyfriend

[lilyanony1]

Fair enough... I must be doing something wrong then... Maybe I'm just too eager to test the goods!
Oh well each to their own

[DizzyDesii]

Its up to you how soon you want to sleep with someone but i just couldnt do it in a hotel. I could see a murder happening there before it happened at home. You jnow your house better than anyone and could easily defend yourself. But anytime i invite someone over even just to hangout, i always bring a friend and whoever theyre dating. It feels safer to be in pairs when it comes to first time dating. Odd for me to say though because i like traveling out of state alone. But if its a first date, i want another couple there too

[WhitneySnow]

My older cousin did that. She said it really brought her and the guy closer together.

[Methis]

I met a girl when I was traveling in Europe. We hit things off well and we knew our paths had us on many of thr same cities at the same time. We set up a game where we would meet at a Cafe or museum, one of us would slip the other (as spy like as possible) a spare hotel key and address normally it was who ever had the nicer place. The other person would then "invite themselves" to sneak into the other persons hotel without others knowing for a little fun. I think by the end of the 2 months I had 3 of her keywords and she had 8 of mine (she was on trip with her extended family so sneaking into my bed was safer).

[exitseven]

I went to the beach with a girl and we decided that we wanted to stay the night so we went and got a motel room. It really was awesome.

[lilyanony1]

That's sweet, was it a one off or?

[exitseven]

It was the only time we stayed in a motel but we dated for 5 or 6 months.

[lilyanony1]

That's really sweet

[Aerissa_Jade]

To me the first time is always awkward and weird but at the same time a bit fun with a new person.

Do that enough times though and it does get old, then I'd rather just be with the same person.

[krin_m]

When I was dating, I did it quite often but only after a few lunch/coffee dates.
At least I did not think it was weird. Kind of neutral territory for both of us.

[lilyanony1]

Yea I understand...
I dunno how to really go about inviting someone back to mine straight away.
Personally I'm weary of "guests".
Neutral territory is a good thing.
There's no expectations or preconceptions about each other...
Yea you're going for a good time but both can really relax since noone else knows you

[menina]

I'm not sure if that's something I would do. And I've never done it.

[bowenw]

I have a couple of times. It's not weird unless you think it is. It's a good way to get to know someone.

[Lurkergao]

i wouldn't worry about it. i have never done that, but i dont think you guys are hurting anybody.

[soe11]

I think it's a positive thing, I did as second time with girlfriend.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I never did this but I met a girl off the telephone chatline who turned out to be a nightmare so nowadays I watch who I communicate with and I never went to a hotel with her or plan to go to one in the future

[Jerre]

Nothing weird about it if you are sexually attracted to each other. But instead of a hotel, we go to my house, usually after the first date. Real god fucking.

[lilyanony1]

Personally, I don't think a lot of men have the same issues, worrying about women although I do think strangeness is on the increase

[TrueConfection]

No, but why a hotel instead of your place or his?

[lilyanony1]

I dunno you gotta be sure who you're bringing back to your home

[TrueConfection]

I would need to be sure who I was giving myself to first.

[lilyanony1]

I'm sure there's nothing wrong with the person... But equally how many dates is enough to ensure they're right?

[TrueConfection]

I don't think there is a magic number. It depends on both people.

[lilyanony1]

Agreed, I also don't want to bring another person back to mine, without being sure I'm happy with them... Since it's my home yet again

[TrueConfection]

I get that. But would you go to a hotel with someone before you're sure you're happy with them?

[lilyanony1]

No, but I'm also aware that in some cases some guys get a comfortable or the wrong idea. Based upon the fact that I live alone. It becomes a "go to" for everything.
That's not a bad thing If they're genuine but it's also not a good thing if they're focused on chasing skirt.
Some people are good at being on good behaviour until they get what they want.
We're no longer in the 1940s where people ask for your hand in marriage before doing the deed...
I will know his intentions clearly after the encounter.

[TrueConfection]

That sounds like a dreadful way of getting to know a man's intentions. I'm happy in my 1940s bubble.

[lilyanony1]

Perhaps but I'd rather not bring him back to mine.
Have my nosey neighbours, see him come in as a one off and leave.
Have him in my safe place and disrespect me...
Neutral territory is a good starting point.
Less pressure for both of us.

[scooogy]

"You both decide you like each other"... is that a new version of a girl saying "I know he likes me"?

[lilyanony1]

No that's, you have both decided you like each other!

[one1wild00]

good, but I much prefer the outdoor camping sex experience.

[lilyanony1]

Let's hope you meet the kind of girl thats into that! 👍🏾

[Cowboy6666]

I would visit her house instead.
I have never done that thing.

[lilyanony1]

Well unless you're invited you kinda gotta wait!

[Cowboy6666]

Oh lol I forget that.
If she doesn't invite me, I would invite her at my home, if we really love each other.

[lilyanony1]

How soon after dating... I must admit since my late 20s and after the pandemic I've been way more cautious around guys. I didn't expect the level of domestic violence. Consequently its made me apprehensive about dating and meeting up with people especially not in public places

[Cowboy6666]

I would say at least 3 to 4 months of dating with her and if we both trust and feel comfortable with each other. I can understand your concern though. 😊

[lilyanony1]

I understand I was too eager then

[Cowboy6666]

How long you decide him to meet?

[lilyanony1]

Well we've been meeting consistently 2x a week for about 2 months now

[Cowboy6666]

Still I would wait for around 4 months If I were meeting you :)

[lilyanony1]

OK I do better next time

[Cowboy6666]

Its alright, I won't judge you, friend :)

[lilyanony1]

Well each to their own...
I was comfortable with him where as I've been around others and I'm less comfortable with them

[Cowboy6666]

Yep I can understand you 😊

[Guardian45]

It's fine. If it's ALL time, then I'm asking why?

[lilyanony1]

Nah I can only say that it's an option.
It's just a thought

[Minahh]

Since I've heard too much true crime stories no I wouldn't do that

[zagor]

Yeah, but I was already staying at the hotel.

[legalboxers]

did it many times. worked out well

[Zygum]

Not weird at all, go to hotel, hire room and enjoy

[Anonymous]

That’s what hookers do.

[lilyanony1]

Not all... Some women enjoy meeting the man they're dating somewhere new for a different experience... Same four walls can get boring!

[eagle1951]

only with my late wife

[sheikalana]

Is not weird at all.

[Massageman]

No I haven't

[AlwaysBelieving]

Nope.

[Adogdog]

I have not.

[Anonymous]

No I have never gotten a prostitute

[lilyanony1]

Who said anything about a prostitute! Ugh!